Have you ever had the experience of choosing what to do when you encounter some difficulties or setbacks at work or in life?Do you face it bravely, or do you run away or complain?
Have you noticed that some people are always able to overcome difficulties and achieve success, while others are always stagnant or even achieve nothing?Do you want to know why there is such a big difference between the same people?Actually, this has something to do with a principle called the "law of the flock".
What is the law of the flock?The law of the flock is a psychological concept that refers to the fact that when faced with difficulties or setbacks, human beings tend to choose to be in the company of people who are equal or lower than their own level, in order to gain a sense of security and self-esteem, just like a flock of chickens, where the weak get together and the strong are independent.
This psychological phenomenon, although it can make people feel comfortable temporarily, can hinder people's growth and progress, leading to failure in life.
Why do most people who have no talent understand the law of the flock?Because they always fall into the following wrong thinking and behavior, allowing themselves to fall prey to the law of the flock.
1. Don't dare to challenge yourself and be satisfied with the status quo.
There's a saying that says, "Your comfort zone is your enemy." If a person is always content with the status quo, does not dare to challenge himself, and is unwilling to step out of his comfort zone, then he will lose the motivation and opportunity to grow, and will be eliminated by time and competition.
Such people often choose to be in the company of people who are equal or lower than their own level, because they do not bring pressure and threats to him, they can comfort each other together, complain to each other, lower their standards for each other, and make themselves feel good.
Such people are typical people who don't understand the law of the chicken, they don't know that only by being with people who are stronger than themselves can they stimulate their potential, make continuous progress, and succeed.
2. Unwilling to learn Xi and not attaching importance to knowledge.
It is an indisputable fact that knowledge is power. In this era of information, the update speed of knowledge is very fast, if a person is not willing to learn Xi and does not attach importance to knowledge, then he will be drowned by the torrent of the times, and will be abandoned by the development of society.
Such people often choose to be in the company of people with the same or lower level of knowledge as themselves, because they will not bring them challenges and shocks, they can brag to each other together, praise each other, deceive each other, and make themselves feel smart.
Such people are typical people who don't understand the law of the flock, they don't know that only by being with people with a higher level of knowledge than themselves can they broaden their horizons, increase their knowledge, and improve their abilities.
3. Don't dare to take responsibility and don't want to pay.
Responsibility is responsibility, and responsibility is strength. If a person does not dare to take responsibility and is unwilling to give, then he will lose the opportunity and honor of achievement, and will be despised and despised.
Such people often choose to be in the company of people who have the same or lower sense of responsibility as themselves, because they will not bring him requirements and expectations, they can be together to pass the buck to each other, avoid each other, and excuse each other, so as to make themselves feel relaxed.
Such people are typical people who don't understand the law of the flock, they don't know that only by being with people who have a stronger sense of responsibility than themselves can they cultivate their own responsibility, show their own value, and win the respect of others.
Fourth, I don't know how to be grateful, and I won't cherish it
Gratitude is virtue, and virtue is strength. If a person does not know how to be grateful and will not cherish, then he will lose interpersonal harmony and trust, and will be isolated and rejected by others.
Such people often choose to be in the company of people who have the same or worse mentality as themselves, because they will not bring him touch and warmth, and they can complain to each other together, envy each other, and attack each other, so that they can feel normal.
Such people are typical people who don't understand the law of the flock, they don't know that only by being with someone with a better mentality than themselves can they cultivate their own virtues, gain the friendship of others, and have happiness in life.
To sum up, most people who have no talent do not understand the law of the herd, and they always choose to be in the company of people who are equal to or lower than their own level, in order to gain a sense of security and self-esteem, but they don't know that doing so will only make themselves worse and worse, and more and more failures.
However, people who are talented understand the law of the herd, and they always choose to be in the company of people who are higher than their own level, so as to stimulate their potential and motivation, so as to make themselves better and more successful.
So, what kind of person do you belong to?Would you like to step out of the flock and become a phoenix?If you want to change yourself and improve yourself, then you need to learn the following three methods:
Method 1: Take the initiative to find excellent people and take the initiative to learn Xi from them.
Excellent people can always bring us positive energy and inspiration, their way of thinking, behavior, and values are all things we can learn from and imitate. We want.
We must take the initiative to find excellent people, take the initiative to Xi learn from them, don't feel inferior to them, don't be afraid of being looked down upon by them, and don't worry about not getting along with them. We should regard them as our teachers, our role models, and our friends, and we should humbly ask them for advice, learn from them, and learn from them, so as to improve our own level and ability.
We must remember that people are divided into groups, and things are gathered by likes, and only by being with excellent people can we make ourselves better.
Method 2: Take the initiative to take the challenge and take the initiative to step out of your comfort zone.
Challenges are opportunities, and opportunities are strength. If a person always accepts challenges and takes the initiative to step out of his comfort zone, then he will constantly train himself, constantly surpass himself, and constantly create miracles. Such people are always able to discover new problems, solve new problems, create new value, and win new success.
We must take the initiative to accept challenges, take the initiative to step out of our comfort zone, don't feel that we can't do it, don't be afraid of failure, and don't be afraid of difficulties.
We must take challenges as our motivation, our opportunities, and our honors, and we must face them bravely, try hard, and persist in completing them, so as to enhance our confidence and courage. We need to remember that life is a challenge, and only by accepting challenges can we become stronger.
Method 3: Take the initiative to pay and take responsibility.
Giving is gain, and harvest is strength. If a person always takes the initiative to give and take responsibility, then he will keep contributing himself, constantly helping others, and constantly winning gratitude and respect.
Such a person is always able to build good interpersonal relationships, receive extensive support, and enjoy unlimited happiness to achieve new goals. We must take the initiative to pay, take the initiative to take responsibility, don't feel that we are unnecessary, don't be afraid of trouble, and don't be stingy.
We should take giving as our Xi, our responsibility, our happiness, we must give sincerely, give selflessly, and return with gratitude, so as to improve our personality and morality. We must remember that life is a giving, and only by giving can we make ourselves more valuable.