In hyperactivity clinics, it is common to encounter teenagers who are bored with school. For example, Xiao Ming's grades in junior high school were very good, and his father also had high expectations for his grades. After entering a good high school, although Xiao Ming studied very hard, his grades were far worse than that of junior high school, Xiao Ming was very discouraged, and his father's accusations hit the child, so he became tired of school.
Another student is Xiaohong, because she was repeatedly criticized by the Chinese teacher in public during elementary school, and after entering junior high school, Xiaohong will worry about being criticized by the teacher as soon as she enters the class, so serious that her hands and feet tremble, sweat, and she dare not look at the teacher. There are also students who hate school because they are often ridiculed, ridiculed, and mischievoked by other classmates at school.
Parents who take great pains will come up with all kinds of ways to solve school boredom and problems. Parents are very anxious, worried that their children will lose interest in learning, will not be able to keep up with the progress of learning, and even worry that they will never want to go to school again, and the future will be doomed.
In our experience working with these parents, we have summarized four reasons why we are tired of school, trying to help parents open up some ideas.
Resistance to school, lack of motivation for learning tasks, and frequent procrastination and evasion. This situation is most likely due to the fact that teenagers are used to being "oppressed", passively completing homework, passively completing extracurricular homework, and over time learning completely to satisfy teachers and parents, so there is no internal motivation to learn at all.
Hates interpersonal interactions with peers. In the class, some teenagers who are tired of school feel lonely because they have been treated badly by their peers and have few friends at school, so in order to avoid socializing with their classmates, they would rather hide at home and sleep or play games all day than socialize with others.
Excessive pursuit of perfectionism leads to not taking the exam as soon as it arrives, and the psychological pressure is high, and I am afraid of the result of not doing well, so I simply do not let myself have the opportunity to fail the test.
Depressed mood and lack of sense of meaning lead to inability to sleep and wake up every day, and I don't want to go to school. In the face of heavy academic pressure and the contrast with the powerful online world, many teenagers also have rebellious emotions and think that learning is boring, so they simply don't want to go to school.
In any case, school boredom can affect a child's mental health. They may feel frustrated and frustrated, with feelings of low self-esteem and anxiety. This psychological burden will further inhibit their motivation and enthusiasm to learn, forming a vicious circle.
In the face of these problems, family psychoeducation has become the key to solving the problem of school boredom. Parents can have an open and respectful dialogue with their children, and through understanding, support, and motivation, can help children develop positive attitudes towards learning and establish healthy study habits.
First and foremost, parents should have an open and respectful conversation with their children about the reasons for their school aversion and the difficulties they face. Parents should understand their children's emotional feelings and confusion, and convey their concerns to their children in a timely manner. Try to minimize criticism and accusations when talking, use more understanding and encouragement, and see what your child is doing well in the face of difficulties.
Second, parents can create a positive learning environment. Provide a quiet, tidy, and comfortable learning space that provides children with the necessary learning tools and resources.
For example, the introduction of diverse learning materials, gamified learning methods, interactive learning activities, etc., makes the learning process more interesting and challenging. Encourage children to participate in study groups, extracurricular activities and interest classes to develop their communication skills and teamwork spirit.
Parents should also be fully aware of their children's individual differences and learning styles. Respect your child's learning pace and preferences, and avoid excessive comparisons and expectations. Give children enough autonomy and choice to let them take the initiative and creativity in their learning. At the same time, children are encouraged to face difficulties and challenges, and they are taught problem-solving methods and thinking strategies.
Finally, parents should be role models for their children. It is better to say a hundred times than to do it once in person. If parents love learning, children can also be imperceptibly influenced. Parents show positive learning attitudes and behaviors in daily life, so that children can see the importance and value of learning for you. Share your own learning experiences and achievements with your children and encourage them to actively explore and discover in their learning.
In conclusion, family psychoeducation plays a key role in overcoming school boredom, cultivating interest in learning and improving learning motivation. Through understanding, support, and motivation, parents can help their children develop positive attitudes towards learning and healthy study habits.