It has become a social problem for children to be tired of school and leave school. There are reasons for the social and educational system, and there are also many misunderstandings among parents. There are many reasons for school boredom, including excessive make-up classes, too much study-related scolding, inability to keep up with study, depression, lack of attention, interpersonal relationships, etc. There are also many that are a mixture of several reasons. The proportion of school boredom caused by interpersonal relationships is not high, but there is a small percentage, and it is mixed with various reasons.
The main situations of school boredom and suspension due to interpersonal relationships are: interpersonal conflict with classmates, teacher-student discord, early love, and social fear; It usually occurs in children who are more sensitive, value the evaluation of others, and have a severe generalization reaction.
The child has a serious interpersonal conflict with a classmate at school, such as:Being bullied, or bullying someone and being counterattacked. Or because it is an accusatory personality or an aggressive personality, you are ostracized by those around you. If you are severely bullied or ostracized by your classmates, you will naturally not want to go to school.
Due to the serious generalization phenomenon of children, the dislike of classmates can be generalized into the dislike of school and learning, which in turn leads to boredom with school.
Bad relationship with the teacher,The dislike of teachers is generalized into the dislike of textbooks, the dislike of learning, and the dislike of school. Therefore, the discord between teachers and students can also lead to boredom. It's like being bitten by a dog, and then being afraid of all dogs. Generalization to animals with hair. More seriously, it is generalized to fur coats and plush toys.
Puppy love can lead to a love for learning or a dislike for learning
We often see on TV that an adolescent boy falls in love with a top student, so he works hard and learns better. In reality, there are many such examples. So puppy love isn't necessarily a bad thing.
But early love can also lead to school boredom, such as distraction and not being able to keep up with learning; or frustrated in love,fell in love with a top student, was rejected, or the other party changed his mind. At this time, some people will deny learning because of the denial of the top students. Disgust with school.
Therefore, when dealing with children's early love, don't rush to beat them to death. Guide puppy love to become the motivation of children.
Social phobia is not exactly a relationship, but it is also related to relationships, and it is a kind of avoidance of relationships. So bring it up together here. Social phobia is a type of anxiety disorder. Social fear can also lead to school boredom and suspensionThere are two main psychological characteristics of social phobia, one is to pay too much attention to the evaluation of others, and the other is to have a serious generalization reactionThere is usually the trauma caused by the injuries caused by others when he was a child, such as being beaten a lot when he was a child. From being afraid of one person to being afraid of everyone.
Another special thing is that due to homosexuality, due to different sexual orientations, it causes huge psychological pressure, and social fear is either ashamed to meet classmates, or to avoid social interaction, or to cause depression, and it becomes disgusted with school and suspends.
The above are the reasons for the boredom and suspension of school related to interpersonal relationships。They are not the mainstream cause of school boredom. Other causes include depression, anxiety, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, internet addiction, and parental discord, resulting in school boredom and suspension. A mixture of various causes is also common. In psychological counseling, the psychological intervention method of Jumen academic system is to adjust the psychological state of children by combining cognitive adjustment, hypnotic subconscious adjustment, and overall family intervention. (Psychological Safety Island, which provides psychological counseling with local scientific research and technology in China for people with insufficient sense of security).