My dear, I understand your current troubles very well. Marriage is like a rolling mountain, with peaks and valleys. When standing at the trough and looking up at the unreachable top of the mountain, we feel hopeless and helpless.
But, remember that you are not alone. In this world, there are many people who are experiencing the same low point of marriage as you. They have also questioned, they have despaired, and they have even made choices that they regret. So, before you decide, allow me to share their stories with you, and maybe this will give you some inspiration.
A good friend of mine, Lily, and her husband were classmates in the next class from high school. After getting acquainted with each other, they came together logically. It's a pity that the good times didn't last long, and after marriage, my husband was under a lot of work pressure, and he was away all the year round, so he rarely had time to go home. Lily carries the burden of the family alone, facing all the housework and children alone. She would often ask me, "Is the love between us alreadygone?" ”
I advised her to calm down and think about what this marriage meant to her. Lily was silent, realizing that she would be suffering financially and mentally if she left this home. This home provided her with a material basis so that she did not have to go out to work; The status of her husband also shields her from his words. Despite the unhappiness, the marriage remained an important safe haven in her life.
So, Lily let go of the idea of divorce. Instead, she decided to fight for the marriage one more time – if nothing else, but for the children. She began to learn to do the housework by herself; When her husband came home, she no longer blamed, but took care of her diligently. Gradually, her husband was also touched by her and loved this family more and more. Now they have successfully come out of the trough and are once again hand in hand.
Another friend of mine, Jack, is probably more similar to you. A year after his marriage, he lost interest in his wife's style and way of getting along. "It's not going to be like this in the next marriage, is it? The question haunted his mind. Finally, he decided to divorce.
However, after the breakup, Jack soon regretted it. He finds problems everywhere and annoying in every relationship. More importantly, he began to miss the moments he had with his ex-wife—the good times that only came when two hearts were really close. Without this woman, his life was missing a lot of color.
Is there still love between us? That's not a hard question to answer. When you miss each other from the bottom of your heart, that's love; When you are willing to change yourself for the other person, that is also love. I'm sure you know this deep down.
I understand that the low point in a marriage can make us feel miserable and hopeless, and that's normal. But before making any decisions, let's be still, cut through the clouds, and see the path beneath our feet. You will find that the road ahead is not as far and thorny as it seems. Here, I just want to say one word to you: don't give up easily, because you're not fighting alone!
I hope these words of mine can give you some help and inspiration. Whatever your choice ends, I wish you all the best for the future. But before that, please think twice, because marriage is too heavy and sacred for us to treat it as child's play.
Finally, if you still need to talk, I'll listen to you anytime, anywhere; If you still need support, just ask, and I'll do my best. Remember, you are not alone in this long journey of life!