How can we praise your child in the right way instead of dampening his faith?
Entry. Recently, there have been a few small things that have happened to me that I will never forget. Xiao Ming is an upper-average classmate, not the best in his studies, but he studies very hard. In mathematics, he got 80, and in his opinion, this score is okay. However, he handed in the study report with joy, but in exchange for his father's flat voice: "Yes, but no." Xiao Ming's mood suddenly became heavy. We often say that every word and deed of parents will have a great impact on their children, and in this case, the father's behavior is to expect too much from his children, but he ignores the sunshine and drizzle that should be given in the process of children's growth, that is, timely criticism and timely praise.
The balance of pros and cons.
1.1"Praise"with"Criticism"Complement each other:"Praise"Equal"Sunlight", while"Criticism"Equal"Rain and dew"。Criticism such as:"Rain and dew", the two complement each other, and there is no one.
Praise and criticism are the two major elements of family upbringing. Praise inspires children's minds and stimulates their inner energy; Criticism enables children to correct their mistakes at the right time and enable them to develop better. Together, they can better guide children's development.
Expand. Praise and criticism are both important parts of education, but to truly comprehend both languages, you need to have certain skills. First of all, criticism of children should not only be carried out in a positive way, but also let them see their own shortcomings and express appreciation for their efforts and progress. For example, for Xiao Ming's score, parents can say something like: "You have made great progress in your studies this time, but there are still some problems with the way you answer, let's see how to do it." This kind of praise, on the one hand, is a recognition of Xiao Ming's efforts, and on the other hand, it is also an opportunity to put forward some opinions and improvements for him.
1.2. Moderate criticism and sincere praise: Based on understanding and respect, both of these methods can be well solved.
Positive criticism is not a criticism of a child's mistakes, but rather a clear direction of development. When giving some useful criticism to children, parents should be careful not to generalize, but to give some targeted suggestions for improvement according to the different problems. Also, have respect and love. Children are an emotional group, and they are sensitive to their parents' tones and attitudes. Including love and understanding in criticism can not only reduce the pressure on children, but also allow them to correct their mistakes.
Expand. Praise is not just a recognition of their achievements, but also of their hard work and the progress they have made. Praise should be specific, sincere, not vague, and not deceptive. In praise, parents should pay attention to recording the achievements and progress of their children, and express praise and encouragement in clear words. This kind of praise will not only increase your self-confidence, but also make you more persevering.
Difficulties with before and after clues.
2.1. Grasp the balance: In order to strike a balance between praise and criticism, this is a work that must be continuously studied and practiced.
It can be difficult to strike a balance between praise and blame, and parents often swing back and forth between overly relaxed and overly harsh relationships. However, it's important to be aware of this, and that is to keep learning and practicing. Just like planting flowers, avoid exposing children to the hot sun or water, but give moderate light and rainfall, and praise them at the right time.
2.2 Listening and listening: Understanding children's needs and growth enables them to better balance positive and negative relationships.
In order to achieve this balance, parents must listen to and pay attention to their needs and their development journey. Young children need praise and criticism at different times. In early childhood, they need more encouragement and comfort; As teenagers, they are more likely to receive guidance and counsel from others. By communicating and paying attention to their children, parents can better understand their children's needs and strike a balance between the positive and negative aspects.
Create a positive learning atmosphere.
3.1. Teaching-centered, advocating diligence and development: teaching-centered, child-centered, child-centered, child-centered.
Create a positive, positive, positive, and positive educational environment. Giving recognition to your child's achievements is not only to praise their achievements, but also to give them the recognition they deserve. Parents should motivate and encourage their children when they achieve their goals. In this way, children's enthusiasm for learning can be fully mobilized, their self-confidence can be enhanced, and they can be fully developed.
3.2. Cultivate children's self-confidence and self-reliance: give full play to children's autonomy and autonomy, so that children can feel the joy of achievement.
In terms of educating their children, parents should give their children more space for autonomy and choice, so that they can experience the joy of success. Cultivate children's independence and self-confidence, so that they can be confident in their own talents and values. Parents should give their children some encouragement and help when they are facing difficulties or challenges, help them overcome difficulties, and help them solve problems.
Epilogue. If you want to praise your child properly, you must grasp the relationship between praise and criticism. Criticism should be positive, and sincere praise should focus on giving and progressing. Parents should pay attention to and listen to the needs of their children, and give timely encouragement and criticism to their children at different ages and different stages of development. Secondly, it is necessary to create a good classroom atmosphere for students, so that they can focus on holistic learning, and develop their self-confidence and self-reliance. Proper praise can boost your child's self-confidence and stimulate their developmental potential.