Blind dates are one of the modern ways to socialize, allowing singles to meet potential partners through matchmaking or online communication. However, in the process of dating, sometimes you will find that the other person's personality or behavior is not in tune with you, and then you need to consider whether to continue dating. This article will focus on the question of "".
1. There is no common language
In the process of communicating with the man, I found that our topics always revolve around his work, company benefits, etc., and I hope to share more interests and hobbieslifeExperienced. This leaves us lacking a deep connection and making it difficult to resonate more with each other.
I'm personally passionate about itArtwithCultureI like to visit art exhibitions and literary lectures, and I hope to be able to enjoy these spiritual pleasures with my partner. However, the man seems to be less interested in these areas and prefers to talk about work and work matters. This got me thinking about whether if our topic couldn't go beyond these superficial levels, it would lead to long-term boredom and dullness.
2. Lack of experience in getting along with women
The man's speech and demeanor make people feel that he does not care enough about the needs and concerns of women. He always asked me if I was home, good morning, etc., and although these words showed his concern, they seemed very bland. He also often replied to my words with rhetorical questions, giving people a sense of yin and yang. This made me feel that he was a little lacking in communication and interaction skills.
In our three dates, although the man paid the bill enthusiastically, he never took the initiative to care about my needs and moreEmotionState. His concern was always limited to the degree of safety and health, lacking warmth and deep care. This made me wonder if we would be able to form a real relationship after establishing a stable emotional foundation and intimacy with himEmotionConnect.
3. Different from his values
In the communication with the man, I found that he has a good opinion on some thingsValuesNot quite in line with me. For example, he thinks of learningJapaneseIt wasn't very useful and didn't understand my motivation to study for the sake of interest. As a person in the media industry, my mastery of different languages has a positive impact on access to resources and work. This kindValuesThe incompatibility gave me a feeling that I couldn't communicate deeply.
In addition to this, he also shows some regional bias and narrow-mindednessValues。During an experience of eating Korean food, he expressed doubts about Korean things and thoughtSpicy cabbageThey are all produced in his hometown of Shandong. Although I wanted to refute his argument at the time, I chose to remain silent, not wanting to cause an argument because of this. However, this kindValuesThe difference made me start to rethink if we were in the futurelifeIf two people's perceptions and views on various things cannot be coordinated, will it become a source of friction and estrangement?
4. Lack of attention to detail and organization
The man's image and daily habits also left some not-so-good impressions on me. He seems to lack attention to the details of his image, does not trim his nose hair, does not know how to take care of his skin, etc., resulting in ** easy redness. Although I know that he often works night shifts and works hard, and I don't blame him too much, the raunchy details of these details made me wonder if we were therelifeThere are differences in habits.
After I visited the man's circle of friends, I was surprised to find that he seemed to be hiding some information about his feelings. I noticed the dynamic that he had an intimate relationship with a woman at least five years ago. This left me confused and suspicious, and while he claimed that he was his first love, this information made me start to re-examine his sincerity and honesty with his feelings.
5. Have been in contact with other women
I found some disturbing information on the man's phone that he had dated another woman whose profile picture was older than me, and that this woman didn't seem to be interested in him and was just taking advantage of his efforts. Although it is normal to cast a wide net during the blind date, this information still makes me feel lost and uneasy.
Although the man claimed that I was the only blind date, I found out that he had dates with other women, and even asked him for red envelopes. This made me wonder if the man was serious about the relationship. Although everyone may have more than one choice during the blind date process, this behavior made me wonder if we can build a real foundation of trust and a stable relationship.
Through the analysis of the man's strengths and problems, we can see his honesty and attitude towards me. However, his dullness, lack of attention to detail, lack of experience with women, communication problems with me, and hidden emotional messages all made me have some doubts about our relationship.
1. Communication and communication
First of all, I would suggest that you communicate more deeply and openly with each other. You can share your thoughts with himlifeand hobbies to see if he can actively provide more empathy and care. Both parties need to listen to each other when communicating, and try to avoid talking only about work and company affairs. In this way, common topics and mutual care can be cultivated over time.
2. Observe and think
At the same time, you can also observe his various performances by spending more time with him and see if he can change some of the deficiencies. Observe if he is better able to care about your details, show sincerity in his feelings, and attach importance to your preferences and interests. You can try to guide him to pay attention and care for your various needs to see if he can adapt and change.
3. Values and interests
If you find that between youValuesIf the difference in interest is too great to resonate with him and communicate deeply, then you need to consider whether you can establish a stable and pleasant relationship with him. If these differences can have a significant impact on your relationship, it may be necessary to re-evaluate whether or not to continue dating.
4. Trust and honesty
Finally, for the problem of the man hiding the emotional information, you can communicate with him and raise your concerns. His responses and explanations will give you some clues as to whether trust and honesty can be built. If you feel that his explanations and responses are not sincere or difficult for you to accept, then you need to consider his attitude towards feelings and how honest he is with you.
To sum up, issues such as the dullness of the blind date man, the lack of attention to detail, the lack of experience with women, communication problems with you, and the hidden emotional information need to be taken seriously. Through deeper communication, observation and reflection on his performance, considerationValuesand differences in interests, as well as factors such as trust and honesty, you can better evaluate and decide whether to continue your relationship with him. Remember to listen to your inner voice and choose the path that suits you.