As the saying goes, reason is not in the pitch.
In real life, we will inevitably encounter some unpleasant things and will also have arguments with others.
But as a person who is cultivated, understands reason and has a pattern, he usually disdains to be knowledgeable with others, that is: the husband is not fighting, so the world can not fight with him.
If we want to reach this state, correctly handle differences of opinion, and strive to make big things small and small things into nothing, then we must solve the following three problems.
1. Enlarge your own pattern.
Enlarging one's own pattern is not something that can be done with one sentence, but first of all, we must establish the correct three views, strengthen our self-cultivation, and learn respect and tolerance, kindness and generosity. Because only by allowing ourselves to stand at a higher level can we see a broader and more long-term view. The field of vision has become broader, the vision has become longer-term, and our view of things will be more comprehensive and objective. Then the mind will naturally become broad. A broad-minded person is a person who is intolerable to heaven and earth, people and things, and at the same time a person with a big pattern.
2. The specific circumstances of the dispute.
If the dispute involves a matter of principle, of course, we must fight on the basis of reason within the scope of our ability, and use the law as a way to protect our own rights and dignity. However, if our ability is limited, when our arms can't twist our thighs, or when our strength is weak, or when we can clearly foresee that the dispute will be more than worth the loss, or even when it violates the law, we have to be forced to choose. This is a helpless but wise move. As the saying goes, stay in the green mountains, and don't be afraid of no firewood. The wicked will be ruthless. After all, we don't want to trade our precious lives for scumbags.
But if the reason for the dispute is just some small things in life, or something at work, then it is much easier and simpler. The reason is that it is not worth it to deal with others in some small things in life. This is what people often say, taking a step back, the sea and the sky. And the bystander is clear, people, not afraid of people. Disputes, just to see if it is necessary, worth it or not. For disputes over work reasons, there is no need to make a big fuss, because the differences in work have to be discussed or voted on by everyone in the end, and the leader will make the final decision.
3. Be reasonable.
Many times, we believe that we are right, and there are plenty of facts to prove that we are right. But often when you meet a few unreasonable people, or those who like to drill the horns of the bull, then the things that were originally very simple and clear will become unreasonable when you meet the soldiers. At this time, even if we argue with reason, it is still an endless result, so we should choose to stop decisively and then turn away gracefully.
This is not to say that it is enough for us to turn away and leave, but to quickly forget about it after turning around, as if nothing happened, let alone to take it to heart and add to ourselves.
Therefore, if you can't fight with reason, you choose to be reasonable, which not only tolerates others, but also tolerates yourself because you don't take it to heart.
If you let others go, you also let go of yourself.
Follow me and don't get lost on the road of love.