Be filial to your parents
I once saw a piece of news.
The ninety-year-old bachelor lives alone on the street, and although he has given birth to four children, no one cares about ......him
Seeing this scene, it really brought tears to my eyes.
The so-called "raising children to prevent old age", I thought that I had a son and a daughter, and I worked hard to raise them, and I could have a person to rely on, but the truth always backfired.
There is a good saying: "A mother raises ten children, ten sons are not as good as a mother", it can be seen that when they are old, children are not dependable, what can really be relied on is not children, nor spouses, only themselves!
When people are old, if they want to live a better life, they must keep these three things, which is the biggest way to escape.
1. Your own pension money.
Uncle Li, who is almost 80 years old, asked his son to send him to the doctor because of unbearable pain in his legs, but he refused every time on the grounds that he was busy with family affairs. In desperation, Mr. Li could only rely on painkillers to make ends meet.
Uncle Li's legs have always been stubborn, and Old Man Li's son has been taking care of him all these years. At that time, Mr. Li still saved some money, and whenever Mr. Li said that there was something difficult in the family, Mr. Li would help him as much as possible.
Last year, his grandson was going to get married and buy a house, and Mr. Li also said that his money was a little tight, Mr. Li felt that he was such a grandson, and he would have to give it to him sooner or later, and now that his grandson wants to buy a house, he simply took out the hundreds of thousands of savings he had saved and prepared to buy a house for his grandson.
However, Uncle Li never expected that when he took out all his savings, his son rarely came to see him. Now, her leg hurts so badly that she wants her son to take her to the hospital, but his son refuses. Grandpa Li regretted dying!
When you are old, don't try to rely on your own strength to create a better life for your children and grandchildren. Children have children's lives, we must believe in children's abilities, and we can't let children become children who eat soft rice.
As the saying goes, you have to rely on yourself for everything. When people are old, they must protect their pensions and leave a way out for themselves, and they must understand: it is not difficult to have money in their hands.
2. Partiality towards children.
Parents of multiple children keep saying that they want to treat everyone equally, but in real life, it is very difficult to do it equally. In everyone's heart, there are things they like and things they don't like.
When children grow up gradually, parents must restrain their partiality, even if it is partiality, they must hide it in the bottom of their hearts and not let their children know, otherwise, it is easy to cause dissatisfaction and resentment in their children's hearts.
Especially when a person is old, unable to take care of himself, and wants to rely on his children, he will realize that spoiled children are often unreliable. A neglected child, at this time, if there is any complaint, then his old age will be an extremely miserable life.
Therefore, for the elderly, we must strictly abide by the secret of "favoring children" and strive to treat every child equally, so as not to let their old age be so bleak.
3. The attitude of the head of the family.
Some elderly people, who are leaders outside, are the bosses at home, and when they are used to being the boss, even in old age, they still want their children and grandchildren to be obedient and regard themselves as the heads of the family.
But in fact, your children have long grown up, and you are no longer able to integrate into their life circle and understand their modern life and thoughts.
Sometimes, as the head of the family, the children don't say much; However, if you have to do everything and rely on the elders to decide everything, then the young people will feel uncomfortable and will slowly alienate you.
Therefore, if you want your children and grandchildren to be filial and accompany you at all times, you must put away the posture of "head of the family", try to make yourself appear approachable, and give full respect and support to the opinions and decisions of your children.
The children will respect you, respect you, and you will have a better life when you are old.
As the saying goes: when you are young, you depend on your parents, and when you are old, you rely on your children.
When people are old, they must serve the old, keep the above three secrets, and make full plans for their future lives!