Many parents may not realize that they are often the culprit behind their child's internet addiction.
Through the questionnaire survey, it was found that nearly half of the parents believe that the Internet is the cause of their children's Internet addiction, and some parents have beaten and scolded in a hurry, and even used unplugging network cables and smashing computers to prevent their children from contacting the Internet.
But these approaches do not seem to solve the actual problem of Internet addiction, but rather the relationship is becoming more and more stiff. So where does internet addiction come from? Have you ever thought that your child's Internet addiction may be related to you?
Not everyone is addicted to being online, and not all children are addicted to playing games.
It's like not everyone can play cards until their wives are separated, not everyone can smoke until they can't extricate themselves, and put their lungs and even their lives into it.
All game-addicted, internet-addicted kidsMost of them have varying degrees of psychological deficit
So what kind of children are more likely to be "internet addicted"?
1. Lack of parental accompaniment, or family relationship is not harmonious
Parents are busy with work, busy with livelihood, or busy with Douyin, busy chasing dramas, busy with everything, but they don't have time to spend with their children.
Some parents are aggrieved:"I take care of him to eat, he to drink, to buy him clothes, to take him to school, to surround him every day, is that not enough? ”
Inadequate!
Maybe for small babies, close care is enough; But as the child gets older and older, the ideology becomes stronger and strongerWhat he needs is no longer simple food, drink and care, but also spiritual support and companionship
2. Lack of a sense of value
If a child does not do well in school and is not popular with teachers and classmates; When I returned home, I was not treated by my parents. Then, this child's sense of worth is extremely lacking.
In the eyes of the people around him, he did not see the slightest encouragement, recognition and praise.
If he is introverted and not good at expressing himself,If you can't release the negative emotions brought about by being neglected, denied, and ignored, it is easy to become more and more silent and depressed over time
When such children encounter video games, they are prone to addiction. Because in the game world, he can find his place and find his own sense of worth. It is also a medium for him to escape from reality.
In the game, he feels something that is not in the real world, all that he likes, he addicts, and he is addicted.
3. Lack of superiority
There are some children who originally studied very well, but the results were at the beginning.
1. In these special stages of the first year of high school, I was immersed in the network and couldn't extricate myself.
Some parents think that the game harms the child, and it is a good seedling, but because of the game, it is delayed for a lifetime.
You may be mistaken about "cause and effect"!
Those children who did particularly well in primary school were promoted to junior high school, and suddenly found that their grades were no longer as top-notch as in primary school, and they used to easily get the top three in their grades, but now they have worked hard to barely get the 50th place in their grades.
This sense of disparity and loss is a great blow to these children who have been envied before.
In this case,Children with relatively strong minds will become more and more courageous and continue to work hard to catch up; However, children with relatively weak resilience are prone to give up their efforts, be powerless, and even give up on themselvesOnce you have the opportunity to get in touch with the game, it's easy to get addicted to it and find solace.
Therefore, in most cases, the child learns first, lacks a sense of superiority, and becomes addicted to the Internet last.
4. Other reasons
In addition to the above main reasons, there are also the following reasons that can also lead to Internet addiction.
Children are born with poor self-control; Parents' gaming addiction directly affects their children; The child does not have any hobbies and hobbies, and his life is empty and ......These reasons can also cause children to become addicted to the virtual world and reluctant to come out.
The more spiritually affluent a child is, the less likely he is to become addicted to the Internet; Only those who are mentally deficient and cannot find a healthy way to compensate for it are prone to Internet addiction.
For the child who is addicted to the Internet, whether he shows it or not, there must be a lot of pressure, suffering, pain, and even self-blame, and frustration in his heart.
If we can feel this, we can truly understand the child, and from the child's perspective, we can find the part that is really missing in the child's heart, so that it is possible to make up for it and then improve.
Don't wait for the tragedy to happen, then reflect, regret, and make amends; While the child is still young, more companionship, more guidance, as soon as possible to help the child establish a correct world view, cultivate good self-discipline ability, is the right solution.