In the book Do You Know? Did you know? In the original work of "It Should Be Green, Fat, Red and Thin", in addition to his son Gu Tingwei, Xiao Qin's family also has a daughter named Gu Tingcan. is different from Gu Tingwei's mediocrity, Gu Tingcan is as beautiful as a flower, and she is a well-known talented woman in the capital. However, her ending is embarrassing. What is the reason for this daughter of the Hou Mansion to play a good hand of cards?
First of all, her parents set a wrong example for her. As the only daughter of the old marquis Gu Yankai, Gu Tingcan resembles his late aunt Da Qin in appearance. The old man in the house once described the Great Qin clan as beautiful as autumn lotus, quiet and beautiful, good at poetry, proficient in qufu, and excellent at piano, chess, calligraphy and painting. Although Gu Tingcan's appearance is similar to that of the Great Qin Clan, his personality is not the same. Guided by her parents, consciously or unconsciously, she struggled to imitate her dead aunt since she was a child. Because the more she feels like the Great Qin Clan, the more her father loves her. Sometimes the mother is difficult to talk about, she goes to the father to beg, and she can always get satisfaction.
However, the Great Qin clan was not suitable to be a wife. She was weak and unable to give birth for many years, and in that era of "unfilial piety has three, and no queen is great", she was unwilling to let Gu Yan open a concubine room. As long as her husband went to the room of the concubine's room, she fainted, which made Gu Yankai feel distressed and guilty. For her sake, Gu Yankai dismissed the concubine room. In addition, the Great Qin clan is not filial to his in-laws. Once her mother-in-law only served her a dish once, she was "tired" and fainted (I don't know if she really fainted), let alone serving her mother-in-law. Such a woman can only live a harmonious life when she meets a husband like Gu Yankai who accommodates her. But how many such men can there be in the world? Besides, Gu Yankai is good to the Great Qin Clan, but he is not a good son to his parents.
Just imagine, if the Great Qin Clan had been living so sickly and weakly, Gu Yankai might not really marry someone else, nor would he accept the concubine room. Even if there is a Gu Tingyu, he is just as sick and weak, and Sister Xian'er has a daughter, which is equal to no queen. Can there be good results for a daughter to imitate such a woman?
Secondly, a talented woman does not mean that she is smart, although Gu Tingcan is full of poetry and books, she is not familiar with human feelings. She is quite accomplished in poetry, but she seems a little naïve and innocent when faced with complex interpersonal relationships and social realities. This is especially evident in her relationship with her husband.
Based on the above reasons, we can see the reason why Gu Tingcan's good hand is sparsely played. Not only did she imitate an example that didn't fit, but she lacked insight and understanding of human sophistication. In such a situation, even if you have high talent and beauty, it is difficult to achieve true happiness and success in life. Therefore, it is crucial for us to choose the right role models as we grow up, to understand the human world, and to develop all-round qualities and abilities. When Minglan first got married, although she was talented, she didn't know anything about female workers, needlework, bookkeeping, family management, and human sophistication. She had a cold attitude towards her second brother and never gave a good face. However, she didn't realize that the current second brother had become the emperor's upstart, and the future Hou Mansion would be inherited by him. In contrast, the third brother's future is not great, and she herself will get married sooner or later, and her mother's family can only rely on the second brother. Although she doesn't have to be too close to her brother and sister-in-law, as long as she maintains basic politeness in front of them, with the character of the second brother and sister-in-law, no matter what difficulties she encounters in her in-laws' house in the future, they will definitely support her.
After marrying Han Cheng, she has never managed her family or affairs, and of course, she will not. She is always indulged in poetry and songs, and she doesn't look like she has a life. In getting along with her husband, she often quarreled, ridiculed, and even went back to her parents' house to complain, which increased family conflicts. When she is asked to make a dish, she will faint; When she asked her to say hello to her mother-in-law, she said she was too tired; When she was asked to be filial to her mother-in-law, she said that her husband was foolish and filial and did not cherish his wife. Which mother-in-law would like such a daughter-in-law?
Han Cheng also felt a headache for her. He really doesn't understand, asking his wife to ask his mother to say goodbye and be filial to his mother, this is the principle of the world, it is reasonable, why is it like a chicken and a duck when he comes to his wife? He also really loved her, but unfortunately, the couple's happiness after marriage only lasted for a few months. Soon, all the sweetness was replaced by endless bickering. A wife is like a child who will never grow up, always asking others to coax her and hold her. If you are a little unsatisfactory, you will cry endlessly.
Because his wife had not given birth for many years, the princess's mother-in-law gave Han Cheng a concubine. The wife scolded her husband for being ruthless, thinking that her aunt had not been born for ten years, and her father had never taken a concubine. Han Cheng finally became angry and said loudly: "When your father meets the daughter of the Qin family, it is the blood mold that has fallen for eight generations!" almost got no heirs, and in the end, the family was almost ruined, and the decades-old mansion called your good third brother to burn it down! Although I have no talent, I don't dare to learn from my father-in-law. After hearing these words, his wife was furious, picked up the ink inkstone on the kang table and smashed it, and at the same time smashed the last bit of husband and wife love between them. Han Cheng brushed his sleeves away.
In addition, Gu Tingcan, like her mother Xiao Qin, does not treat maids as people, even if they are confidants. This selfish behavior aroused the disgust of the public. Maids are also human beings, and they should be treated with respect and kindness. But in the eyes of this young lady, they seemed to be mere tools to satisfy her own selfish desires and vanities. This attitude is not only chilling, but also raises questions about her character and personality. In the princess's mansion, she was accompanied by many maids, but as the years passed, they disappeared one by one, but Ling'er was still by her side. Ling'er has served her since she was a child, and she is conscientious and hardworking. Although she has an arrogant personality, is not good at handling interpersonal relationships, and has repeatedly offended people, Ling'er always greets her with a smile and uses gentle words to resolve the crisis.
When Ling'er reached marriageable age, she did not let Ling'er leave, but blocked Ling'er's beautiful marriage. Her mother had instructed her third brother to kill her second brother's family, and eventually reaped the consequences. And in this case, she disregarded the face of her husband's family and insisted on suing her second brother for the royal complaint, reversing black and white. However, due to her lack of intelligence and Ling'er's betrayal, her letters were intercepted by her in-laws, and the royal petition was not made (of course, even if she did, it might not be useful).
Eventually, she was confined to a quiet room in the backroom courtyard, which was cold and damp, guarded only by a few eccentric mute women. Ling'er also said that with Gu Tingcan's character, she may not be able to survive for a long time. That kind of bleak and difficult environment is definitely not something that a delicate flower like Gu Tingcan, who grew up in a greenhouse, can bear.
Due to her poor treatment of the maid and her crazy behavior, Ling'er knew that continuing to follow her would not end well, and despite repeated advice, Gu Tingcan never listened. Years of resentment and self-preservation prompted Ling'er to make the decision to betray her.
On the other hand, the three women of Minglan, Hua Lan and Rulan, how they treat their henchmen. Minglan carefully arranged the dowry for Xiao Tao and Dantang, and properly arranged their marriage, even if she was reluctant in her heart, she would never force them to stay by her side; Hua Lan shared hardships with Cuichan in difficult times, and still trusted her when she married into the housekeeper; Rulan and the little magpie share weal and woe, the little magpie is seriously injured for helping Rulan, and Rulan stands up to block the board for her.
After getting married, the little magpie still followed Rulan to the Wen family. The sister-in-law said angrily to Ling'er: "This mother and daughter are both virtuous, and they never treat the maid as a human being!" Our family worked for them all their lives, and in the end, my man was still implicated and beaten to death. Until my mother-in-law was angry, Mrs. Tai didn't give an explanation to our mother and son, but just told us to continue to work hard and haha! Bah! ”。
If you don't treat the maid as a human being, they will naturally not treat you as a master. All the affection in the world is mutual. The Buddha said: If you plant cause and effect, everything is predestined.