Every parent has faced such a moment: the child is disobedient, crying, mischievous, and our patience is greatly tested. Even though we try to control our emotions, sometimes we can't help but yell at our children. However, yelling is not the best way to solve the problem and can have a negative impact on the child. So, after holding back the yelling at the child, how should we remedy it?
First, we need to recognize our mistakes. Yelling at children is something that shouldn't happen, and we need to reflect on our behavior. We can apologize to our children and tell them that we were too impulsive and didn't control our emotions. At the same time, we also need to explain to our children that their behaviour needs to be improved, so that they know what they are doing wrong and how to correct it.
We need to give our children more love and attention. Children need our love and attention, which is the most important nutrient in their development. We can spend more time with our children, play with them, talk to them, and get to know their lives and emotional states. This allows children to feel our love and attention, and strengthens their self-confidence and sense of security.
We need to help children develop the right norms and values. Children need to understand what is right and what is wrong, what can and cannot be done. We can work with our children to set some family rules and codes of conduct so that they understand their responsibilities and obligations. At the same time, we also need to influence children through our words and deeds, so that they can learn to respect others, care for others, and be good at communication.
We need to give ourselves time to think calmly and process our emotions. When we are emotional, it is easy to make bad decisions and behaviors. Therefore, we need to give ourselves time to think calmly and process our emotions when we are emotionally high. We can take deep breathing, meditating, walking and other relaxing activities to relieve our stress and emotions, so that we can face our children's challenges more calmly and rationally.
In addition to the above points, there are some practical tips that can help us better manage our relationship with our children:
Learn to listen: When children have questions or emotions, we need to listen patiently to their voices and understand their needs and feelings. In this way, children can feel cared for and supported, and their sense of trust and security will be enhanced.
Avoid using negative language: Negative language can hurt a child's self-esteem and self-confidence, and we need to avoid it as much as possible. We can use positive language to affirm and encourage our children, so that they feel valued and important.
Set clear rewards and punishments: When children are doing well or making progress, we need to give them appropriate rewards and encouragement; When they make mistakes or behave badly, we need to punish and educate them appropriately. This will give your child a clear idea of the consequences of their actions and motivate them to be motivated and motivated.
Cultivate children's self-control: Self-control is a very important ability in the process of children's growth. We can teach children to learn to control their emotions and behaviors, so that they can face challenges and difficulties more rationally and maturely.
Establish a respectful parent-child relationship: A respectful parent-child relationship is the most important foundation for a child's growth. We need to respect our children's individuality and needs, but we also need to make them understand our expectations and requirements. This allows children to grow up more confidently and freely, and also makes it easier and more enjoyable for us to be their parents.
In short, we need to remedy the need to remedy the child after holding back the yelling, which requires us to understand and care for the child with our hearts, and help the child establish correct behavioral norms and values. At the same time, we also need to learn to listen, avoid using negative language, set clear rewards and punishments, cultivate children's self-control and build a respectful parent-child relationship and other practical skills and methods to better manage the relationship with children.