My name is Xiaoli and I have been married for two years. My husband and I have always had a good relationship, but recently, there has been a problem between us, and that is the cost of getting married.
We have been living with my parents-in-law since we got married. My parents-in-law have always taken good care of us, and most of the family's expenses are borne by them. However, as our lives gradually stabilized, my husband and I began to feel that we should take some of the expenses and reduce the burden on our parents-in-law.
However, when my husband and I proposed the idea, my mother-in-law disagreed. She believes that as a daughter-in-law, I should enjoy my married life with peace of mind and should not worry about the expenses of the family. Moreover, she felt that since we were already married, the expenses of the family should be borne by the in-laws.
I was confused by my mother-in-law's point of view, and I felt that it was not just a matter of expenses, but also a responsibility that we should take on as adults. I hope to be able to communicate well with my mother-in-law and find a solution that is acceptable to both parties.
So, I decided to find a suitable time to sit down with my mother-in-law and have a good talk. I expressed my thoughts to her and told her that we wanted to be able to cover some of the expenses so that it would take them off the load and make us feel more responsible.
After hearing this, the mother-in-law was silent for a while. I could see that she was a little displeased, but also a little reflective. She told me that she just wanted us to be okay and that she didn't realize that her way might make us feel uncomfortable.
After some in-depth conversations, we finally came to an agreement. We decided that every month we would bear part of the household expenses, and the parents-in-law would bear the rest. In this way, we can fulfill our responsibilities and make our parents-in-law feel comfortable.
This story taught me and my mother-in-law that communication and understanding are the keys to solving problems. Sometimes, we need to be brave enough to express our thoughts and feelings, even if they may cause conflict. It is only through honest dialogue that we can understand each other and find solutions to problems.