When we are young, we often think that marriage is a safe haven in life, and when we step into marriage, we have to rely on and protect.
However, as the years passed, I gradually realized that marriage is really a battlefield without gunpowder, and most of the blows and pains in life come from the marriage relationship.
Therefore, in marriage, no matter how good the relationship between the husband and wife is, the following three points need to be kept in mind, which is not a scheming, but a forward-looking wisdom.
First of all, it is necessary to be vigilant in terms of economic income.
In marriage, there is a saying: "Wealth determines status." ”
Although this sentence is not absolutely true in theory, it has been proved in practice to be a reflection of reality.
Monetary income represents a person's strength. Only with financial independence can you live freely, without having to curry favor with others or worry about your livelihood.
In real life, many people suffer a lot by letting their guard down on the economy by being overly dependent on their spouse.
For example, some women listen to their husbands' promises and give up their jobs, lose their finances, and become palms up and ask for money; was gradually alienated by her husband, and even ruthlessly abandoned.
Another example is when some men covet women and marry vain wives, and in order to please her, they transfer all their possessions to her, and the wives leave the ...... with the money
The mountains will fall, and everyone will run. "Even the closest partner can't be relied on permanently, the only one you can rely on is yourself.
Therefore, at all times, individuals should be wary of financial independence, maintain the ability to make money, and maintain control over money, otherwise they will fall into passivity, and the only gains can be heartbroken and hopeless.
In marriage, you should pay attention to the emotional giving.
Husbands and wives need to be honest and selfless, but it doesn't mean being unreserved and sacrificing.
Many people often have difficulty grasping this aspect. Once they fall in love with someone and enter into marriage, they tend to devote all their time, energy and emotions to each other, thinking about each other in every detail, only asking for the other person's satisfaction and happiness, and their own feelings are put on the back burner.
However, real life constantly tells us that in a marriage relationship, unilateral and unconditional giving, blindly complying with accommodation, often cannot win the respect and cherishment of the other party. Instead, as time goes by, the other person may feel disgusted and bored.
We should understand that each person is first and foremost an individual, and then a whole composed of two individuals.
Only by being kind to yourself, learning to take care of yourself, and becoming a confident, optimistic and happy individual, can you love others better and win the respect and cherishment of others.
Therefore, in marriage, no matter what the feelings are, do not forget to take care of yourself, cultivate your personal interests and social circles, and carefully manage your personal life and relationships. Only in this way can life be happier and more fulfilling.
Many people tend to ignore their physical health in marriage, and even maintain the stability and longevity of their marriage at the expense of their health.
In order to provide better living conditions for their spouses and children, some people do not hesitate to expend energy and physical strength, resulting in the gradual damage of their bodies, and finally their own health is broken, but in exchange for the indifference and accusations of their spouses;
In order to maintain the integrity of the family, some people silently endure the grievances and violence brought by marriage, which brings serious physical and mental damage, but in the end, what they gain is not sympathy and care, but more suppression and bullying;
In addition, there are some women who repeatedly get pregnant, miscarry, and even cost their lives in order to meet the expectations of their husbands' families, and even if they finally give birth as they wish, the physical damage is irreparable ......
In fact, it is very foolish to maintain a relationship and marriage by harming your own health.
Because in this world, both money and affection are temporary, and only health is truly one's own. Once you lose your health, everything else doesn't matter.
Therefore, at any time, regardless of the marital relationship, you must first pay attention to and take care of your own physical health.