Recently, when I ** "Ode to Joy" again, I noticed a question, that is, why did Andy leave Wei Wei so resolutely? I think it's because he likes the character so much. After leaving, Andy begins his journey, his mind filled with the time Wei Wei spent with him. With so many memorable moments, why can't we come together against all barriers? I think that's a very important reason. If I look at Andy's situation from a real-life perspective, I might be more inclined to say that she would choose Wei Wei, but what is the reason for this?
Although the businessman places a high value on profits, for Wei Wei, Andy is undoubtedly the person he loves deeply.
Wei Wei and Andy first met on a forum, and both have similar interests. If it weren't for the search for family, Andy and Wei Wei might have actually come together. There is no doubt that Andy may not have really understood the nature of love in the first place, so he mistakenly regarded friendship as true love.
Andy and Wei Wei share similar interests and hobbies in many fields. He likes to draw, he also likes **, he loves to read books more, and he often goes to the movies with him. However, around Andy, apart from the boss of Lao Tan, he has not established a deep friendship with other members of the opposite sex. His boss is a very personality person, he likes to play outside, likes to watch movies, and when he likes to watch movies, he will call himself **, or call ** to the company to chat with everyone. Therefore, after getting along with Wei Wei as friends, Andy felt a certain dependence on Wei Wei to some extent.
As for Wei Wei, he is not only a business person, but also a fairly successful business person. How did he manage to survive the financial crisis when his company was almost brought down, and how did he manage to survive until now and make a lot of money? As Tan points out, those who survived the financial crisis may seem a little selfish in some way. Wei Wei's feelings for Andy are undoubtedly sincere. Because of this, when Andy wants him to leave, he will respect her decision, which also fully shows his deep affection for Andy.
The duel between Wei Wei and Mr. Xiaobao, whether it is a spiritual or a life partner, this time it is undoubtedly a victory for the life partner.
From a psychological point of view, we are often more inclined to spend the rest of our lives with our spiritual partners. Because, we will feel that we are happy. However, this time, Wei Wei, as someone who has an in-depth knowledge of Andy, unfortunately lost the game precisely for this reason.
It can be seen from Andy's past interactions with Wei Wei that Andy has both admiration and admiration for Wei Wei. For Andy, Wei Wei prefers to get to know her better and give her help so that he can really integrate into her life. Wei Wei's point of view was correct, but he seemed to become a little impatient, which made Andy feel a deep fear.
For Wei Wei and Andy, whether it is at the spiritual level or the ideological level, they are more inclined to the deep integration of the spiritual world. In their view, they both need a sense of integration and identity in order to become a true "self". However, unfortunately, there are also certain boundaries between communication and integration, so once these boundaries are broken, two people may end up going their separate ways.
From the perspective of ordinary people, we actually expect someone to have a deeper understanding of us, to be able to penetrate our hearts, so that our communication and relationship will be more harmonious. However, when he encountered a problem, he could not always tell what was going on with him. Therefore, in the company of the spiritual level, Wei Wei's failure this time is indeed shocking, and this failure seems to be a little unreasonable.
As for the overall situation of the small package? But they don't feel as satisfied and happy about their lives as many do. This seemingly frivolous rich kid who lives a gaming life, despite his strong educational background, started his own company. But from a certain point of view, he may not know Andy well enough, and he may deliberately avoid things that may upset Andy and respect Andy's decision.
Observing the relationship between Mr. Xiaobao and Andy, we can find that they are more like partners in life, Xiaobao is always full of fun and respects Andy's decisions in daily life. In his opinion, he should be able to do a good job, and Xiaobao can help him do a lot of things, such as accompanying him on trips, accompanying him to the suburbs, and so on. For Andy at the time, it was definitely the most ideal decision. Because she doesn't like to be in a relationship with someone, she chooses to live alone instead of living with him. Considering that she doesn't want to meet someone who knows everything about her, Xiaobao is always so appropriate and fun, which is why Andy chose him.
However, if we put this relationship into real life, we will find that Xiaobao may not be the best person for Andy because he doesn't know Andy well enough.
If he knew anything about Andy, would he still have a mysterious sense of her because of it? In other words, if they always maintain a state of lack of deep understanding, will there be a gap between the two of them when they really live together in the future? What kind of relationship should they maintain to avoid conflict, so that they can develop together and ultimately achieve a win-win situation? These are all questions that deserve in-depth consideration.
Although Mr. Xiao Bao is finally accepted by Andy, the practical problems he faces are indeed worrying, and he worries that this relationship may not last long.
Wei Wei is a sympathetic person, and he firmly believes that his feelings should be deep and thorough, but Andy's actual situation tells her that this is impossible.
Wei Wei helps Andy find his relatives, which leads to a series of difficulties such as recognizing his relatives, which makes Andy, who has been abandoned since childhood, full of confusion and fear. He knew that all this was something he had done that was not worth paying for, so he had been trying to escape. Andy has been insecure since she was a child, so she always chooses to protect herself with a cold attitude. But in fact, if this method is overused, it is difficult to really open her heart, let alone let people go deep into her heart.
Both in terms of knowledge and interests, Wei Wei and Andy have striking similarities. This is because he always has a businessman's flavor in his personality. However, it should be noted that Wei Wei is different from Andy. Although both he and Andy are sane, he shows the wit and sophistication of a businessman.
In the play, Wei Wei, Andy, Qu Xiaoxuan, and Dr. Zhao play cards together, but unfortunately, Qu Xiaoxuan and Dr. Zhao lose the match, which leads to a heated argument between them. Later, they play poker again, and the loser wants to win the opponent, but the loser is unwilling to hand over the cards to the opponent. In the end, due to a joke between Andy and Wei Wei, Qu Xiaoxuan completely exposed his cultural level. Dr. Zhao felt very embarrassed and desperate to leave.
Wei Wei was aware of the problem between the two from the beginning, so he hoped that Andy would be able to release the water while playing. But sadly, Andy takes entertainment as seriously as he does work. When he plays, he also notices the loser, but this time, he didn't care. In the end, only Qu Xiaoxuan and Dr. Zhao were defeated.
After that, Wei Wei explained the reason behind it to Andy, from which it can be seen that in a single game, he almost completely understood the thinking and character of each player.
Andy finally chose to break up with Wei Wei, mainly because Wei Wei knew her too deeply, and he was able to gain insight into her true thoughts, which made Andy feel deep fear. In his heart, she was a very strong and fragile girl. Andy's overprotection of herself, coupled with concerns about a possible hereditary mental illness in her family, weighs a heavy psychological burden on her heart. She felt that she should focus on her work instead of pursuing love and family life. Therefore, at that time, she was not suitable for their future with Wei Wei.
Wei Wei desperately hopes that things will have a clear ending, which causes him to lose himself in his hurry, and also makes Andy feel a strong dislike for him. He knows that his thoughts are not correct, so he will try to create some trouble and obstacles for himself to stop him. From this point of view, Wei Wei doesn't seem to have made much of a mistake. What did he do to himself? After all, his intentions were good, and he wanted Andy to be with him, so he tried to get to know her. If this really happened in reality, then there wasn't much wrong with it, because no one wouldn't want to have a deeper, more comprehensive understanding of their loved ones? But if you put it in the network, there are many impossibilities. Therefore, on an emotional level, Wei Wei is indeed a sympathetic person.
Here's a summary:
I have read the idea that in the world of love, women's weaknesses are not weakness or bottomless tolerance and compromise, but their willingness to be frank about their weaknesses, confusion and inadequacies after their partner has given them enough love, security and respect. In this process, she will express her true thoughts and emotions more fully and nuancedly, and strive to let the other party understand the message she wants to convey in various ways. Such a display is more of a spiritual aspect that is willing to be shared with those closest to you. Gentleness is an attitude, but also an ability. By exchanging soft interactions in a gentle way, not only can you bring your hearts and minds closer to each other more effectively, but it will also make it easier to build a healthy intimate relationship.
Wei Wei's strategy is actually to expect them to have more spiritual resonance, and he hopes that Andy can show her weaknesses so that he can also provide her with more security. However, he doesn't give much thought to Andy's current situation and her inner thoughts, which is why he finally decided to let Andy cut ties with him.
In the work "Ode to Joy", do you prefer Xiao Bao Zong or Wei Wei? In real life, have you ever thought that you also have a small bag? If you were Andy, in reality, would you really be inclined to choose the small bag total? If you have different ideas and opinions, let's take a look at our perspective! You are welcome to leave a comment below.