Have you ever wondered why the "Three Character Classic" only says that "a friend's wife should not be bullied", but does not mention "a friend's husband"? Don't worry, I'll talk to you about it today, and you must remember it:
Friend's husband, don't help!
My best friend Zhang Yu came to talk to me, and she said that she had been distressed recently. It turned out that Wang Kai, a good friend of her husband Li Qi, has been asking her for help recently. Zhang Yu himself is happy to help others, but Li Qi is very unhappy, and even secretly doubts whether Zhang Yu likes Wang Kai.
After listening to this, I nodded and said, "This is 'the husband of a friend, don't help it'!" ”
Zhang Yu was confused: "What do you mean?" ”
I explained: "Everyone knows that 'a friend's wife cannot be bullied', but in fact, 'a friend's husband cannot be supported' is complete. Your husband's worries are also normal, no matter how Wang Kai is Li Qi's good brother, if you stay alone with him, you will inevitably have some charming thoughts. ”
Zhang Yu suddenly realized: "It's also oh, no matter how simple I am, Wang Kai doesn't know what he's thinking!" I'm going to go and talk to my husband about it. ”
My high school classmate Xiaohong is my best friend for many years. Not only did the two of us sleep at the same table, but we also often walked side by side on the campus paths after school, chatting and pouring out our hearts.
Xiaohong's husband Li Qiang is my boyfriend's best friend. Although the two of us don't know each other well, we are nodding friends. Occasionally, when I encounter a little trouble, I will also call ** to Li Qiang for help. After all, it's normal for people to help others.
Unexpectedly, just last month, Xiaohong suddenly lost her temper and said that she would never be my best friend again. I was confused, and hurriedly asked if I had offended her. Xiaohong cried and said that she was very sad that I had been ambiguous with Li Qiang for so many years.
Yes? I almost wanted to faint. It is a great irony that many years of friendship have been so misunderstood.
Yes, no matter how familiar the opposite sex is, there is also a clear line. This is the profound connotation of the so-called "husband of a friend, don't help it". Even though Li Qiang and I don't think about anything else, Xiaohong's misunderstanding is also normal, and it is not in vain that she has helped me selflessly over the years.
The husband of a friend must not be relied on or supported. That's the hard lesson of a friendship that I learned.
In addition, there are also real cases where "the husband of a friend was helped and broke up the loving couple".
For example, my college classmate Cao Fang and her boyfriend Liu Yu have been in love for many years, and they didn't enter the palace of marriage until after work. Unexpectedly, after three years of marriage, Liu Yu had an affair with a beautiful woman!
What's even more bizarre is that woman turned out to be Cao Fang's best friend Li Na. The couple's relationship collapsed.
It turned out that Li Na often asked Liu Yu for all kinds of help, and the two met more and more privately. From the initial unintentionality, to the later feelings between the two parties, it is still uncontrollable.
Therefore, it is necessary to distinguish the boundaries of being a human being. The word "bully" mainly warns men not to take their friends and wives as their prey. The word "fu" warns women to keep a proper distance from their friends and husbands, which is the only way to protect the harmony of friends and their innocence.
Friend's husband, don't help! Hopefully, we can all keep that in mind.