A 35-year-old man is a full-time son at home, receiving 6,000 yuan a month, and it is good for his father to be accompanied
Introduction: In recent years, the new term "stay-at-home children" has gradually come into people's attention. Stay-at-home children are adult children who are adults but do not work and take care of their parents at home. They may seem to be conscientious on the surface, but in fact they may be escaping the pressure of the workplace and living on their parents' pensions.
Uncle Wang is 61 years old and lives with his wife and son in a fourth-tier city that is not very developed. Although the family of three lives in harmony, Uncle Wang has some hidden worries in his heart, mainly about his 35-year-old son. This son is still unmarried and has no business, and he hangs out at home day after day. Fortunately, my son is diligent and takes care of the family's cooking and household chores. In order to ensure that his son has enough living expenses, Uncle Wang will give him 6,000 yuan every month. Although there have been many grievances in the past, Uncle Wang now feels that this kind of life is quite happy.
Uncle Wang's own statement:
My wife and I are ordinary people with limited earning power, and our lives are all about stability. We are well aware of our situation, so we don't expect too much, we just hope that our son can grow up healthily and the family can live safely and happily. I thought that my son would get married and have children like most people, so that I could hold my grandson as soon as possible, but the trajectory of his life was unexpected.
When my son was a child, he did not do well in his studies and was always reluctant to go to school when he was in elementary school, so I taught him harshly with a broom several times and finally let him go back to school. But if he studies with such a negative attitude, his grades will naturally not be good. In elementary school, I was at the bottom of the class, and in junior high school, the situation was even worse.
When I graduated from junior high school, I wanted him to go to a technical school to learn a skill, but my son grew up and had his own ideas. He actually took 2,000 yuan from his wife and went to work in a big city with his friends. I was very angry about it, and my wife and I were very worried about what would happen to our only child.
At the end of the year, my son finally returned. As soon as he got home, he immediately put the money on a new computer and installed it in our house. Thinking back to his quiet departure before, I still have some resentment in my heart. This time he quietly added a computer again, and I was a little unhappy in my heart, but I didn't dare to say more, for fear that he would be unhappy and run away from home again.
Since that computer came into the house, my son has become a standard "otaku". In the past, he was outgoing and cheerful, couldn't stay at home, and often went out with friends, but now he stays at home every day and is addicted to video games. At first he was playing games during the day, and we saw it and would reprimand him. But he gradually became cunning, and instead slept during the day and played games at night, and we couldn't dissuade him. He played like this for a long time.
Gradually, he became obsessed with the game to the extreme, and his hair was not washed or cut for months, so greasy that it reflected in the sun. Even the beard is left to its own devices, and he is almost catching up with his grandfather. Seeing such a situation, I really can't bear it, the child outside either studies diligently or works hard, and he spoils himself like this at home, I am really angry and can't calm down, but I can't persuade him.
I tried to persuade him many times, and in the end, even relatives and friends were invited to persuade him, but to no avail. He slept with the door locked during the day and played his games at night. I was so angry that I smashed the door open and cut the power cord of the computer, but he quickly got a new one and continued to do his own thing.
I tried so hard to persuade my son, but my partner got angry with me and blamed me for not disciplining him well, saying that I spoiled him. Later, I let them go on their own. Over the next few years, my son's behavior became more and more lawless, and my partner's doting on him deepened.
My young man was not tall originally, but in the past few years, he has stayed at home all day, not letting go of the computer, and eating uncontrollably, his height is less than 1.7 meters, but his weight has skyrocketed to more than 200 pounds, and his cheeks are swollen because of obesity. The chair in front of the computer desk was broken by him several times. I'm always worried that if he goes on like this, sooner or later something will go into serious physical problems.
That night, my wife and I were resting when we heard a loud noise coming from our son's room, and we rushed to check and found our son lying on the ground clutching his chest. I immediately called an ambulance and took him to the hospital with great difficulty. After the doctor's examination, we were told that our son had several diseases, and although he was overweight, he was also malnourished.
The son stayed in the hospital for about half a month, and his physical condition finally improved, and after being discharged from the hospital, he seemed to be a different person, and offered to help in his distant uncle's brick kiln factory. He worked there for almost half a year, lost a significant amount of weight, not only lost weight, but also became more energetic. I thought he had completely changed, but I didn't expect him to just change his lifestyle.
Soon after, the son returned home. Instead of being addicted to computer games all day, he began to try his hand at doing the chores he could and learned to cook. It didn't take long for him to tidy up his home, even the curtains were washed by him, and his cooking skills became more and more exquisite, and he really achieved a huge change.
Whenever I come home from work, I always see a variety of delicacies on the table, such as braised pork, sweet and sour pork ribs and roasted eggplant, etc., and my son will pair them with meat and vegetables, and he has prepared a bottle of wine for me. Seeing all this, I was both relieved and emotional.
Seeing my son take the initiative to cook and do housework, I felt that he had quietly changed, and what was confusing was that he still refused to go out to find a job, preferring to stay at home and be busy rather than go out to work. My partner and I have repeatedly persuaded him that he will be self-reliant, find a job, and start a family in the future. However, the son said leisurely: "Life is too short, I just want to pursue the life I like." ”
I don't know how to do that when he says that. At first we tried to persuade them, but as time went on, we realized that this was not an option. My son cooks at home, takes care of the housework, and can accompany us, avoiding many risks of going out, which is already a lot of happiness. Sometimes, the ordinary is also a kind of happiness.
Take Lao Wu next door, his son has only studied in junior high school, but he has worked hard in society for many years, opened several electric car stores, and has a monthly income of tens of thousands of yuan, showing off to me. But now, he has lost his footing and become a thousand years of hatred, all the shops are closed, and he is also in debt.
Look at my nephew, who entered a good company after graduating from graduate school and married the daughter of a leader, and his future seems to be bright. But in the end, his father-in-law had a problem, and he was not spared, and finally ended up in prison and his family was ruined. Now that I think about it, maybe my son is better.
Thinking about it like this, I feel relieved. When my son is at home, the biggest danger is just accidentally cutting his hand while chopping vegetables. Isn't it nice that he will not lose his fortune or suffer misfortune? As the only child, he was able to accompany us, cook and chat with us, and that was enough.
The situation of our family has always been not good in the eyes of the neighbors, and everyone always takes our kid as a negative example and regards him as a representative of the unsuccessful. But as for me, I don't bother to pay attention to those gossip, my life has to go on, I have been talked about for so many years, I have long been used to it, and there is nothing to be afraid of.
My biggest concern is what will happen to our son when my partner and I are gone. I'm in my sixties, my partner is almost sixty, and based on a normal lifespan, we probably have ten or twenty years left. With that in mind, I had to plan for our son. Thanks to his lack of spending, we have saved a lot in recent years, about 400,000 yuan.
Although we live in an inconspicuous old house, the location is okay, and it can be worth more than 600,000 yuan if it is sold. Together with the deposit, there is a total of about one million. In addition, I am currently working as a security guard outside, and I can earn more than 2,000 a month by wrapping up food at noon, and my partner works in the back kitchen of a restaurant, so I can not only take home leftovers, but also earn more than 4,000 a month.
In this way, our family's food problem has been solved, and we can still have an income of more than 6,000 yuan per month. We gave all this money to our son so that he could save it. Not only to let him have money on hand, but also to let him learn to manage his finances in this way. Because he hasn't worked all these years, his interpersonal skills have deteriorated, not to mention others.
My son is quite frugal with money, and most of it is saved. Occasional money is spent on things at home. For example, some time ago, he bought new bed sheets and a yogurt maker or something. I can still understand the sheets, but I don't understand the yogurt maker. When I asked him, he happily made us a big pot of yogurt, and when I ate it, I really felt very happy.
In general, life is not bad now, my son is by my side, and my partner and I give him 6,000 yuan a month. Even if we are no longer there in the future, he has so much money, and he should not have difficulties in life. But I'm more worried about his mental state.
My son has almost no friends for so many years, and he doesn't look for a girlfriend. What if one day we are gone, and he is left alone? I've talked to him many times about this, hoping that he can find a girlfriend and start a family, so that he can at least have something to rely on. But my son always smiled wryly and shook his head, on the surface it seemed that it didn't matter, but in fact, I knew that he was more anxious than anyone else.
The son is like a passenger on a sunken ship, knowing that the ship is about to sink, but he is still enjoying himself and is unwilling to prepare in advance. Since his life is quite comfortable now, he chose to have fun in time and live the life of a "full-time child". I have said everything I can say, and he will slowly understand it himself, after all, children and grandchildren have their own blessings.