In my eyes, my mother An Jie is just like the idiom describes, ", the charm still exists". I remember that she was in her forties when I can remember, and yet the years did not seem to have left a visible mark on her. Her complexion is fair, delicate as silk, as if the traces of time have been cleverly concealed by her fair **.
When I was in junior high school, I saw the phrase ", the charm is still there" in a text, and I didn't know whether it was positive or negative at the time. However, when the teacher enthusiastically explained the meaning of this phrase from the podium, my mother's fair and delicate face came to mind. I am convinced that I was the first of the forty students in the class to understand and appreciate the charm of a woman of that age as described by this phrase.
In the TV series, the beauty of her mother An Jie is depicted in detail, especially the scene where she sits on the rickshaw, the youth and beauty seem to pass through the screen, making me feel the elegance and style. And when she became the mother of several children and entered middle age, her figure walking on the island still attracted everyone's attention, and those female soldiers also shouted "one, two, one" because of her beauty.
However, the TV series has excessively beautified the love between An Jie and Jiang Defu. In the TV series, An Jie is deeply in love with Jiang Defu and is willing to go back to the countryside with him to farm, give birth to children for him, and accompany him back to his hometown to see his relatives. However, in the original, this is not the case.
An Jie in the original book gave birth to eight children, and seven survived. As her youngest daughter, Jiang Yaning described her mother as follows: Our mother is as simple as Wang Haiyang's mother, but her fair complexion is excellent. However, her beautiful eyes are not like Wang Haiyang's seriously ill mother, who always caresses Wang Haiyang's thin face affectionately. Our mothers never did. Her large, bright eyes were always looking over the heads of seven of our siblings, staring into some ethereal place, as if there was another group of her children and another family.
An Jie in the original book is very impatient with his children, and he can't even listen patiently to what the children say. Although her beauty is still stunning, her maternal love does not seem to be as warm and selfless as other mothers. Maybe this is life, there are always some regrets and helplessness hidden in it. Here's a creative rewrite of the original article:
She was resentful and hopeless about the fate of her many children, like a sow. But in the TV series, An Jie once had a beautiful vision and longed for a life that was clearly distinguished: a special cup for drinking water, another for tea, and another for coffee. She seems to have found a glimmer of fulfillment in her time with Anderford. Although she married him and even conceived multiple children for him, An Jie was still able to find her own happiness in it.
However, in the original story, An Jie did not feel such happiness. The man ** who was hidden by her, in the face of Jiang Defu's questioning, she shouted "Miss An" sadly and angrily, revealing endless desolation and helplessness. Jiang Yaning mentioned in the original book: When my mother shouted "Miss An", I felt that she was actually calling herself, the young self who was walking on the streets of Qingdao twenty years ago, wearing a floral cheongsam, elegant and calm. That "Miss Ann", that Miss Ann, the call of her mother seemed to travel through twenty years, evoking her memories. Facing her tearful mother, she smiled sadly, and that smile was full of kindness and sentimentality, which made her mother feel painful.
An Jie in the original book has never lived the life she dreamed of. She hated Jiang Defu deep down, and even had no patience and love for their common children. She reluctantly accepts this life as a tool for fertility and is deeply disgusted by it. In addition, despite being married to Jiang Defu for decades, she has never set foot in his hometown.
In the original book, we learned that although my father's father and her in-laws had both died before they got married, my father still had an eldest brother alive, as well as several nephews, nieces, nieces, nephews, and grandnieces, not to mention the seven aunts and eight aunts who were horizontal and vertical. Originally, my mother should have gone back to give my father a face, but my mother said that she would not go back if she died. As for the reason why An Jie will not go when he dies, it is: there are lice there.
Even when Jiang Defu's eldest brother died, An Jie still didn't go back. Not only did she not go back, but in the face of her husband who came back from the funeral, An Jie's reaction was not described again in the original book. But this does not affect our understanding of Anjie's mood and choice. For An Jie, her life is full of helplessness and bitterness. The perfect life she pursues seems out of reach, and the difficulties and dissatisfaction of reality make her miserable.
Her choices and reactions stem from her inner struggle and reluctance to accept reality. An Jie's attitude was indifferent and contemptuous, leaning on the door frame, crossing her hands in front of her chest, and said to her husband who had been reunited after a long absence: "Wait, take a shower outside and change your clothes before coming in." She was disgusted with Andefu, who was born as a farmer. This sentiment has not changed since they first met. When An Jie saw Jiang Defu for the first time, he noticed the dirt hidden in his fingernails, and even directly ridiculed him for being a hillbilly who couldn't read a few words.
In the original book, An Jie did not have a good impression and emotion towards Jiang Defu in the TV series. In this marriage, she didn't even have much decision-making power. Her brother and sister-in-law warmly welcomed Jiang Defu's arrival, while Jiang Defu was in a mood of anger, thinking that if he could conquer any difficult stronghold, could he not conquer a bourgeois lady? Under such a two-sided attitude, An Jie's resistance appeared isolated and ultimately failed.
She was reluctant to this marriage. In the original work, there is a word to describe An Jie's mood when he marries Jiang Defu: extremely aggrieved. She reluctantly followed him to the frontier, breaking her heart for his children. Faced with this situation, how could she follow him back to his distant rural hometown? When Jiang Defu's old family came to visit, An Jie did not have a trace of a smile on his face. Jiang Defu asked her why she didn't laugh, and she replied: "No." None of Jiang Defu's relatives have a good impression of An Jie, because in her heart, accepting Jiang Defu is already the limit. How could she possibly accept his other relatives?
For An Jie, the principle of "loving the house and Wu" does not apply. She doesn't even love Jiang Defu, how can she love his relatives? In the original book, An Jie forced her daughter Yaqiong to commit suicide because of her marriage. What she introduced to Yaqiong was a young man from the countryside, just like Jiang Defu when he was young. The young man didn't have standard Mandarin, he chirped when he ate, and he had yellow teeth.
Even people like Jiang Defu are disdainful, but An Jie thinks that such people are very good. Like Comrade Kou, who tried her best to match her and Jiang Defu, she insisted on not letting go of her daughter Yaqiong's hand and insisted on promoting this marriage. She is also like her older siblings, she doesn't think about whether Yaqiong likes it or not, and only thinks about what benefits this person can bring to her daughter and the whole family.
However, Arjun is not her, and Arjun chooses a more resolute way to resist the marriage. In the face of her daughter's resoluteness, An Jie aged rapidly, and almost overnight, her hair was messed up and her eyes became confused. When Jiang Defu said: "You too, old foolish, Yaqiong and that person are not in the right household, how can they be a couple?" An Jie, who was aging overnight, suddenly broke out, she shouted loudly, hissing like a shrew in the countryside: "Jiang Defu, you are also worthy of talking about the door, right?" Thirty years ago, you were right with me? What were you back then?
Aren't you a peasant like that man? What happened to the rural people? Rural people are not people? Aren't rural people worthy of marrying a city woman? "She and Jiang Defu are also not in the right household, and she and Jiang Defu are also reluctantly combined, why did she resign herself to living a lifetime, and her daughter, and even her husband, couldn't look down on the person who was similar to Jiang Defu when he was young?
In An Jie's roar, there is too much emotion. She complained about her fate of having no choice but to marry Jiang Defu, and she felt aggrieved, because everyone didn't look down on people like Jiang Defu, but she married such a person. At the same time, she also felt a kind of despair, because she began to feel that someone like Jiang Defu was a good candidate for a son-in-law. She is no longer the arrogant Miss An, but has become an authentic rural woman.
The kind of life she once desperately resisted, hated, and even hated turned out to be the life she accepted. She gradually approached Jiang Defu, and although she did not converge, she deviated from her original intention and embarked on a country road that was completely opposite to her wishes. Between An Jie and Jiang Defu, there is no love, but the struggles and subtle times in decades of marriage have been integrated into each other's lives.
In the TV series "Parents Love", An Jie's image left a deep impression on me. She was born in happiness, but she never knew how to cherish it. Compared with her sister An Xin, An Jie enjoys the comfortable life brought to her by Jiang Defu, but she is always full of resentment about her life. She didn't realize that without Jiang Defu's support and protection, she might not have been able to live such a comfortable life.
The description of An Xin in the original book highlights her gentle and virtuous qualities. In contrast, Anjie appears selfish and discontented. In this marriage with Jiang Defu, An Jie never really loved him, so he never really gave it. Her selfishness and self-cultivation made her never satisfied in this marriage.
An Jie in the TV series, after seeing Mr. Ge's hard life, began to realize his happiness. However, there is no character of Mr. Ge in the original book, and An Jie does not have the opportunity for such an epiphany. An Jie in the original book is more like a woman who is forced to accept her fate, although she enjoys the rich material conditions brought by Jiang Defu, she always feels dissatisfied and aggrieved in her life.
Over time, An Jie gave birth to many children in disgust, pain, grievances and struggles. In the end, she becomes a rural woman that she once hated and despised. Seeing such An Jie, I can't help but feel sad. The sad thing is that a woman who once had dreams and pursuits, but did not get real happiness in her marriage, and finally could only accept her fate and gradually fall.
However, we also need to recognize that marriage is not the whole story of life. For women, even if they don't get real happiness in marriage, there are other ways to pursue their dreams and values. We should encourage women to be brave enough to pursue their own happiness rather than being forced to accept the arrangement of fate. Lucky for her, everything went pretty well.