Encourage your child How to praise to develop self-confidence and avoid inhibitions?
Introduction. Recently, I've noticed something small that has touched me deeply. Xiao Ming is a very normal student, his grades are not the best, but he works hard. After a math test, he got eighty, which is a big improvement. However, he was full of joy and handed over his learning results to his father, but his father only said: "It's okay, but it's not good", which made Xiao Ming's heart cold. This makes me think: we often say that the words and actions of parents can have a great impact on their children, and in this case, the father's attitude is certainly because he has high expectations for his children, but he ignores the sunshine and rain necessary for the growth of children, and there are legitimate accusations and timely praises.
Both sides of the equation.
1.1.The two wings of "like" and "criticism": "like" is the "sun" and "criticism" is "ganlin", and the two complement each other and complement each other.
Praise and criticism are the two main elements that make up a family. Praise can ignite a child's soul and stir up inner strength; By criticizing children, they can correct their mistakes in the right time, thus promoting their healthy development. Together, they can better guide children's development.
Expand. Praise and criticism are crucial parts of teaching, but to grasp the relationship between the two, you must master some tricks. First of all, don't just criticize them in a positive way, point out to them what they need to improve, and similarly, praise them should not stop at general praise, but pay more attention to their efforts and progress. For example, about Xiao Ming's achievements, Dad can say this: "This time the academic performance has improved greatly, but there are still problems in the way to solve the problem, let's analyze how to solve these problems." This kind of praise not only affirms Xiao Ming's dedication, but also points out the way and direction of improvement.
1.2.Rational criticism and sincere praise: the relationship between understanding and respect can be well balanced.
Meaningful criticism is not about finding fault with children's shortcomings, but about providing the right guidance and methods when pointing out shortcomings. When constructing constructive criticism, parents should try to avoid general discussions, and put forward targeted suggestions for improvement in response to the problem. And, when critiquing, do so with respect and love. Children are more emotional people and are very susceptible to the tone and attitude of their parents. Giving your child a caring and understanding side can not only ease their nervousness, but also motivate them to correct their mistakes.
Expand. Praise should include not only an acknowledgment of a student's achievements, but also an acknowledgment of what the student has achieved. Praise should be specific, sincere, not vague, not hypocritical. When committing, parents should pay attention to what their children have done and the progress they have made, and use clear language to express their affirmation and encouragement. This kind of praise can not only boost your child's confidence, but also give them more motivation to persevere.
The trade-off between praise and disapproval and the difficulty.
2.1.Finding a balance between praise and criticism is a long-term study and exercise.
Striking a difficult balance between praise and blame is a difficult balance that parents often linger on both sides, both overly tolerant and overly demanding. However, we must know that finding the right balance is a process that requires continuous learning and practice. Just like in the garden, do not let a flower be exposed to the sun or submerge it in water for a long time, only moderate light and rain can make it grow vigorously, and children should also give praise and praise at the right time.
2.2.Listening and listening: Understand the needs and developmental periods of young children to achieve the best balance between praise and criticism.
To achieve this balance, parents must listen to and pay attention to their needs and their development. There is a difference in age between young children when they receive praise and criticism. In early childhood, there is a greater need for parental encouragement and recognition; As teenagers, they need more guidance and counsel from mentors. Through communication and observation with their children, parents can better understand their children's needs and strike a good balance between the positive and negative aspects.
Create a positive teaching atmosphere.
3.1.Focus on the process, advocate diligence and development: pay attention to students' learning and development, pay attention to students' learning and development.
Create a positive and motivating atmosphere that focuses on the process rather than the outcome. Focus on students' efforts and progress, not just grades. Parents can motivate them to achieve their goals by motivating them to set goals. In this way, children's intrinsic motivation and self-confidence can be fully developed and developed.
3.2.Cultivating children's self-confidence and independence: Give children greater autonomy and decision-making power, so that they can feel the joy of achievement.
In teaching, parents should give their children more independence and decision-making, so that their children have the opportunity to experience achievements. Cultivate children's independent thinking and confidence, so that they have full confidence in their own talents and values. When children encounter difficulties or challenges, parents should provide encouragement and support for them to learn how to deal with them.
Conclusion. In order to praise young children correctly, it is necessary to grasp the relationship between praise and criticism. Criticism is done in a constructive manner, while sincere praise focuses on effort and progress. Parents should learn to listen to and pay attention to the needs of their children, and give timely and appropriate encouragement and encouragement to children according to their different ages and stages of development. The most important thing is to create a positive and positive teaching atmosphere, focusing on cultivating students' self-confidence and independence. Complimenting children appropriately can boost their self-confidence and stimulate their developmental potential.