Although Qu Xiaoxuan likes to cause trouble, she also appreciates the beauty of adults. When Andy took her to see Bao Yifan for the first time, Qu Xiaoxuan made up her mind to promote the marriage between Andy and Bao Yifan. She realizes that only when Andy is with Bao Yifan can he reveal his true self.
However, Andy disagreed, saying, "Where did you get this idea from?".I have a good relationship with Brother Wei, so you'd better stop causing trouble. ”
Qu Xiaoxuan looked at Andy without mind
Andy, I think your time with Bao Yifan is more enjoyable than the time you spend with Brother Wei. You are with him as if your soul has been set free, and there is a golden glow on your body. You told me before, were you cold to me?But today, I realize that you're not that cold. ”
Andy doesn't believe that although she is very disgusted with Bao Yifan's intemperate behavior and Wei Wei's erudite humor, how can she have deep feelings for Bao Yifan?
The relationship between men and women is sometimes difficult to clarify and express in words. Maybe it's the fate of one person!Andy himself doesn't know, but since when has this cynical rich second-generation Bao Yifan taken root in his heart.
Wei Wei was not satisfied with the status quo, he believed that Bao Yifan took advantage of this opportunity to deliberately pester Andy and disturb her mood when there were contradictions and entanglements between him and Andy. But is this really true?If Bao Yifan doesn't show up, will Andy and Wei Wei really move on?
I'm afraid it's impossible!
In Andy's view, Wei Wei does not have the "quality of **".
In the movie "Ode to Joy", Andy showed an elite temperament as soon as he appeared. She has a delicate and sweet face, her eyes are full of love and longing for life, she has conquered every audience with her unique charm, and has also won the love of countless fans. She is tall and beautiful, with a cold temperament, and it is difficult for men not to look back at her when they staggered past her.
However, in this way, she regards men as "flood beasts", and would rather dress like a lost loved one than dress herself up like a flower to attract people's onlookers. She was a beautiful and poor woman. In Andy's limited memories, his mother suffered endless pain from encountering inappropriate people many times because of her beautiful appearance.
An unhappy childhood requires a whole life to heal. But it's not that simple, and a lot of things have changed without even noticing. We've always thought that as we get older, everything will be a thing of the past. However, many people don't realize that some bad things, once they happen, will only get fresher over time and not disappear completely.
Andy is like that, and until now, she has never forgotten the men who had an illicit relationship with her mother in remote areas, and they still reluctantly reached out to her;I can't forget my children, who are so cute and simple by her side. I will never forget the moment when I was overwhelmed by the big kids bullying me in the orphanage.
Therefore, such Andy, he just wants to live the life of a "nun" and does not care about the relationship between men and women at all.
In fact, Andy doesn't need to be bothered by love, because she is so dedicated to her work that she has no time to interact with men who have a crush on her. This point has been widely circulated in her circle of friends. However, Wei Wei's sudden appearance makes Andy feel overwhelmed, and he unknowingly falls into a trap related to "love".
Andy and Wei Wei are both online friends, and they first met in a not-so-luxurious restaurant. The first time they met, they were called "webworms". At that time, Andy had just returned to China and had developed a strong interest in this netizen who was both intelligent and erudite, so he was eager to meet him.
After the meeting, Andy looked a little lost, she observed that Wei Wei was not as tall as her, he also wore glasses, and he looked slightly down, and he looked in his forties overall. She didn't understand why she felt this way about him, but she couldn't deny that it was the charm that emanated from him. As the saying goes, men value their visual experience, and women are no exception. However, there didn't seem to be anything particularly obvious in his eyes, and even the eyes weren't as sharp as his, just a little melancholy. Men who are quite good looking and in shape tend to give people the feeling of bathing in the spring breeze.
Regrettably, Andy didn't have such an emotional reaction after meeting Wei Wei for the first time. He looks very Sven on the outside, but he is actually an out-and-out "bad boy", and he is not very honest in what he says and does. In addition, during a conversation with Wei Wei, Andy realized that this man was scheming and lacked sincerity. In his opinion, a person's character often determines a person's fate. In human interactions, the most intolerable thing is mixed with suspicion and temptation. In this society, everyone wants to be a smart woman, but this does not mean that you have to be careful everywhere. Especially in the relationship between a man and a woman who wishes to develop further, if one of the partners shows excessive caution and shrewdness, then the other party will certainly show great wisdom and reveal every inadequacy in your words.
Andy is always like this, she will carefully recall every sentence Wei Wei said, and parse the truth of those words and the meaning behind them word by word. He made it clear that it all stemmed from his love for her. Andy, a man who knows very little about the world, is clearly a novice when it comes to interpersonal interactions, especially with men. Therefore, before she fully understood Wei Wei's intentions, she had fallen into the tender "trap" carefully designed by Wei Wei.
When Wei Wei revealed the news that he was Andy's boyfriend to the sisters of Ode to Joy, everyone present was stunned. Because they couldn't believe that these two people could have such similar looks and personalities. Wei Wei's appearance is not outstanding, and when he and Andy stand together, their relationship is more like that of father and daughter than a couple. Everyone said, how could this kid love him so much?Andy's close friend Tan Songming also thinks that Wei Wei and Andy are not a good match. "Why does he love you so much?He said without minus a in the word: "In this relationship, you underestimate your abilities. ”
Andy disagrees, saying: "It's not a deal, in a relationship, the most important thing is to find the right partner. ”
However, everyone is vulnerable and cannot withstand any kind of challenge. When you show him unabashedly, what I really care about is Mr. Wei, who may not be as good as you think. I'm really worried that you're going to get hurt. ”
Andy glanced at Tan Songming with a smile, but at this moment, she couldn't understand Tan Songming's inner worries at all. She is a typical "female man", a woman with a man-like personality and temperament. She only knew that Wei Wei was not only smart and knowledgeable, but also very good to her. She knows, she's mentally ill, she's sick, but not mentally ill!Despite knowing that she has the genetic genes for mental illness, she never gives up. This is because she feels that he loves her as much as he loves a man. Therefore, Andy, who has always been resistant to men, finally chose to accept Wei Wei.
Despite Andy's verbal "acceptance", his body is actually very honest.
Every time Wei Wei needed to have physical contact or "deep communication" with Andy, Andy's attitude would become very cold. She would never find him in her own life, and would even feel that he was a stranger. She said her current state has been affected by childhood injuries. But when Andy and Bao Yifan are together, Andy likes Bao Yifan very much, often helping her, hugging her, or keeping a close distance from her.
It is clear that Andy's antipathy towards Wei Wei is not related to those shadows when he was a child. That was after he had just finished his trip to the "Three Qins". Why did Andy not dislike Bao Yifan, but refused Wei Wei many times?
Qu Xiaoxuan asked Andy, "Among so many men, why are you attracted to him at first sight?"”
Andy stared at Qu Xiaoxuan with a confused expression, acting as if he was listening. "How do you know?...Seeing this situation, Qu Xiaoxuan immediately opened her chatterbox:
Your heart will only beat faster when you see him for the first time so that you qualify to be his boyfriend. Once you become a boyfriend, you can still say that you have a good heart, the right person, how about such a person, do you have money?Only if these conditions are met will you be eligible to be my husband. Therefore, Andy, I have never expected much from you and Brother Wei. I've known you for so many years, but I've never seen you kiss, cuddle, or hug. This shows that Brother Wei is unattractive in front of you. ”
Andy's cheeks flushed because of the word "sexual charm", but for some reason, the shadow of "Bao Yifan" suddenly appeared in his thoughts.
Bao Yifan is a personable rich second generation, and when he opens the screen, he is as dazzling as a peacock. In front of Bao Yifan, Wei Wei was as pale as a cup of pure boiled water. He is a talented but not favored person, and it is difficult to find a suitable position for himself in the entertainment industry. If Andy is slightly inferior in appearance and ability, she may take the initiative to increase Wei Wei's "sexual attractiveness" score because of his wealth.
But in fact, Andy has outstanding appearance, outstanding ability, and free wealth, so when she meets Wei Wei, who is like the "old father", she naturally has strong feelings of resistance.
The difference between Wei Wei and Andy is clear at a glance for those with eyesight. He was a very assertive man. Wei Wei's ingenuity is naturally well known. What is he for?But why is he still pursuing Andy?Is this for love reasons?
Everyone has a pursuit of beauty, and it is difficult for a woman like Andy who is both beautiful and simple and intelligent not to be attracted to men. Although Wei Wei's appearance is not outstanding, as a male, he naturally developed a deep love for Andy's appearance. Wei Wei has struggled in the business world for many years and has never seen such a beautiful woman, and he will not develop deep feelings for Andy because of her appearance.
His pursuit of Andy is mainly because he values Andy's social networks and his innocence and controllability very much.
Elites who have returned from overseas like Andy, coupled with close friends like Tan Songming, the social network between them is naturally self-evident. Surprisingly, Andy's innocence and controllability attracted a lot of attention from Wei Wei.
After a series of probes, Wei Wei realized that Andy's skills in interpreting people's hearts were not matched by him at all. In this case, he chose to compromise. In many cases, Wei Wei always stands in a favorable position to output, while Andy always accepts it humbly. This shows that Andy will always remain in a leadership position in his future family life. He can criticize and blame his subordinates at any time, and he can also be frightened or even punished for his words. Wei Wei didn't need to put too much thought into it, and he could firmly hold Andy, who was not good at understanding people's hearts, in his own hands.
When the relationship between men and women evolves into a pattern of "control" and "being controlled", "leading" and "being led", their emotions can become deep and sad. In the eyes of many people, "being led" seems to be a good career choice, but in fact, this is a misconception. This relationship is destined to be unequal, and if this unequal relationship continues to develop, then the "leading" side will become more and more inferior and lose itself more and more.
Perhaps, in Andy's subconscious, he has realized Wei Wei's manipulation of her. He always treats his women with an almost harsh attitude, he considers himself the best man, and he does not like his wife to be the kind of gentle, virtuous, considerate person. Therefore, when he desperately wants to develop a deep relationship with Andy, he chooses to refuse and pushes him away.
On the other hand, Bao Yifan did make Andy feel more comfortable.
Although he is known as a gifted young man with an appearance that is enough to make everyone fall in love with him, in front of Andy, Bao Yifan is willing to lower his status and actively integrate into Andy's daily life. "You can let me throw all my troubles to others, but I can't let you bear it alone, because I don't love you. When Andy tried to push Bao Yifan away many times, he did not show Wei Wei's "hard-hitting" attitude, nor did he feel that his efforts would be rewarded accordingly. He knew that he was just an ordinary boy. On the contrary, Bao Yifan always accompanied Andy with affection and warmth, and patiently waited for Andy to let down his guard with sincerity.
The love described by Bao Yifan does not involve any trade-offs or calculations, what he falls in love with is only pure emotion. He loves one person, the whole of a person. He neither forces Andy, nor does he try to snoop or mentally manipulate Andy. What he loves is a pure and unpretentious feeling, which is not simply obtained, but can be expressed naturally after it is obtained. In his ardent pursuit of Andy, he has always provided Andy with plenty of freedom and space. Therefore, when Andy and Bao Yifan are together, they both feel respected and cared for.
When he was with Wei Wei, the "sense of oppression" he experienced was completely different.
In the process of the ** TV series version of "Ode to Joy", Wei Wei and Andy have always been the objects of the audience's disapproval. Both of them look so ordinary. Wei Wei's appearance is really too improper, and his scheming is also very clever. His eyes are always on other people's money and houses. After reading the original "Ode to Joy", I felt more and more that Wei Wei was not a suitable partner. His selfishness and greed are obvious, but more often than not, there is ignorance of love, a lack of understanding of human nature. He is not just a selfish person, when he is angry, he has no control at all and sometimes even acts violently towards women.
Andy rejected Wei Wei's marriage proposal because of his own mental illness genetic factors. Wei Wei verbally said, "Don't worry, I want to try it", but his body calmly avoided it. His father was a psychiatrist, and he was an ordinary high school student, and they always had a good relationship. Therefore, Wei Wei didn't say anything, just left the key card and key to Andy's house, and then left angrily.
Shockingly, just 3 days later, Wei Wei went to the airport again as a "victim" and took Andy home. After witnessing Andy and Bao Yifan having a pleasant conversation, he asked Andy to break up with some grievances.
Andy is confused, and she doesn't like to be verbose, mistakenly thinking that things have changed drastically. Her job has always been based on procrastination, but she has found that her way of dragging is becoming more and more disgusting. Considering the current procrastination, Andy chose to use Bao Yifan to provoke Wei Wei. He said, what are you doing here?He also deliberately said that he couldn't resist Bao Yifan's charm and experienced ups and downs with him for 3 days and 3 nights.
Unexpectedly, before Andy could finish his words, Wei Wei, who was extremely angry, suddenly gave Andy a slap in the face. "I don't understand, how can you treat me like this?Andy covered her face and stayed there, and at that moment, she realized that Wei Wei's "self-esteem" far exceeded his verbal "love" for her.
In fact, Wei Wei's anger was not because his girlfriend was taken away, but because his pride and conceit made him unacceptable, and he couldn't get a body that he couldn't get in 3 months, while others got it in 3 days.
When Bao Yifan saw Andy being attacked, he quickly rushed forward, as if he wanted to start a battle with Wei Wei. He thinks he's a man, but he doesn't know he's a man. In Bao Yifan's view, a man with a prominent status and status would actually commit violence against women in front of everyone, which is unacceptable to him.
However, Andy didn't want Bao Yifan to continue to cause trouble, so he used his body to block the angry Bao Yifan and told him: "He didn't hit him hard, it was all my own doing, I made him hurt." ”
Bao Yifan certainly wouldn't give up easily, but when he saw Andy's reaction, he wisely unleashed his fist. His hands were so soft that he could even feel the warm liquid flowing inside. Bao Yifan is different from Wei Wei in that he will prioritize Andy's opinion in any situation, so even if he is angry right now, he will choose to remain calm.
Perhaps it is for this reason that Bao Yifan may become an irreplaceable presence in Andy's life in the future. He is a very assertive person, and he believes that love is the most important thing. After this experience, Andy finally realized that Wei Wei was too entangled in "gains and losses" in love, too utilitarian, and really not suitable for him.
In fact, for Andy, who did not love her deeply in childhood, what he really needs is not a man like Wei Wei who has always wanted to calculate and control her, but a man like Bao Yifan, who is unreservedly and wholeheartedly good to her. Before meeting Bao Yifan, Andy had mistakenly thought that love was a kind of worship, but when she actually met Bao Yifan, she realized that true love is tolerance, deep care and unreserved devotion.
It is gratifying that it was Bao Yifan who taught her the true meaning of loveLuckily, she had the opportunity to spend the rest of her life with Bao Yifan.