If a child shows these 4 characteristics, it means that he is not something in the pool, and many people don't know it!
Jin Chen Shou's "Romance of the Three Kingdoms, Wu Zhi, Zhou Yu Biography": "Liu Bei is a hero, and Guan Yu and Zhang Fei are the generals of the bear and tiger, and the dragon is not a thing in the pool. ”
Jiaolong: A kind of divine dragon that can cause floods in ancient legends. When the dragon gets the clouds and rain, it will fly to the sky and will not stay in the pool. The metaphorical hero can fully display his talents without being constrained at the right time.
Just like "Xin's Three Qin Records": "Shaanxi Hancheng Northeast a dragon gate, two Yu gate, the local people call the name "Longguan", Yu chisel the mountain to open the door, more than a mile wide, the Yellow River flows down from the middle, and the bank is not open to cars and horses. Every spring, there is a yellow carp going upstream, and those who have passed will turn into dragons. ”
Throughout history, those who have made some achievements and become famous through the ages have broken through the limitations of class and soared, that is, people are not in the pool.
Ren Fang, a famous writer during the Northern and Southern Dynasties, was also a politician and one of the "Eight Friends of Jingling".
Ren Fang was smart and studious when he was a child, and he was very talented, and he was quite famous in his hometown.
When he was sixteen years old, he was hired by the county guard as the chief bookkeeper because of his outstanding talent, and was later recruited by the imperial court to serve as an official in the court and serve as Dr. Taichang.
In the second year of Yongming, he was transferred to join the army as the secretary of Xiao Ziliang, the king of Jingling, but later resigned and returned home because of the death of his father. After the expiration of the period of filial piety, he was re-summoned to the imperial court and appointed as the infantry captain of the Later Prince, in charge of the secretary of the Eastern Palace.
After Liang Gaozu Xiao Yan inherited the throne, he also received the emperor's appreciation to the imperial history. He always served the emperor conscientiously and never disobeyed the emperor.
In this way, he was also reused by the emperor and made some achievements.
"History of the South" once commented on him: "Fang You has a long pen, admires Fu Liang, and has endless talents." Sex is free, not ceremonial, joy and sorrow are not in color, and the car uniform is not distinct. ”
Although it is very important to say that nobles are very important, if you are born at the bottom and do not have certain skills, how can you attract nobles to help you and change the fate of the bottom.
Each of us hopes that our children will be the dragon and phoenix in the future and have something to do.
In fact, if a child shows these 4 characteristics, it means that he is not in the pool.
1. Born from the grassroots, dare to fight, and have the desire to climb up.
Li Bai's "Chivalrous Journey" has described a grassroots chivalrous man: "Idle to drink in the tomb, take off the sword and kneel forward." will scorch Zhu Hai and persuade Hou Huan. Three cups of Turannuo, Wuyue is light. After the eyes are dazzled and the ears are hot, the spirit is born. Save Zhao with a golden hammer, Handan was shocked first. Two strong men in Qianqiu, Xuanhe Liang City. ”
Here is the chivalrous Zhu Hai of the Warring States Period.
At that time, in order to rescue Zhao State, Xinling Jun asked Ruji, the favorite of King Wei, to steal the talisman, and then went to the camp to ask the general Jin Contempt to hand over the military power.
Jin contempt checked that the military talisman was correct, but thought that the absence of an edict was very suspicious, so he refused to hand over the military power.
Zhu Hai, who was behind Xinlingjun, took out a big hammer from his sleeve and directly smashed the general Jin Contempt to death.
Jin is known as a very brave and experienced veteran. Zhu Hai was in his big tent, and he did not coerce, and subdued him one-on-one.
In the "Chronicles of the Eastern Zhou Dynasty", after Xinling Jun returned to Wei, he became famous for a while and was highly valued by King Wei Anli. King Wei Anli also pardoned Zhu Hai's crime of killing Jin Contempt and appointed him as a partial general.
There is never anything in life that is necessarily like this or must be so, whether it is want love, or the future, don't wait, you have to find, to chase, to insist that Qingshan will not relax.
If you don't force yourself to fight to the end with fate, and if you don't force yourself to ask for an explanation from this cruel world, you will never know how strong you are.
When you doubt your persistence on the road to counterattack - you have to believe that fate gives you a lower starting point than others, and hopes that you will use your life to fight a Jedi counterattack story.
Life: Dare to break through, there is a chance! Dare to fight, only then can there be a future. If you don't have a prominent family background, you don't have a vast network, and you don't have a lot of money, then you only have yourself and your unremitting efforts.
When others complain, you are changing, so you are better; Others are hesitating, you are continuing, so you have results; Others are watching, you are on the way, so you are more brilliant.
Just like an ordinary person who counterattacked once sighed: "There are no excuses and giving up in life and work, only persistence and hard work." Don't forget the original intention, you have to always. ”
There is no smooth sailing in a person's life! No matter how heavy the rain is, there will be times when it stops! No amount of dark clouds can hide the smiling sun. Not bitter, not tired, life tasteless. If you don't fight, you don't fight, life is in vain. Persist in working hard, wait for the opportunity, create opportunities, and you will succeed.
No matter how big a person's steps are, they can't measure the road under their feet. If you don't want to accept your fate, you go to work hard. Pay will be rewarded, big or small, sooner or later, will never disappoint your efforts.
There is a gap where you always envy the success of others, but you don't dare to start. Not everyone can be what they want to be, but everyone can strive to be what they want to be.
It's never too late to act now! Believe in yourself, and you can break out of the cocoon and become a butterfly!
2. Wait for forbearance, make a fortune in a muffled voice, and wait for the time.
Throughout ancient and modern times, all those who can achieve great things, whether they are up to the Son of Heaven, hundreds of officials and fierce generals, or down to the common people of Limin, are all masters of forbearance.
A generation of male lord Chu Zhuang Wang, now when he is mentioned, many people admire his great achievements and eloquence at the same time, but also feel his true gentleman and true temperament.
A young king should be strong and heroic, and at the beginning of the succession, he needs three fires for the new official to take office. What's more, he is a generation of kings who holds the fate of the Chu State and the lives of his ministers.
However, he gave us the impression that he spent three years in a drunken and gentle village.
His father Chu Mu Wang is the king who killed his father and usurped the throne, reigned for 12 years, although he ruled with an iron fist, the scourge left behind is still difficult to clean, and the contradictions between the family and the country may break out at any time.
The royal power weakened to the point of a war between the two families, and the contradiction pointed directly at the royal power, holding him hostage as the king of a country. Therefore, in the first three years of King Chuzhuang's succession to the throne, he endured it with left and right hugs and great wisdom and foolishness.
There was a person who discovered that the king of Chu Zhuang was not a mediocre king, and he saw the essence of the king of Chu through a few small things. This person is Wu Ju, the ancestor of Wu Zixu.
Wu Ju noticed that when the king of Chu was hunting, he would admire when he saw the brave man hunting and killing the tiger and leopard"I think I know how brave it is", when you see the brave divide the prey equally, you will praise"I know it"。
Wu Ju was surprised to discover that the true intention of the King of Chu to forbear was actually to find available people and try to restore the king's authority. Wu Ju tested the king of Chu, and in this way, there was a famous dialogue between monarchs and ministers in history.
As recorded in the literature: "(Wu Ju) said:.'There are birds in Fu, three years do not fly (fly) do not sing, what kind of bird is it? 'King Zhuang said:'If you don't fly for three years, you will soar to the sky; If you don't sing for three years, the song will be amazing. ”
An old-timer once said that to observe whether a young man is promising, you can see if he understands "forbearance".
Young people, who should have been like a fire in their hearts, went straight to the point, and couldn't bear the humiliation of others. However, if he restrains his humanity and chooses to forbear in time, then he is one in a million.
The mountains do not say their height, they are naturally majestic; The earth does not speak of its own thickness, but nourishes all things; The sea is endless, not to mention its own width.
Really powerful people are often low-key and humble, like full ears of wheat, and really powerful people are often hidden and "stand aside" in front of the public.
As the saying goes, "small hidden in the mountains and big hidden in the city", a person is really powerful, and has a low-key luxury temperament.
Even if he is rich and has no car, he still pursues the principle of "threesomes must have my teacher" and humbly learns from others. In the communication conversation, I will not get carried away, but patiently listen to what others have to say, and point it out at the right time, but without showing any traces; Let the listener have a sense of "listening to your words is better than reading a book for ten years".
Even if he is only eight years old, he is still cautious in his words and deeds, meticulous in his work, and strives for excellence. I also don't forget to promote newcomers everywhere, cultivate reserve forces, push them to the "front desk", and hide themselves in the "behind the scenes".
Even if he is worth tens of millions, he is still frugal and simple, and his life is like that of ordinary people, not seeking refinement, but practicality. In the crowd, that is, one of the thousands of ordinary people. But at the critical moment, he can "stand out from the crowd" and use his own strength to help those in need.
Really powerful people, put the mentality right, from the inside to the outside exudes a peaceful, quiet, elegant beauty, not noisy, not ostentatious, approachable, people like a spring breeze.
"If you want to bear the crown, you must bear its weight"! Really powerful people often have a broad and strong mind, endure the unbearable of ordinary people, and the pain of ordinary people is unbearable.
If a child can overcome his nature at a young age, know how to forbear, pay more attention, and have great ambitions, then he will definitely be a talented person in the future.
3. Strong social skills and outstanding ability to control people's hearts.
It is not uncommon for a person to be talented, talents in the world are not rare, and the most rare thing is to let talents give full play to their abilities to make contributions, and have such the ability to win people.
Talent retention: Liu Bei worked hard to keep Xu Shu's heart
Liu Bei was driven around by Cao Cao, and finally settled in Xinye County, and got the military advisor Xu Shu. One day, Cao Cao sent someone to send a letter from Xu's mother, in which he asked Xu Shu to return to Cao Cao quickly. Xu Shu knew that Cao Cao was using a plan, but he was a filial son and insisted on leaving.
Liu Bei suddenly cried and said: "Filial piety comes first, not to mention the separation of close relatives, you can go with confidence, and after rescuing your mother, I will ask Mr. for advice when I have the opportunity in the future." ”
Xu Shu was very grateful and wanted to go on the road immediately, Liu Bei persuaded Xu Shu to stay for a day and stay for Mr. tomorrow. The next day, Liu Bei set up a wine and candied food for Xu Shu, and when Xu Shu got on the horse, Liu Bei had to lead the horse for him again, and sent Xu Shu one ride after another, unable to bear to separate, and moved Xu Shu to tears.
In order to repay Liu Bei's kindness, he not only recommended the higher Magi Zhuge Liang, but also vowed not to give Cao Cao a plan for the rest of his life. Although Xu Shu's people left, their hearts were on Liu Bei's side, so there was a saying that "they were in Cao Ying's heart and in Han".
Xu Shu entered Cao's camp and really didn't set up a plan for Cao, and saved the life of Liu Bei's general Zhao Yun in Changbanpo. Throughout the ages, all the cases of retaining talents have not surpassed Liu Bei's. Keep your talents, as long as you can retain the hearts of talents, even if talents are at the ends of the world, they will still serve you.
It is difficult to attract talents, it is also difficult to retain talents, and it seems that it is difficult to retain the heart of high talents.
Talent introduction: King Qin Zhao knelt down to Fan Ju
King Qin Zhao was ambitious and wanted to dominate the world, and showed extraordinary magnanimity in attracting talents. Fan Ju was originally a hermit, familiar with the art of war, and quite far-sighted.
King Qin Zhao drove to visit Fan Ju, and when he saw him, he retreated left and right, knelt down and asked, "Please teach me, sir." But Fan Ju hesitated and stopped talking. So, King Qin Zhao knelt down for the second time to ask for advice, and his attitude was more respectful, but Fan Ju was still silent. King Qin Zhao knelt down again and said, "Is Sir really unwilling to teach the widow?" ”
This third kneeling moved Fan Ju, and he expressed his heavy concerns about not wanting to speak. After hearing this, King Qin Zhao knelt down for the fourth time and said, "Sir, don't have any worries, let alone have doubts about me, I sincerely ask you for advice." ”
Fan Ju was still not at ease, so he tentatively said: "The king's plan also fails. King Qin Zhao was not angry at this accusation, and realized that Fan Ju might be about to speak, so he knelt down for the fifth time and said, "I am willing to listen to the details of Mr. The words are more earnest, and the attitude is more respectful.
This time, Fan Ju also felt that the time was ripe, so he agreed to assist King Qin Zhao and help him unify the six kingdoms. Later, Fan Ju did his best to assist King Qin Zhao to achieve hegemony, and King Qin Zhao has also been praised by people for thousands of years and has become a model for attracting talents.
A person who shows extraordinary talent in social interaction, can recognize, retain, attract, use, and educate talents, will definitely be a pillar of the country in the future.
Fourth, thoughtful, quite a city, plan and then act.
There is a classic historical story: Cao Cao borrowed a knife to kill You Heng.
You Heng, a famous scholar of the Eastern Han Dynasty, was a famous madman in the Three Kingdoms, who was very famous at that time. Kong Rong, one of the seven sons of Jian'an, recommended You Heng to Cao Cao, and Cao Cao sent someone to call You Heng. After the meeting, Cao Cao deliberately gave You Heng some color to see, and did not let the scholar sit down.
You Heng: "Alas, although the world is wide, there is no talent!" ”
Cao Cao: "I have dozens of outstanding talents under me, all of whom are heroes in the world, how can I say that there are no talents?" ”
You Heng: "Xun Yu can make the mourning and ask about the disease, Xun You can make the tomb guard, Cheng Yu can make the door closed, Guo Jia can make the white words recite the endowment, Zhang Liao can make the drum sound gold, Xu Chu can make the cattle herd the horses!" ”
Cao Cao: "Then what skills do you have?" ”
You Heng: "Astronomy and geography are all incomprehensible; Three religions and nine streams, know everything. Speaking in general, I can be a Ming Jun like Yao and Shun; To put it mildly, my moral articles can be compared with Confucius and Yan Hui. How can I compare myself to the mortals under your command? ”
Cao Cao was very angry in his heart, knowing that You Heng would only play a little trickery, and of course he would not buy his account. His subordinate Zhang Liao wanted to kill Youheng, but he stopped him, but appointed Youheng as an envoy to Jingzhou to persuade Liu Biao to surrender to the imperial court. Later, You Heng went to see Liu Biao, but the accumulated habits were difficult to change, which angered Liu Biao again.
Liu Biao had heard that You Heng had insulted Cao Cao many times, and knew that Cao Cao wanted to kill You Heng with his own hands and bear the notoriety of "harming the virtuous", so he sent him to meet Huang Zu, the general of Jiangxia. Huang Zu was a small warlord, and his quality did not reach the level of Cao Cao and Liu Biao.
You Heng saw Huang Zu, so he repeated the trick, and without saying a few words, he offended Huang Zu, and Huang Zu was furious and asked someone to pull You Heng out and behead him. Hearing that You Heng was killed by Huang Zu, Cao Cao laughed: "This rotten Confucian is looking for death by himself, and he doesn't need to dirty my knife at all." ”
Although Luo Guanzhong has the intention of degrading Cao Cao's narrow-mindedness in the Romance of the Three Kingdoms, Cao Cao's strategy of removing this monster is indeed very clever, which shows that he is thoughtful and has a deep city.
The rivers and lakes are a Shura field, and if you take a slight wrong step, you may be manipulated by others and become someone else's meal.
Just like, people live for a lifetime, fame and wealth, and the world is shocked to see the white head;Poetry, wine, piano and books, the world is happy to meet the blue eyes.
The city strives for profit, and the dynasty competes for fame, and the power is fierce and vicious. Let's look at the sea sun, Chicheng Xia, Emei snow, Wuxia clouds, Dongting Yue, Xiaoxiang rain, Peng Liyan, Guangling Tao, wonder universe but why not?
Everyone will fight for me, and I may not win if I strive hard. Whoever I give will let go, and I try my best to let it not necessarily lose. It's really presumptuous not to drink**, but to be impassioned if it's fake reserved. Leave a line in everything, and the rivers and lakes are easy to meet.
The so-called, people in the rivers and lakes, must be cautious in words and deeds, like a tiger, smell the roses, have the city in their hearts, plan and then act, in order to be preserved.