Love is sweet, marriage is sacred.
However, when choosing a partner, we should not only focus on personal preferences, but also consider the influence of the other person's family.
I have seen some families that are rotten and morally degraded, and their children are like rootless trees, fluctuating.
Their parents are ungrateful, educationless, and even in debt, and their lives are in chaos.
Dare to ask, with such a background, do you dare to marry?
When choosing a marriage partner, keep your eyes peeled and don't fall into the quagmire of these six types of families.
The ancients said: ".Home and everything is prosperous.
Discordant families, lack of understanding, respect and trust between members, constant contradictions and conflicts.
This atmosphere can make children feel uneasy and frightened, they can become sensitive, anxious, and insecure.
Children grow up in such an environment, and it is easy to affect their outlook on marriage and family.
I have a friend whose parents often quarrel. Growing up in such an environment, he became introverted, had low self-esteem, and was not good at communicating with people.
In his marriage, he often quarreled with his wife, and trivial matters were also turned upside down.
This kind of family disharmony not only affects the relationship between their husband and wife, but also has a negative impact on the growth of their children.
Filial piety comes firstThis is the traditional virtue of our Chinese nation.
An unfaithful, unfilial and ungrateful family lacks respect and love for its elders.
They turn a blind eye to their parents' nurturing grace and even speak ill of them.
This kind of family environment will make children lack a sense of gratitude, and do not know how to cherish and repay others.
There was once a neighbor who had a very bad attitude towards his parents and often yelled at them.
Under his influence, his children were also disrespectful to their grandparents and even beat them.
It makes people sigh:". .Fish begins to rot from the head.
In a family, parents are inconsistent in words and deeds, say one thing and do another, treat people and things, and cannot distinguish between right and wrong.
In this kind of family environment, children lack correct moral guidance from an early age.
Lies and deception may be commonplace for them to lie.
There was once a news report about a child who often bullied other classmates and stole from classmates at school.
The investigation found that the child's family morality was very confused, and the parents often said one thing and did another, and did not distinguish between right and wrong to people and things.
They also often quarrel and fight, even to the point of irreconcilability.
In this way, the family is like a time bomb that can cause harm to family members at any time.
It is also difficult for children who grow up in such an environment to establish correct moral values.
Industry is good at diligence, and absurdity is frolic; Actions are made in thought, and destroyed in follow. ”
A lazy family that is unable to raise hard-working children.
Parents are unwilling to work hard, get by, and have no pursuit of life.
This kind of family environment can make children lack the entrepreneurial spirit and know how to value time and opportunities.
I once met a friend's family whose parents did not have a stable job, and they often stayed up late, woke up late, did not eat on time, and did not pay attention to personal hygiene.
He is also idle all day long, lacking in planning and goals.
They think that life is like this, just live lazily and don't have much to expect and plan for the future.
Patriarchy is an outdated family concept.
Boys are often seen as the future and hope of the family, while girls are often seen as a burden to the family.
I have examples around me where boys are held high and girls are put in a dispensable position.
This prejudice is not only material, but also in the education of children.
Children who grow up in such families, especially boys, may develop false gender superiority.
They feel that men are inherently deserved to be more dominant, and this will not only distort their personality, but may also affect their social relationships.
For girls, growing up in a patriarchal family, they will be devalued because of their self-worth, inferiority complex, and self-doubt.
You hope laterIs your daughter treated like this?
Money is not everything, but it is an essential part of life.
"Poor couples mourn everything".
Although this old saying is straightforward, it speaks to the erosion of family happiness caused by economic hardship.
Families with heavy debts are often under financial pressure, and this pressure is like a dark cloud, enveloping the hearts of family members, making the family atmosphere tense and depressing.
Often blame and complain to each other because of trivial things.
Children who grow up in this environment may have a wrong perception of money and relationships.
Thinking that money is the root of all problems ignores the trust between people.
To make matters worse, indebted families are often trapped in a vicious circle.
As the saying goes: ".Borrowing debts is like a mountain, and repaying debts is like a thread.
These families are constantly burdened by life, and it is difficult to change the family's financial situation, which may even lead to family breakdown.
Therefore, when looking for a partner, we need to carefully understand the other person's family background to see if their family is harmonious and healthy.
If there is disharmony in the other party's family, we should consider it carefullyDon't get carried away by love