Kunpeng Project
The more incapable the parents, the more they love to pretend to be generous? Whose fault is it that the child is victimized?
The more incompetent parents are, the more they like to pretend that they are generous in these three things, and in the end, it is only the children who suffer, and as the title says, it is the children who suffer!
Most people agree that parents are the best teachers for their children, and that what children will become in the future depends on how they grow up. If a child is unfortunate enough to go down the wrong path, it is mainly because the parents did not set a good example and did not give them a good education and guidance. If they know how to guide their children in the right direction when they make mistakes, tragedy will not happen.
So when it comes to taking care of children, we should start from the small things in daily life, after all, there are many trivial things in life, as long as parents can give their children the right guidance, they don't have to worry about the deviation of their children's future growth. But raising children is also a particularly cautious thing, the more incapable parents like to pretend to be generous in these three things, and in the end it will only be the children themselves who will suffer, come and see if you have it?
Pretend to be generous in favors. Some parents like to pretend to be generous in interpersonal communication, and the reason for this situation is mainly due to the inferiority complex at work. Because, although interpersonal communication is an extremely important thing, it is not said that there is no bottom line, you know, everyone only has the same degree of closeness with the people they are interacting with, if you are not in a circle with them, it is difficult to squeeze in, then, in the end, you will only lose money and affection.
In others, the child's generosity is jeopardized. I think many people have experienced such a thing, obviously their own parents, far away from the scene of the crime, rushed home to find their parents to theorize, let them come forward to seek justice for themselves, but what their parents said was one sentence:"You have to be sensible"。In the eyes of their parents, they will never think that it is the other party's fault, but will pretend to be generous and ask the other party to forgive the person who hurt them. Because, in the eyes of parents, there is no factual basis, children are just playing with each other, and there is no real harm.
It is precisely because of parents' bottomless behavior of forgiving others that not only hurts the hearts of children, but also makes others hurt themselves. Parents should put the interests of their children first, take care of their children's feelings first, and protect their children's rights and interests as much as possible, rather than teaching their children to bow their heads. If parents favor others and despise their children, they will also leave a deep shadow in their children's hearts, and even develop a pleasing character.
Be tolerant of your child's mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes, everyone makes mistakes, but when children make mistakes, you must educate your children well. After all, children are born like a blank slate, and the solidified image they form has a lot to do with their parents' upbringing. If parents blindly take responsibility for their children's mistakes, children will develop the concept of selfishness, and there will be a misunderstanding in their minds that no matter how big the mistakes they make, there will be parents who will protect them from the wind and rain.
In the long run, children also lose their sense of boundaries in the world, they never think it is their fault, and even blame others when they have conflicts with others. These children do not have the capacity to take responsibility and do not have a sense of self-reflection. As time goes by, their erroneous views grow, and when their mistakes grow, what awaits them will eventually be the sanction of the law.