InMarriagePeople tend to make decisions based on their own realities. Sometimes, wealthy people choose luxuryWeddings, and for some noEconomyThose who are capable, they will do what they are capable of. Xiao Wu and Xiao Zhang have been in love for 8 years, and they originally thought they would step inMarriageThe palace, however, because Xiao Wu's family can't take out 18The bride price of 80,000 yuan eventually led to the breakup of the two. On this issue, we should take into account the actual situation of each person, and we cannot simply measure the sincerity and attention of the other party by the amount of money.
WeddingsThe cost is inSocialhas always been a sensitive topic. EspeciallyNingboIn the region, the amount of gift money is generally higher, generally between 100,000 and 300,000. For Xiao Zhang, she asked for 18The bride price of 80,000 yuan is not excessive, and she will also give another 100,000 as a return gift. As an only daughter, she thinks the money will be used for the construction of her new home in the future, and she also expects the man's family to provide a car as a dowry. However, they have not thought about if all the money is spent onWeddingsHow will the man's family cope with the subsequent debts?
In fact, the man's family attaches great importance to Xiao Zhang, but theirsEconomyLimited capacity. Despite this, the man tried his best to organize it within his meansWeddings。Xiao Wu is a filial child who knows everything his parents have done for him. He chose to break up, not because he didn't love Xiao Zhang, on the contrary, he didn't want to add more to his parentsEconomyBurden and stress. He said: "Our family has taken out all the money they can muster, and even borrowed some of it, and we will have to work to pay off the debt in the future." "Although the man's familyEconomyThe conditions may be worse than those of the woman, but they try to do the best they can. He hopes that the woman can empathize and understand their situation.
In recent years, there have been cases of excessive family burdens due to bride price issues. On this issue,NingboThe Municipal Intermediate People's Court also expressed its own opinion, arguing:SocialThere is no conflict between the atmosphere and traditional customs, but should be based on one's own situation. The bride price should not lead to the loss of the man's family or even a crisis. We should be neither arrogant nor impatient, and not blindly compromise for superficial beauty.
Family andMarriageThere are many factors to consider. Financials are just one of them. Marriagehappiness does not depend aloneWeddingsof prosperity and expensive. MarriageThe true meaning of the relationship lies in mutual understanding, mutual support, and mutual respect between two people. If two people choose to break up only because of a momentary money dispute, then suchMarriageDoomed to have no future.
In the momentSocialMaterial desires and external conditions often influence our response toMarriageexpectations and requirements. However, we should also understand thatMarriageIt's not just a grand oneWeddings, what is more important is whether two people can support each other and spend their lives together. Money does not measure a person's love and responsibility, let alone becomeMarriageThe determinant of happiness.
We can see that Xiao Wu's family thoughEconomyThe conditions are not as good as Xiao Zhang's family, but they are not inferior or retreat because of this. Xiao Wu and his family try their best to do their best and hope to give XiaoZhang YiA warm and happy home. It's that kind of effort and dedication that really matters.
In the selectionMarriageCompanion and handlingMarriageWhen we ask questions, we should think more from the perspective of each other and each other's families. Money and material things are not the only basis for happiness, mutual understanding, respect and support are what are trueCriticalMarriageIt is a common thing for two people, and it should be based on the premise of equality and understanding, and do what is within one's ability. Whether rich or poor, as long as two people truly love each other, support each other, and establish good communication and trust, they can create happinessMarriage
Let's cultivate together a rational and enlightened notion that we don't lose ourselves in materialism. MarriageThe meaning lies in the two people'sEmotionand tacit understanding, not the amount of bride price. Only by truly understanding and respecting each other can we be thereMarriageGo further on the long road and create a happy future.