On January 28, a woman who married far away in Anhui wanted to go back to her parents' home for the New Year and was slapped by her father-in-law, and was also scolded for "the water splashed by the married daughter", which attracted attention. This incident not only reveals the contradictions and conflicts in family relationships, but also provokes deep thinking about traditional concepts and modern values.
Since ancient times, there have been many geniuses in comments, and quatrains through the ages come casually, let's take a look at how netizens comment, the comments are mainly divided into two views, one is in favor of returning to their parents' homes for the New Year, and the other is against returning to their parents' homes for the New Year.
1. Approve of going back to your parents' home for the New Year
Netizen 1:I feel that my husband beats my daughter-in-law, it's incredible! Why hit people? People stay away from your parents and go back to your parents' house once every three years, what's wrong? Something that should be taken for granted.
Netizen 2:If I must fight back, my parents have never beaten me, why should you be beaten, such a life under the fence is just that!
Netizen 3:Why can the mother's family only be a relative's husband's family! People work hard to raise their daughters, give birth to children in their husband's family and serve their in-laws, and their parents can't take care of it, why? Fair!
Netizen 4:There are very few such fathers-in-law, which is very unusual! The parents of both parents should support the young couple during the Chinese New Year, and the old concepts of the new society must keep pace with the times. In a few days, my son and daughter-in-law will go to my in-laws' house for the New Year, I prepared wine and our local specialties for my in-laws, and it is not easy for my in-laws to raise their daughters, and the family will be reunited during the New Year, and it is normal for people to have a family reunion! Long live understanding!
Netizen 5:Life in the world can not end the year, earn endless money, women are married to your family, occasionally go back to their parents' house for the New Year to accompany their parents for the New Year is understandable, I hope that the father-in-law can also understand the daughter-in-law, now is a harmonious society, I hope that the family is harmonious.
Netizen 6:What age is it now, I went back to my parents' house for the New Year, my in-laws never said anything, and said that I would go back once a year to let me stay longer! Even my grandmother was a bad mother-in-law in my mother's time, and she didn't say that she wouldn't let her go back to her parents' house in the New Year!
Netizen 7:Is it a shame for a father-in-law to beat his daughter-in-law? What kind of family style? How much did your family spend on a daughter-in-law? What about an only child? Can't you negotiate? Therefore, women's confidence comes from being good enough, from the support and shelter given by their parents and husbands. Buy a house by yourself and live your own life, no one will rely on it, and whoever will have your parents will support the elderly, which is very fair.
Netizen 8:Sister, impulsiveness is the devil, but, I support your impulse, there are only 0 and countless times of domestic violence! You have a sensible husband, your decisiveness is also correct, come on to be yourself, don't wronged yourself in order to cater to others!
Netizen 9:It's like wrapping small feet, you say this is the rule, why was the foot wrapping abolished, now there are fewer people in every family, a son and a daughter are fine, only the daughter can't see a child during the New Year, so it's still called the New Year? If you have the ability, you will take your in-laws to live together, and if you can't bear it, you will go back to your own house for the New Year, and everyone will go home, and you don't shudder.
Netizen 10:It's too ignorant to be backward and ignorant! No matter who she marries, a woman must have herself! If you want to go back to your parents' house and are popular, prepare something for your in-laws' family for the New Year in advance. There is no need for parents-in-law and mother-in-law to agree, the times are different, how to live well! You can also buy tickets in advance to book a hotel and accompany your children to spend a year of leisure travel.
2. Oppose going back to your parents' home for the New Year
Netizen 1:Our custom here is that married daughters are not allowed to spend the New Year in their parents' house, not only the Spring Festival, but also the main festivals, such as Qingming Festival, Spring Festival, August Festival, etc.
Netizen 2:Since ancient times, the daughter who has been married cannot go back to her parents' house for the New Year, and she can usually go back, this woman is just looking for trouble.
Netizen 3:The traditional Chinese must celebrate the New Year at the man's house on the thirtieth day of the Chinese New Year, and the woman can return to her mother's house after the second day of the new year.
Netizen 4:If you get married, your husband's family is your home, you can go back to your parents' house occasionally, it's better to spend the New Year in your husband's house, and if you put your mother's family first every time, it will be light.
Netizen 5:The Chinese tradition and the inheritance of the nation's family culture are almost gone....Chinese New Year's Eve family reunion, you go to your mother's house for reunion dinner, is your husband a son-in-law? After eating Chinese New Year's Eve dinner at home, you can leave relatives at any time.
Netizen 6:Objectively speaking: this is a problem of regional customs and traditional consciousness. Don't accept rebuttals, but look at the usual: Isn't it the Spring Festival to go back to your parents' home, is the union so radical! (If conditions permit, go to your mother's house after the second day of the first lunar month, and it may be more suitable and harmonious to take care of both sides!) ）
Netizen 7:The custom in many places is that the girl returning to her mother's house for the New Year is not very good for the son and in-law of the mother's family, especially the two days of the Chinese New Year's Eve and the first day of the new year, this girl can completely postpone two days after this period and then go back.
Netizen 8:Our daughters who generally marry out here are the second year after the new year to return to their parents' home, and they have to be sent back by the family, now it is convenient, you can make an appointment in advance, if the family is not enough, you can go back by yourself, the year is generally not in the mother's house, after all, it is married out to spend a complete year in the current home.
Netizen 9:When you go home, who does the work at home during the New Year, and who cooks and washes dishes with relatives at home, are all used to it, and Kong Lao Er set these rules to harm people.
Netizen 10:There is indeed this custom, and married daughters do not look at their mother's lamp during the New Year. Especially if there are married brothers in the family, the daughter must pay attention. It's not feudal superstition, but human sophistication. Because other people's brothers and daughters-in-law also have their mothers' families, and they are also the daughters of other people's families, don't they want to be their own mothers during the New Year? When you go back to your parents' house for the New Year, when you go home to eat and drink, you are comfortable, and your brother and daughter-in-law can't go back to your mother's house, and you have to serve your daughter's aunt's family to eat and drink, it will be unbalanced, there will be complaints, and family conflicts. Compare your heart to your heart!
If you were in such a situation, what would you do? Feel free to leave your point of view!