There is such a saying:"People are not promising, but you can see it at a glance".
This is very straightforward, that is, those who have no interest can't figure out some truths.
Reminds me of the old saying:"Hearing is false, seeing is believing. ”
As for the people who have no interest, they are the kind of people who only believe in the wind in their ears and are unwilling to see the real situation.
complaining, never thinking about what I did wrong;
He only knows how to reject new things, and never tries to change them;
Living in his own small circle, he never wants to go out and see the outside world.
Such people make excuses when they encounter difficulties, and never think about whether they have a problem.
They only see the fault of others, and they cannot see their own shortcomings.
When others succeed, they say they are lucky.
Turning a blind eye to other people's efforts, it always feels as if others have succeeded without much effort.
How can this kind of mentality make you better?
I have a friend who is in his 30s and has a dream of starting a business.
He first opened a coffee shop, but closed it because of the poor location. He complained: "It's all because the place is not good, ** is very little." ”
Then he tried to open a clothing store, but the business didn't work, and he said: "Now people are shopping online, who still comes to physical stores." ”
Later, he opened a gym, and there were fewer and fewer customers, so he complained: "Nowadays, people like to exercise at home, who still comes to the gym." ”
Every time he fails, he finds a lot of external reasons, and never thinks about whether he is doing something wrong.
I always feel that I lack everything, but there is no shortage of excuses.
This kind of person just doesn't know how to reflect on himself. Failure is not a bad thing, the key is to learn from failure.
But they only make excuses and never face up to their problems.
It's like walking on the road and always falling, but it's weirdly slippery;
Cooking always fails, but blame the pot for not being good;
If the work doesn't go well, the boss is blamed for making it difficult.
In short, everything is someone else's fault, never your own problem.
Oscar Wilde once said:"Once you find one wrong excuse for yourself, you will soon find a hundred more excuses for yourself. ”
These words hit the nail on the head to expose the psychology of those who can't figure out the reasons for their failures.
In life, we can always meet such people.
They always complain about unsatisfactory work and unsatisfactory life, but they never think about whether it is their own problem.
This mentality will only make it more and more difficult for them to succeed.
Because they are always running away from problems instead of facing and solving them.
Successful people are those who dare to face failure, learn from failure, and then correct their mistakes and move on.
And those who only make excuses can only end up standing still.
Shi Le, the founding emperor of Later Zhao, was originally a small leader of a tribe who was later taken into slavery, but was freed by chance.
Shi Le was not satisfied with this, he took advantage of the troubled times at the end of the Jin Dynasty to bravely rebel.
With his ingenuity and military prowess, he gradually built up his own power and eventually became a secessive emperor.
Looking at Schle, his success was not just a matter of luck or fate.
His success comes from his hard work, ingenuity and ability to seize opportunities.
And those who have no future always think that people like Shile are just lucky, and they can't see the effort and effort behind it.
This kind of mentality will only make them stay where they are forever and unable to understand the true meaning of success.
They always attribute other people's achievements to luck, fate, or feng shui, and never think that it is the result of other people's efforts.
Lao Tzu once said:"Those who know others are wise, and those who know themselves are clear; The winner is powerful, and the self-winner is strong. ”
People who truly know how to live can not only see others clearly, but also see themselves clearly.
Around us, there are always people who don't see their own shortcomings and the efforts of others to succeed.
They are always envious of the achievements of others, but never think about how to improve themselves.
Such people often live very tired lives.
Because they are always torturing themselves in comparison, but they don't know how to change the status quo through their own efforts.
Those who are unproductive not only can't think through their own failures, but also can't see through the successes of others.
Not only do unsuccessful people fail to see through their own failures and the successes of others, they often misunderstand the real gap between themselves and others.
They always think that there is something special about themselves, but in reality, they just don't want to face reality.
Once, Su Dongpo joked with the Buddha seal monk, saying that he looked at him like shit.
The Buddha Yin monk responded that he looked at Su Dongpo like a golden Buddha.
Su Dongpo triumphantly thought that he had the upper hand, and showed off with his sister when he returned home.
But Su Xiaomei told him"Brother, you are wrong. The Buddha said, 'The Buddha's mind manifests itself', and when you see what others are, it means that you see what you are. ”
This story illustrates that people often see the world through their own lenses.
Those who have no interest always think that they have seen something that others have not seen, but in fact they are just deceiving themselves.
They often blame their own failures on outside injustices and other people's successes to luck.
They don't see the real gap between themselves and others, and they comfort themselves in their own little world.
The real gap lies in whether you can objectively look at yourself and the world around you.
Successful people know how to learn from others, while those who fail are always making excuses for themselves.
Mencius once said:"If you can't ask for it, you ask for yourself. ”
People who have no interest are always blindly seeking outwards and are unwilling to reflect on themselves.
This is the case everywhere in our lives.
Some people always feel special, always complain, but never face up to their own shortcomings.
Such a mindset will only make them go further and further, unable to truly understand the essence of success, and unable to achieve self-improvement.
If you want to be truly successful, you must learn to evaluate yourself objectively, be honest about your shortcomings, and work hard to make up for these gaps.
As the ancient Greek philosopher Socrates said:"Know thyself. ”
This sentence is very simple, but it contains profound wisdom.
Only by understanding oneself can one understand one's own limitations and begin to truly grow.
In the long course of life, everyone will face choices and challenges.
Those who have no prospects, because they are unwilling to face themselves, are always standing still.
And those who are brave enough to face themselves and constantly improve themselves can shine on the stage of life.
In real life, we often see that those who have the courage to admit their shortcomings and then continue to work hard can eventually achieve something.
And those who are always making excuses and unwilling to change tend to miss out on many opportunities.
Everyone has potential, and the key is to be willing to tap into it and use it.
Only by constantly learning and growing can we achieve our dreams and goals.
So, stop making excuses, stop complaining.
Face yourself, face up to your own shortcomings, and then try to change.
Remember, only by facing up to your own shortcomings can you become a better version of yourself.
Pay attention to me, let the rhythm of words compose the music of life;
"Nightingales leap in the moonlight, their feathers shimmering with silver. Its singing voice was like a wonderful **, which touched my soul deeply. "