In ancient times, great things could only be done by one's own strength. The people who have achieved success in history are masters of team building and winning hearts and minds. As long as you have followers, you can do a lot of things.
Guiguzi said, with the same voice, looking for each other. The water is wet and the fire is dry. The clouds follow the dragon, and the wind follows the tiger. This quote tells us that if people have the same choices and the same point of view, they can know each other. Different choices, contradictory points of view, tend to be mutually exclusive. In other words, people who pursue the common good will eventually come together.
It can be seen that if you want the other party to be determined and willing to work for yourself, only by tying the interests of others to your own interests can you achieve your goals through the strength of others. As the saying goes, a single line does not make a line, and a single tree does not make a forest. After all, one person's power is limited, and if you want to achieve a career, you must rely on the help of others.
I once read a story about a famous painter who went through a life of poverty before he became famous. He often didn't have enough to eat. At his worst, he shamelessly approached an art dealer and asked him to buy one of his paintings. The merchant did not think highly of the painting, but he bought it anyway. It not only solved the painter's urgent needs, but also gave him the confidence to persevere. Later, he finally made his mark in the world of painting and became a famous painter.
Until many years later, the painter still felt that this sum of money was the most important amount of money in his life, and the dealer was his nobleman. What the businessman got was naturally not only the painting, but also the exclusive right of the painter after he became famous.
In life, anyone can encounter difficulties, and help in difficulties is especially valuable. It is often said that "the wind knows the strength of the grass" and "time sees the heart". Looking at a person, we should not only look at his usual appearance, but also see whether the other party can achieve the "meaning of a friend" in a difficult situation.
As the saying goes, the icing on the cake is better. Anyone who can deliver charcoal in the snow and save people in distress is wise. A wise man who can recognize and employ people, and can help people and save people, will definitely be able to do a career.
The more ripe and full the wheat becomes, the more it knows how to bow. It's the same in life, the more capable and humble you are, the more you have to bend over. That's how you get talent. If you tell the world every day that you are strong and capable, and others will think that you can do it yourself, then why should you come to us?
When Liu Bei invited Zhuge Liang, he did not hesitate to bend down and visit the hut three times, but received Zhuge Liang's assistance three times. In human society, as long as you understand a little bit of human sophistication, everything will go well. For example, in life, when we drive home, we pass by the neighbor's workplace so that we can get him off. You have to send a package, you can pick up a package for a colleague, and so on. These beneficial things, we don't spend extra time doing, but passing by. Not only will you build a good network for yourself, but you will also be able to trust people around you who will not refuse to lend you a helping hand when you need help.
Lin Daiyu in "Dream of Red Mansions" has a bold personality and is full of classics. **, Lin Daiyu regarded Xue Baochai as a rival in love and did everything possible to embarrass Xue Baochai. Once, Mother Jia had a lot of fun with everyone, and Lin Daiyu accidentally said the words in "The Story of the Peony Pavilion in the West Room". At the time, the two books were **. If Lin Daiyu's words leak out, they will definitely be punished. Xue Baochai did not expose Lin Daiyu, but took the opportunity to pull her aside and reminded her: "What a good daughter, what an unmarried girl, a lot to talk about."
Lin Daiyu, who was also smart, also understood the "meaning beyond words", so she had to beg Xue Baochai for mercy. Since then, Xue Baochai has never mentioned this matter, but the two have a good relationship, and the "rival in love" has also become friends. When we treat the scary tiger politely, we don't have to worry about it hurting you. Lao Tzu went out to write the Tao Te Ching, Lao Tzu has a self-portrait, in which there is a fierce tiger beside him, but Lao Tzu's expression looks indifferent, without a trace of fear, it is simply a harmonious coexistence between man and the tiger.
Lao Tzu's Tao Te Ching is also based on the philosophy of the I Ching. Many people don't understand the philosophy of this painting, but it is actually the wisdom of performing melons. The so-called ceremony is familiar to many people, and people who do not smile are not killed. I read a story about a Chinese woman who went abroad to do business and sold vegetables in the vegetable market, and her peers bullied this woman. Every afternoon, she sweeps the rotten leaves in front of her stall. The woman showed no remorse and nodded and smiled at the bully. After a long time, someone thought it was strange and asked, "Don't you hate having so many leaves at the door?" The woman said, "There is a custom in my hometown that whoever sweeps garbage into his house will accumulate wealth."
Since then, people in the market have stopped sweeping the leaves for others. The old man often says, harmony is precious, treat others well, and others are more willing to pay in front of you. In the twenty-eighth year of Daoguang, the twenty-six-year-old Hu Xueyan met Wang Youling, the candidate for the Zhejiang salt envoy at that time, and saw that the other party's future was uncertain, so he ** 500 taels of silver to help him go to Beijing to fill the vacancy. Wang Youling was worried that he would involve Hu Xueyan, but Hu Xueyan dispelled his concerns and said that he had something to say. This firewood was added by Hu Xueyan at a critical moment, and Wang Youling's cold stove was really hot.
Many people think that this is gambling, but for Hu Xueyan, even if he loses nine out of ten, he will win at that time. This could be a huge win. A bowl of water is only a defensive "employment strategy" because it has no direction, can neither motivate others nor narrow relationships with key players. Leaders who want to win the hearts and minds of the people should not engage in this kind of "egalitarianism", but should do the opposite, deliberately showing their "preferences" and "favoritism" in specific situations.
No one likes to associate or work with stingy people, so the third way to control your heart is to learn to be tolerant. Completing a complex project requires not a single talent, but people with a variety of skills. It's the same with people, you can't just need the help of a certain type of people, sometimes you even need those who have hurt you to do something for you, at this time you have to endure and learn to be tolerant.
Only forgiveness can control people's hearts and achieve their goals. In life, if we want to ask people authentically and effectively, we need to find an emotional excuse on the premise of letting the other person understand the pros and cons. Often play the emotional card, cause emotional resonance, and analyze things from an emotional point of view, so that the other party is willing to recognize you with their hearts.
When we look at the water, we know that the deeper the water, the quieter it is, and only those small streams that are deep and fast can have big waves. Water is cheap and nourishes all things, but it does not compete for fame and fortune, and slowly flows to the sea for a lifetime. Life is to "benefit people", like water, you can carry a lot of things, bring benefits to others, you can nourish everything, and everything will be returned to you. On the surface, you are "selfless", but in fact you are the "great wisdom" of life.
Benefiting others is a kind of performance, being good to others, others reciprocating you, such a life is to enjoy life, not to complain about the society, to repay grievances with virtue, is to have a clear conscience. The ancients wisely warned us: "When is resentment? "In the face of bullying from others, we must learn to repay grievances with virtue and respond with kindness and noble behavior, which not only allows you to maintain dignity and mind, but also influences the other person's attitude and behavior, so that he realizes his mistakes and thus changes his behavior at some point in the future.
Repaying grievances with virtue can not only resolve contradictions and conflicts, but also create a positive environment and atmosphere. There are many human needs, including the need for food, clothing, shelter and transportation, the need for security, the need for respect for identity, and the most important of which is the need for respect for identity. For example, when the child comes home from school, really stops what he is doing, and talks to the child, the child can feel respected, he feels that the mother loves him very much, and when the mother tells the child about other things, the child will listen patiently and easily accept.
The reason why Gao Qiqiang was able to take Lao Mo away at will was because Gao Qiqiang not only helped him find his daughter, but also gave him the fish to support his family. You must know that people get the most help in the most difficult times, and he not only saved Lao Mo but also saved Lao Mo's daughter.
When a person is capable, he is always looked down upon by others, and when he is not, even relatives and friends sometimes look down on him. Life is such a reality, if you want to have good popularity, you have to have the ability, you have to have skills, you have to achieve something, you have to make a difference, you have to serve society more, make more contributions, and so on. Only by constantly amplifying your own advantages, as long as you give full play to your sincerity, kindness and diligence, your life aura will become brighter and brighter, your positive energy field will be bigger and bigger, naturally, there will be more and more friends, and your popularity will be better and better.
Therefore, it is more important to strengthen the body than to actively strive for popularity, so if you want to win the hearts and minds of the people, you must start from both work and life, and truly achieve "I am for you", rather than simply relying on a smart mouth. I hope the above tips will help you.