The practical considerations of parents at the bottom Poor children are given priority, and Kochi cultivation is neglected!
Why do some parents from poor families prefer their children to be poor rather than cultivate their own "knowledge"?
Such a thing once caused heated discussions on the Internet. Especially after a "reunion" holiday, many people feel that returning to their hometown has become a painful thing. Between parents and relatives, there are always old-fashioned problems such as marriage urging and salary urging, which is very troublesome.
Interestingly, some people are not great at school or work, but they can stay at home for long periods of time, eat with their families, or live with them. This has also made some old people believe more and more in such a proverb: it is better to teach the poor than to teach the wise.
There are many more reasons behind this statement than this. The author argues that the lower the social status of the parent, the more likely it is to develop such a perception.
Some parents would rather "raise poor children" than "Kochi" for three reasons.
In an era when education is becoming less and less valuable, intellectuals and intellectuals certainly have different meanings. This is not to say that you can get the status of "Kochi" after finishing university, but at least you should go to a better school and use your knowledge to improve yourself. However, there are also some parents who are not impressed by this.
First, the cultivation of a high intellectual class requires increased investment in the cost of education, which necessarily realigns existing financial resources. Economic problems are one of the most difficult and common problems faced by people of lower social status.
At the same time, the importance of parents to their children's education and the work they do are also different. For the sake of their children, many parents are reluctant to let their living standards drop significantly.
For example, one of the author's former colleagues, his dad could spend 200 yuan on a treat, and he spent 50 yuan on a "useless, wasteful" copy.
Secondly, the social class of parents often affects their vision and model. Parents with low levels of education may feel the need to turn their children into intellectual elites.
Even highly educated people, even those who have gone to college, will feel that they "attach great importance to training". They have a hard time dealing with people in high society. It may also be that some parents deliberately avoid well-educated children, preferring to compare them with worse children.
If this is an instinctive reaction, then this last reason makes him feel deeply powerless and painful. It turned out that some families have made it clear that they do not want to raise the next generation of cultured and knowledgeable.
Well-educated, talented children often don't want and can't stay in the more remote towns of their hometowns. In addition, the more excellent the students and the more valued the school, they tend to go farther.
Many people will go to big cities, or go abroad to develop, and they will go for several years. However, due to the gap between the price level and the actual situation, in many cases, it is not easy to bring your parents into the house. Parents may feel that their child is "raised for nothing", and they will worry about whether the student will take care of his old age after he has become famous.
Based on such fears, some parents simply do not want to educate their children seriously in the first place. In contrast, children with poor academic performance tend to stay at home. They are not very educated and are close to their circle of friends, which leads to their similar style and language.
Different parents have different ways of raising their children, and the jury is still out on which is more beneficial to their children, "free-range" or "education-oriented".
Some people firmly believe that for the sake of children's learning conditions, it is necessary to create a good learning condition for them no matter what, and not let their mistakes ruin their children's future. Others say education isn't the most important thing, especially now that it's getting harder and harder for today's students to get a high-paying job.
We should recognize that some parents may have an ambivalent psychology because they "want their children to excel and are afraid that they are too good", and some parents "don't want themselves", that is, they are worried that their children will be admitted to Tsinghua University, and this psychology is now appearing in other ways.
From a life point of view, children cannot choose their own parents, nor can they be sure whether their parents really want to educate them. So, they have nothing else to do but face this fact. However, what is even more helpless is that some parents are struggling.
When children are younger, they may not spend much time on their studies and studies, and they may not focus too much on grades and degrees. But when they find out that someone else's grades are doing well, they put the blame on their children.
The only thing that is not taken into account is their parents, how much money they spend, how much they spend, how much money they spend, how much money they spend, so that their children have greater development. In old age, they may hear that the children of one family are doing business in Beijing, while the children of another family have sent their parents overseas.
At that time, they may complain that their children are not as good as others, but they have to "eat" in the town. But they forget that this is the education of parents for their children.
Epilogue] The genius ran away from home and was called "white raising"; The rest of the children are all "useless oil bottles". In fact, when a person becomes a parent, he often feels resentful.
Children are an extension of our lives, and their current situation and future come from our education. I think such parents can have a better view of their children, whether they are poor children or highly educated children.