"Can't you move? "The in-laws' family of 3 sat and waited for dinner, and the women didn't ** for 1 week, so they moved away
Ge Juan has always been worried that her words and actions will be criticized, especially that she may cause problems for her parents' reputation, because her parents have been very strict teachers since she was a child.
Since I was a child, my parents have very high requirements for me, a lot of rules, such as sitting and standing, waiting for people to hold chopsticks when eating, not moving chopsticks before the elders move the chopsticks, prohibiting pickpocketing, and speaking civilly. As long as I say dirty words in my mouth, my mom will keep a straight face. ”
Under such a family upbringing, Ge Juan has always been an obedient girl, a good child in the eyes of her elders and teachers, and at home she is known as "someone else's child". The only time she was angry was because of a lifelong event.
My parents said that although my husband looks good, very motivated, and honest, his parents are terrible, partial, and always give money to the younger son, and the older son loses his temper when he asks for money. My mom knew a lot about it after a little inquiry, and their family's reputation in their hometown was not very good, saying that his mother often quarreled with vendors for a few cents, and was greedy for small gains. If I marry him, it will be very uncomfortable. ”
However, Ge Juan was reluctant to leave her beloved, so she had a stalemate with her parents for a year. In the end, in order for the marriage to go smoothly, the parents reluctantly agreed to this family affair.
A year ago, Ge Juan married her husband. At her request and with the help of her parents, they moved to the provincial capital and made their home there. At first, life was quite peaceful, however, as the younger brother-in-law graduated from college and planned to stay in the provincial capital, and her in-laws followed, Ge Juan realized that her parents' warnings were reasonable.
After graduating, the brother-in-law moved directly to his brother-in-law's house. He said that the job he was looking for did not provide a dormitory, the salary during the internship period was low, and he couldn't afford to pay the rent, so he asked to live in his sister-in-law's house temporarily, and then rent a house by himself after the internship period was over and the salary was **.
The house we bought was not big, only two bedrooms, less than seventy square meters. When he first bought the house, his parents kept crying poor, saying that they had no money, and we had limited money, and they were embarrassed to ask my parents for more, so they had to choose a smaller house. That room was purchased for the future child. ”
In addition to feeling a little inconvenient, Ge Juan also has a vague feeling that it is easy to invite someone, but it is difficult to give it away. Once the brother-in-law moved into the house, it was not so easy to get him to move out.
However, Ge Juan's husband habitually helped his younger brother and frequently praised him. Eventually, the brother-in-law moved into the house. As Ge Juan expected, the little uncle has lived at home for a whole year, has officially moved in, and his income has increased to four or five thousand. Although it was enough to afford the rent, the uncle never mentioned the intention of moving out.
Ge Juan expressed her hope to her husband many times, hoping that he would find a chance to talk to her younger brother, but Ge Juan's husband was embarrassed to urge his younger brother to move out because he was the elder brother. He thought that his younger brother should be allowed to rent a house by himself, and refused to come forward. And Ge Juan, because of her upbringing, couldn't talk to her uncle directly, and felt very angry and helpless.
Just when Ge Juan was worried about how to properly arrange for her brother-in-law to leave, on the eve of the Mid-Autumn Festival, her in-laws suddenly visited her son in the name of visiting her, which made Ge Juan even more headache.
They don't have their own room, so they can only live in the living room and sleep directly on the sofa. The living room is full of their stuff and I think they want to live there permanently! ”
What made Ge Juan even more unbearable was that her in-laws and brother-in-law not only moved into the house, but also showed double standards. When they unceremoniously unceremoniously unpacked the snacks, yogurt, and fruits that Ge Juan had bought, they were not polite at all, and they did not regard themselves as outsiders at all. However, when it was time to do the housework, they considered themselves guests and naturally refused to do the housework, waiting for Ge Juan to prepare the meal. After eating, the brother-in-law played games, the father-in-law sang, and the mother-in-law watched TV, leaving a messy table of cups and plates to wait for Ge Juan to clean up.
I was mad, but my husband didn't want to come forward, my brother couldn't solve it, and my parents couldn't help. I was so blind that I could fall in love with him. Just when I was worried, my girlfriend learned about the situation and gave me some advice. ”
Don't you know how to cook? If you want to eat, you have to make it yourself! Guest? Is there anyone who is always at the host's house and refuses to leave? I'll tell you, as long as you stay in this house for a day, I won't go to the kitchen again. ”
After listening to Ge Juan's words, her in-laws were very angry and scolded Ge Juan loudly, accusing her of not being a daughter-in-law and sister-in-law, and even pushing her husband and asking him to take care of his wife. Just when her husband wanted to speak and stopped, Ge Juan suddenly took out the household registration book and slapped it on the table: "If you dare to say a word again, I will go to get a marriage certificate and divorce you, and I will do what I say." ”
Ge Juan's actions frightened her husband, he didn't dare to say another word, and her mother-in-law didn't expect Ge Juan to file for divorce and fell silent. The two sides stalemate for a week, Ge Juan neither cooked nor argued with her parents, locked the door as soon as she entered the room, and locked her husband out. Eventually, the husband had a big argument with his brother and parents and kicked them out.
There is a saying circulating on the Internet: "A good relationship often stems from the tolerance and accommodation of one party, and the moderation of the other party." ”
If your tolerance and accommodation do not stop at the other party's moderation, but blindly make inches, then, if you continue to be patient, the other party may gradually approach, leaving you with no way out.
When he has to test your bottom line, you must make a counterattack in time and tell him that you are not easy to be bullied, so that he will be jealous of you and truly respect you.
Today's topic: Do you have any good advice for Ge Juan? Feel free to share your views in the comments section.