My name is Yu Dagui, 55 years old this year, my eldest son is over 30 years old, he talked about a girlfriend when he graduated from college, and my son told me some time ago that the two of them are going to get married.
I was very happy to hear it, don't parents look forward to the day when their children will start a family?
After my son graduated from college, he lived with this girlfriend, and the two of them have lived together for five or six years.
I've urged them to get married many times before, but they haven't agreed, and recently they finally relented and decided to get married.
I've got my eldest son's wedding room ready.
The year before last, my hometown built a highway, which happened to occupy a piece of land in my family, and gave a subsidy of more than 700,000 yuan.
Coupled with the savings of my wife and I for so many years, I bought a wedding house for my eldest son.
When I first bought the house, my wife and I were quite happy, after all, after buying the house, there was still a little money left in our hands, and when the children's house came down, we would decorate it, and then get married.
The woman's family is from the province, and our family is quite far away, I am afraid that their customs and habits are different from ours, before meeting the woman's parents, I asked my son to inquire about the woman's aspects, what conditions do you want to put forward for marriage?
Inquire in advance, I know in my heart, and I should make some preparations in advance.
The son ran to ask the woman's parents for a request, which was okay without asking, but I was really startled when I asked.
The woman's parents, the lion, opened their mouths wide and asked me for itA bride price of 300,000 yuan, and it is required to have60,000 yuan of three goldhouseCarsDecoration, home appliancesIt's all my house.
When getting married, the bride will hold a cornucopia in her hand, and when she gets in the car, the woman's family puts 10,000 yuanI had to put 10,000 when I got off the bus, I still have to give it when the bride changes her wordsA change fee of 10,001 yuan.
I was really shocked when I heard it, I had to pay nearly 2 million to get married.
I originally thought that after the eldest son got married, there would be some money left in his pocket, and the second son would have enough money to go to college.
But according to his family's requirements, I not only had to clean the money in my pocket, but I also had to go out and borrow money, and I had to go into debt.
The point is that the woman saidThere are no rules for marriage in her family, and when their daughter marries, they won't marry a penny.
After my son came back and told me all this, my wife and I were so frightened that we sat on the bed and didn't get up for a long time.
If there is only one son in the family, it is fine, but the problem is that there is a second son in the family who is in high school.
After the college entrance examination, he will go to college immediately, and after going to college, he will get married, buy a house, and buy a car.
Our old couple are now in their 50s, and we can't work hard to earn money like when we were young, and when the second one gets married, what should we do?
There is really no way, I asked my eldest son to discuss with the woman's family, can the bride price be less? We will make a down payment for the car, and let the two of us pay the rest of the loan by ourselves.
The woman's family has no dowry, and I don't care.
I thought, it's a big deal that I don't keep all the money in my pocket, as long as I don't leave a debt for my second son.
The eldest son conveyed my words to the woman, but I didn't expect the woman's parents to be very tough and said:
The bride price of 300,000 yuan cannot be less, the car does not accept loans, it must be bought before marriage, and the house and car must be added to the woman's name, otherwise the marriage will not be discussed.
As soon as I heard the woman's attitude, I was also angry, and I felt that they were not marrying their daughter.
To be honest, we don't agree with my son's girlfriend, it's people from other provinces, and she's still very short at 1.57 meters.
It was only for the sake of their cohabitation that I was willing to agree to their marriage.
I didn't expect me to back down again and again, but the woman's side had to inch in, saidFor a penny less, this matter is not to be discussed.
We are just an ordinary family, and I really can't afford to marry such an expensive daughter-in-law.
I said:Then what about love, son, if you have to get married, you can make money to marry this daughter-in-law yourself, your father and I can't help you marry this daughter-in-law back.
This marriage is considered to have collapsed, and the two children have not mentioned it for a long time.
After about a year or so, I thought that the two of them were settled, but I didn't expect my eldest son to come back to me this summer and say:The woman relented, the car can not be bought first, the bride price is only 100,000 yuan, and the three gold are 50,000 yuan in cash, but the house must be written with the girl's name.
I discussed it with my wife, and I felt that this request was not excessive, after all, my son was about to be 30 years old, and the two children must have feelings for so long, since the woman is willing to retreat, then I am also willing to sit down and discuss together.
The attitudes of the old people on both sides eased, and the two children reunited and lived together again.
Last month, the woman's parents proposed to meet and have dinner together and talk about marriage.
My wife and I happily bought a lot of gifts and went to the woman's house for an appointment.
We drove for 11 hours to get to the woman's house, but when we arrived, they got cold and we didn't see anyone for a day.
At the dinner table, the woman's parents were arrogant and frivolous, and I asked them when they would get married, and her father actually said: ".I don't think their relationship is very stable yet, and they are not in a hurry to get married
As soon as I heard this, the fire came up, isn't this a trick?
I got up early in the morning, bought so many things, and drove hundreds of miles to your house, just to hear you say this?
If you feel that your attitude is unstable and you are not in a hurry to get married, why do you call us over?
Just so that we can see you play a role?
I was so angry that I said, ".If you're not in a hurry, then forget it.
Then he dragged his wife and turned around and left.
After that, my son called me ** and asked, what should he do with the girl's marriage? Is it just so indistinct to continue to be there?
I said:That's right, didn't the woman's father say, aren't you still in a relationship now? Then the two of you will continue to live together, and when the girl's belly grows and she gives birth to a child, the relationship will be stable.