During the Spring Festival, this is a good time for families to reunite and reunite, and relatives to visit each other and express their heartfelt feelings to each other. But in recent years, people have noticed a strange phenomenon: young people seem to be less and less interested in this traditional custom, preferring to stay at home, spend time with their mobile phones and computers, or find some like-minded people to form various "partners" rather than visit relatives who have not been seen for a long time.
Do you know? Survey data tells us that most of the post-90s young people aged 26-30 only have "occasional contact with relatives". What does this mean? It means that they are becoming less and more distant from their relatives.
I have to say that now everyone really rarely goes to relatives. Some young people are reluctant to return to their hometowns even for the Chinese New Year, so they choose to spend the New Year at their place of work. And those who choose to go back to their hometowns to visit relatives for the New Year are becoming more and more like a rush and performance, as if they are just going through the motions. This phenomenon of reduced contact between relatives, less movement, or even no more movement at all is called "severance".
Netizens also gave reasons why they chose to "break off their relatives". Some people say: "Now that the work pressure is so high, how can I have time to visit relatives?" Others said, "I don't feel like I have anything to talk about with my relatives, and I just sit awkwardly when I go." Some people even said: "I think the relationship between relatives is becoming more and more utilitarian now, and everyone only cares about whether you have money and whether you have a house, which is really boring." ”
Of course, some people said that it is not that they are reluctant to move around with their relatives, but that they have too little free time, and if they have more leisure time, they are willing to contact their relatives more.
Hearing these reasons, I couldn't help but fall into deep thought. Do we really want to allow this phenomenon of "disconnection" to continue to spread? Are we really willing to let this traditional family relationship fade away from our lives?
I don't think we can do that. Although life is fast-paced now, we should not ignore the relatives who have accompanied us to grow up, give us love and support. They are an indispensable part of our lives, and we cannot easily give up our connection with them because of some external factors.
Of course, we can also understand the distress and helplessness of young people, who do face a lot of pressure and challenges. However, we must not let this stop us from giving up the precious things of family and friendship. We can try to adjust our mentality and methods, such as using holidays or weekends to visit relatives, or keep in touch with them through **, WeChat, etc.
At the same time, we also need to reflect on whether we have gone wrong. Do we expect too much from our relatives and hope that they will give us more support and help? Or is it because we ourselves are not actively maintaining these relationships, causing them to drift apart?
The phenomenon of "disconnection" does not bode well. It can cause us to lose a lot of precious things, such as affection, friendship, and memories. Therefore, we should cherish these relationships and strive to maintain and manage them. Don't let busyness and stress become an excuse for us to give up our family affection, let us use our actions to tell those who care about us: we have always cared about them, we have been missing them.
No matter how far we go, no matter what difficulties and challenges we encounter, we must not forget those relatives who have accompanied us to grow up and given us love and support. They are one of the most precious treasures in our lives, and we should cherish and protect this precious emotional bond with our hearts.
I'd rather find a partner than go to relatives