In the wisdom bag of "Zengguang Xianwen", there is such a sobering saying: "Small amount is not a gentleman, and no husband is excessive." ”
This sentence has a profound meaning, it tells us that those who do not have a broad mind cannot truly be called a gentleman, and those who lack tolerance and grace cannot be called a husband.
The depth and breadth of a person's mind directly demarcate the altitude of his life and the vast boundaries that he can reach. Only people with ambitions and tolerance of all things can climb the pinnacle of life and reach the ideal distance.
A truly wise man not only has the insight into the world, but also has the endurance and tolerance beyond ordinary people. They are based on a grand pattern, with profound instruments as the beam, supplemented by a strong personality charm and aura, like a pillar in the middle, which is admirable.
The law of the world is often like this: the weak are prone to impatience, while the strong attract attention with their broad minds. For those who have great ambitions and extraordinary strength, success is not an unattainable dream for them, but a matter of time.
The weak are angry
Caigen Tan mentions: "A person with an impatient personality is like a blazing flame, and it is easy to burn when he encounters things. ”
Those who are impatient and irritable are like raging fires, and when they encounter something undesirable, they will explode in an instant, not only hurting others, but also bringing losses to themselves.
When a person is incapacitated, he is more likely to be influenced by the outside world, caught in the whirlpool of emotions and unable to extricate himself, and it is difficult to save himself. As Flecher put it, "Anger and melancholy not only make people depressed, they can also lead to death." This reminds me of the story of Li Guang pulling out a knife and killing himself.
Li Guang was tried for defeat and lived in Lantian for eight years. One day, he was invited to a party that didn't end until midnight. At that time, the Han Dynasty had strict curfews and it was not allowed to walk outside at night.
Therefore, Li Guang and his entourage were intercepted by Baling Lieutenant when they passed through Baling Pavilion and were not allowed to pass. Li Guang's entourage immediately scolded: "Do you know who you are stopping? This is a former general! ”
After hearing this, Captain Baling, who had drunk wine, became even bolder: "Even the current general can't pass at night, let alone the former general!" "Everyone had no choice but to stay up all night under the Baling Pavilion and leave the next day.
Soon after, the border was in an emergency, and Li Guang was reactivated. He asked to transfer Baling Wei to his subordinates, and Emperor Wu of Han agreed. However, as soon as Captain Baling arrived at Li Guang's army, he was executed by Li Guang's order.
This move made Emperor Wu of Han very dissatisfied. In the Zhuangzi Gengsang Chu, it is mentioned that "respect others without being happy, and insulting others without feeling angry." ”
That's the best mindset. Baling Wei's handling of Li Guang was official, and even if there was something inappropriate, Li Guang should not declare a personal vendetta and kill him. A narrow-minded person who cannot tolerate others is destined not to achieve much. Li Guang fought on the battlefield all his life, but he never became a marquis.
In the end, in the decisive battle with the Xiongnu Shan Yu, he lost his way and missed the fighter. He knew that he could not escape the blame, and he could not protect his night, so he wielded a knife and killed himself in shame. Who would have thought that this flying general, who galloped across the field, would finally die under his own sword.
It is never others who defeat oneself, but oneself. All people's suffering stems from anger at their own inadequacy; Use your temper to cover up your incompetence when you encounter problems, and the problems will only get worse.
Weak people are prone to anger, unable to stay calm when encountering things, easily losing their minds, and being unforgiving.
If a person always lets their emotions dominate their life, then the situation will become more serious and life will get out of control.
The strong are numerous
In the classical masterpiece "Water Margin", there is such a philosophical aphorism: "The amount is great and the blessing is great, and the opportunity is deep and the disaster is also deep." The implication is that those who are broad-minded tend to accumulate profound well-being, while those who are too deep in the city government are prone to major disasters.
People with grand magnificence, like a majestic mountain, have won the admiration of the world with their incomparable tolerance and generous attitude.
They are more inclined to devote their precious time to self-improvement and improvement, not to be entangled with juniors, not to be swayed by mood swings, and not to be controlled by emotions.
Dating back to the early years of the Western Han Dynasty, Han Anguo was a loyal and open-minded minister, with both talent and strategy. He was imprisoned in the Mengxian County Prison for political disputes.
The jailer Tian Jia has a bad character, is accustomed to bullying others, and when he saw Han Anguo lose power, he was even more arrogant and domineering, and did his best to insult people.
Tian Jia mocked Han Anguo: "Now you are just a pile of worthless ashes. However, Han Anguo took it calmly and responded indifferently: "Why can't you take a long-term view?" Do you know that the ashes cannot be revived? Tian Jia arrogantly said: "Even if it rekindles, I can easily extinguish it with a soak of urine." ”
Not long after, Han Anguo was reactivated by the imperial court and appointed as the domestic history of Liang, and he jumped from a prisoner to a prominent **. Tian Jia fled in panic after hearing the news, and finally begged Han Anguo for forgiveness.
Facing Tian Jia, who knelt on the ground and pleaded guilty, Han Anguo said calmly: "You can fulfill your promise, but I don't bother to pursue you." In the end, Han Anguo not only pardoned Tian Jia, but also reinstated him as an official, and always treated him with kindness.
Wise men walk in the world, knowing well the truth of being strict with themselves and being lenient with others, and they will never rely on power to oppress others, nor will they bully the weak.
The more wise and knowledgeable a person is, the more he can perceive the changes in the world, practice human emotions, face life with a tolerant and peaceful attitude, devote his limited time to meaningful things, and spend every day with optimism and open-mindedness.
As the saying goes, "Only by tolerating the shortcomings of villains can we show the demeanor of a gentleman." This wise maxim shows that the wider your heart receives, the more people will be who will treat you with sincerity and sincerity.
The true strong man has a bearing as vast as the rivers and seas, and the mind of the wise man is as deep as the abyss. They are often good at controlling their own emotions, facing the world with an open-minded and tolerant attitude, and calmly dealing with various challenges.
They know that only through unremitting efforts and self-cultivation can they create an excellent life, so as to achieve a gentleman's demeanor in the tempering of the years.
Mr. Nan Huaijin once profoundly elaborated: "The broad-mindedness of the mind directly affects the depth of the blessing. "On the long road of life, the transparency and open-mindedness of the temperament and the vastness of the mind are very important.
How to control and defuse anger is the key dividing line to measure the strength of a person's inner strength. If we are narrow-minded, trivial things tend to accumulate in our hearts, breed scheming, and fill our lives with troubles and pains.
On the contrary, if the mind is as open-minded as the sea, the troubles will naturally dissolve into the invisible, and blessings will come quietly, so that life will be filled with colorful warmth and taste.
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Life is short, may you and I always have a sense of tolerance for the rest of our lives, contain a gentle breath, explore the true meaning of happiness in hardship, live peacefully in happiness, and calmly face the bits and pieces of life.
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