Parents posted a complaint that going to college is the beginning of trouble, which sparked heated discussions
In a rather controversial article, parents said:"The problem started in college.
It is the common wish of all parents and students that their children are admitted to a good university. In order to achieve this goal, students work hard and parents go to great lengths to provide learning resources, from basic daily necessities to the best educational environment so that children can concentrate on their studies.
In today's fiercely competitive educational atmosphere, students are facing tremendous academic pressure, and parents are also burdened with heavy financial burdens. However, despite the difficulties, the parents persevered and held on"It's good to be admitted to university"I believe that as long as the child is successfully admitted to university, everything will become easier.
These expectations are not unreasonable, and getting into college does take a lot off the shoulder, at least for students. Learning life becomes less difficult, and students are more free to get rid of their parents' complaints, relatively speaking. However, parental responsibilities don't end there, and some parents find it difficult to cope with the extra challenges of college.
A distressed mother published an article about what her son brought with it when he went to college"Headaches"。At first, she thought that when her son went to college, she would be completely relieved and her life would be easier.
However, due to the cost of living, the parents' attitude towards their son has changed. Previously, it was agreed to pay $2,000 per month for living expenses, which is enough to meet the day-to-day needs of the school.
However, the living expenses of 2,000 yuan are not enough for his son's living expenses for half a month, and he often cries to his parents at the end of the month, asking for an increase in living expenses. In order to correct their son's habit of extravagance and waste, his parents changed the monthly living expenses to once a week while the total amount remained the same, and gave him 500 yuan per week, which is equivalent to helping the student make financial planning.
However, such a change did not work, and the son continued to ask his parents for money for various reasons, eventually reaching the level of 4,000 yuan per month. During the New Year's holidays, he also took the initiative to ask his parents for red envelopes.
In the face of such a big-hearted son, the parents who deceived the child were angry and scolded their son"Ancestors"。The complaint resonated with many netizens, who said that their children were just as careless when they went to college, often spending money like water, and had no sense of financial management.
Some netizens suggest that parents investigate where their children spend their money, perhaps because the child has a girlfriend, but if this is not the reason, parents should take care to prevent their children from falling into some bad behaviors. Learn more and take concrete steps.
Although college students have reached adulthood and have a certain degree of independence, they have not really stepped out of campus in general, and their financial independence is relatively weak. Therefore, it is reasonable for parents to provide them with financial support. However, this does not mean that students can take their parents' contributions for granted. Parents in China have always been responsible for their children, doing their best, and will continue to provide financial support even after they become adults. In foreign countries, adult children often have to pay their own tuition fees and living expenses.
Therefore, students in the country should be satisfied. If what the parents say about the standard of living is true, and it is indeed much higher than that of the average student, then, if so much is not enough, the student should reflect on himself. At the same time, parents should not support their children unprincipledly. Over time, students don't know how to cherish it.
As a father, the author understands the distress of parents. If you give more, you are afraid that your child will spend money indiscriminately, and if you give less, you are afraid that your child will go the wrong way. This scale is difficult to control, and it is really hard to take care of children nowadays. Going to college is not the end, but another starting point. If your child knows what they're doing, that's fine, but if they don't know what they're doing, it's very difficult.
So I hope that the children can see the helplessness and pain of their mothers, and let the fathers think about it more. Don't just focus on your own happiness, know how to understand your parents' difficulties, and giving back to your parents is also a way to grow.
The living expenses of college students are always insufficient, not because their parents are stingy, but because students do not know how to plan. After entering the university, the distance between students and their parents is shortened, and there are fewer opportunities for conflict. However, the cost of living has become the main contradiction of the family, especially when the living expenses are not enough, and the parents ask for it, which is inevitably criticized. Students also feel that their parents are too stingy and are not willing to give more pocket money.
Actually, most parents have"A poor family is a rich family"The concept. The living expenses allocated to students are not too small, at least to meet their daily needs. As for why the living expenses are not enough, in the final analysis, it is that students do not know how to plan, and most of the money is spent on useless places.
Therefore, students should plan their living expenses and take out more money while ensuring that they have no worries about basic food and clothing. At the same time, don't"Anticlimactic", reasonable distribution, avoid the end of the month"Eat dirt"。
In addition, students learn how to manage their finances. When buying things, learn to bargain, shop around, and don't spend more money because of lavishness. At the same time, as long as you live well, don't compare yourself with others.
Parents' complaints mainly come from the cost of living, which is also a common feature of many families. In this regard, the author believes that parents should continue to try to communicate with students to understand the root cause of the problem. Of course, students should also be aware of the fact that it is not easy for their parents to earn money. Save a little if you can, and go to college more about studying than having fun. Know how to spend money wisely, and you shouldn't squander your parents' hard-earned money. "
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