In a divorce case, a male client comes to the interview with a new girlfriend. However, he was determined to fight for two childrenCustody, and said that no one should be missing. After further questioning, the man's purpose became clear: he was because of the familyConventional wisdom, thinking that the child cannot have a foreign surname"Confess the thief as a father", I also hope to meet the wishes of the family and realize the dream of the old man's inheritance.
In this case, the man pays more attention to the blood relationship and inheritance of the child, but this practice can sometimes cause harm to the child and the ex-spouse, because the man does not really want to raise the child, but out of obedience to the family concept, this choice often causes harm to the innocent mother.
Some male parties do not advocate divorce because they have the weakness of the child's mother. They have an obedient fertility tool and unpaid nanny. Most of these people are:Stay-at-home wife, inEconomyand income advantages, but they can't let go of the children they raised after the divorce, and they have been using the children as their bargaining chips to compete with their ex-spouses for property and interests.
For these people, children andCustodyBecome their bargaining chip, which they hope to passCustodyto continue to control the ex-spouse and gain more property. Even in some exceptional circumstances, they are willing to give up their property, but in order to keep the children, they will resort to various means, including throwing the children to their ex-spouses and using the children to exert pressure.
In general,AlimonyIt is paid by the parent who is not directly raising the child. Some male parties think like this: ifCustodygiven to ex-wives, they may have to pay a high amountAlimony。But if they get it themselvesCustodyAnd take care of the children yourself, you can avoid payingAlimonyThis additional expense.
This practice is out of:EconomyThe man would rather take care of the child himself than payAlimony。For them, fightCustodymeans to reduceEconomyburden, thereby reducing the losses caused by divorce.
Some of the male parties insisted on fighting for the childCustodyand expressed a sincere attitude of caring for children. They believe that having more wealth and resources can ensure that children are on the same starting line as themselves; And if the child follows the mother, it is likely to face greater difficulties and challenges.
At the same time, these fathers also have their daughter's future in mind. They fear that the stepfather may harass and abuse his daughter after the mother remarries. Out of concern for the protection and safety of their children, they insist on fighting for itCustodyto ensure that the child is able to grow up under his own shelter.
On the other hand, the conflict between the two parties has accumulated for a long time, or one party has an extreme mentality: one party is unwilling to give the child to the other party, and even expresses that he would rather send the child to a welfare home or throw it in the trash can than give it to the other party. In such cases, visitation rights are also not guaranteed.
In this case, the man usually decides to fight for his ex-spouse out of hatred and hostilityCustody。They have no regard for the needs and interests of their children, and are more concerned about making their ex-spouse feel their pain and hurt. This behavior is undoubtedly a punishment for the children and the ex-spouse.
When the divorce is made, the man insists on fighting for itCustodyUsually for a number of reasons. Some of the male parties are family-basedConventional wisdom, thinking that the child cannot have a foreign surname, and hopes to continue to pass on the family lineage; Some men use their children to control their ex-wives and achieve their own interests; There are also some men out ofEconomyConsider, hopefully paying lessAlimonythe burden of the ; Another part of the male group is genuinely caring for their children and hoping to give them a better onelifeconditions and protection; There is also a part of the men who fight out of hatred and hostilityCustodyPunish ex-spouse.
When dealing with divorce cases, the well-being and best interests of the children should be taken into account. The man fightsCustodyIt is a manifestation of their responsible attitude towards the child, but it is also necessary to weigh the actual needs of the child and the basic situation of the previous two families, and cannot ignore the rights and well-being of the child because of personal desires.
AsLawyerIt is necessary to objectively analyze the situation in each case, fully understand the motivations and considerations of the parties, and provide them with professional knowledgeLawsAdvice and help. At the same time,SocialThe relevance should be strengthenedLawsThe improvement of the system protects the rights and well-being of children, and provides them with a stable growth environment and good development conditions.