Abstract: The only child who once collected thousands of pampering is now facing a family, workplace, emotion, and the times... An unprecedented crisis on all fronts. At this age when time assets and confidence assets are far greater than money, this generation of middle-aged people who can't afford to lose, what is the way out?
When I heard the Internet hot word "only daughter in Jiangsu, Zhejiang and Shanghai", my "only daughter" was in her 40s.
When I was a child, I thought that 40 years old was an age that I would never live at all, but in the ten years between 30 and 40, my life suffered the most changes and suffered the most pressure.
Looking back now, our generation of post-80s, including the only children of the post-90s, have all experienced or are experiencing similar encounters and pressures in their 30s.
There are 4 old people to raise, and any one of them has some problems, and they will stay in the hospital, and they will have to peel off their skin after being busy.
If there is a chronic illness that requires long-term **, energy and time will be infinitely involved, and there are many people who return to poverty due to illness.
There are 4 old people in the direct line! Who can guarantee that they will not be in good health all the time?
There are 1-3 babies to raise, according to the current level of education involution, just busy with these 6 people, it is difficult for parents to cope with three heads and six arms.
What's more, I have reached middle age, and almost all the problems that should and shouldn't have come to the door, and the workplace has also reached a dangerous period, so I have to make complete preparations everywhere.
In case you run into a spouse who doesn't give it again, it will really end up being a bad script in minutes.
People can't afford to be hurt when they reach middle age.
Especially the middle-aged of only children.
When we were children, we were always treated as "soaked in a honey pot", and the whole family was the only pet, and we lived to be more than 20 years without heart.
Unless you have a good life and can be protected until you are old, otherwise, stepping into the workplace and entering marriage is to open a copy of being repeatedly beaten by society.
Our generation of only children, from birth to middle age, just caught up with the rapid development of the motherland in the past 40 years, and when our next generation is born, the society has begun to enter a stage of low-speed growth.
Therefore, the cognition and experience of our generation are obviously disconnected from our parents and children.
Especially after the 80s, the education we received since childhood is to bear hardships and stand hard work, be diligent and thrifty, and dedicate and sacrifice.
When we grow up and have a baby, we will begin to "raise children scientifically", and we must "be rich", praised, encouraged, and accepted.
For our parents, we follow the set of filial piety, we must respect our elders, and we must not talk back. When we raise a baby, it becomes the idea of respecting the child and not scolding and ordering him.
When I took the high school entrance examination, in the mid-90s, many families would let girls with good grades take a secondary school skills test or something, so that they could work and get married early.
What now? The mainstream ideology is to persuade girls to be independent and sober, right? Career-oriented, right? Do you want to put money and independent survival in the first place?
If you fall in love and are dizzy, there must be a group of people who jump out and talk bitterly about you, "digging wild vegetables" warning.
Our generation is destined to provide for our parents.
Although we haven't solved the problem of pension yet, we basically don't expect our children to provide for us.
can support 4 old and 2 young, who doesn't have a bunch of problems in them? I've been stabbed several times myself. When peers get together, they are either three highs or nodules, and they can't run.
It is a fact that the younger generation envy us for enjoying the dividends of the times and diplomas. But when we are middle-aged, we are also under the pressure that the first generation of dividend recipients must bear.
At the turning point of this era, layoffs, unemployment, pensions... Our experiences and encounters are a warning to the post-00s.
In the second half, how do you live?
Whether it is the second half of life or the second half of the era, we are all facing a completely different survival game from the past 20 years.
Education, workplace, experience, connections, buying a house... All the paths we have relied on are failing one by one.
Including entrepreneurship. 10 years earlier, it was still in full swing of "innovation and mass entrepreneurship"; 30 years earlier, it was all kinds of myths of self-made and reckless heroes.
What now? Do you still dare to go all in to start a business?
If you are 35+ and still have a job, with a salary of no more or less, just enough to support your family, pay your mortgage, car loan, and your children's expenses.
At the same time, a friend who has been trusted for many years tells you, brother dei, let's start a business!
The cake looks like this: two or three years to the scale of tens of millions, to achieve xx freedom.
Do you do it or don't you do it?
Ask yourself 3 questions, and if the answers to all 3 questions are 0k, then you do it.
1.Can you afford the failure of your business?
You are 35 years old not 25 years old, the most valuable thing is your time assets and confidence assets, and your social credit is limited.
If you want to be successful, it's best to start a business before the age of 28. Staying until 35+ to start your first business is indeed a bit late.
2.At this point in time, if you are leading and participating in this matter, will the success rate of entrepreneurship be higher than 5% to 10%?
If you don't have a sure move, don't take it easy.
3.Can this matter be achieved within three months, or at the latest six months, to obtain the expected benefits?
It's pure profit.
If you can't do it, don't do it. Ordinary people are not capable of doing that kind of business for three or five years.
Essentially, our starting point should be to be a self-sufficient small business, first making a single breakthrough at a point to make money, and then expanding little by little.
Therefore, when middle-aged people make a choice, do not draw a pie after three or five years.
Money-making things should be made on the first day, and waiting for three or five years for things that don't make money is in vain.
But in this era, you are over 30 years old and don't know how to make money, and you still care about those who have and don't have it all day long, and it is difficult for you not to get worse in the second half of your life.
What to do? Otherwise, you can't fight young people, only in terms of experience and wisdom, middle-aged people may have an advantage, because some experience and wisdom can only be obtained by experience.
Therefore, the only thing that can save you is to use your countless eyes to find a thigh and hold it tightly and don't let go, and follow him to finish.
The dual-domain closed loop has gathered a large group of 30+ masters from all walks of life, all of whom have achieved results in their respective fields, and have experience, vision and wisdom.
Such a group of cattle people all chose to let go of the aura of the past and re-walk 0-1 in the dual-domain closed loop.
Because we all know and believe that this is the second half, in this era of increasing uncertainty, the most certain path.
I have prepared two internal notes "Dual-domain Closed-loop Light Entrepreneurship Realization Model" and "Dual-domain Closed-loop Light Entrepreneurship Money Implementation Manual", and private message application note: "Light Entrepreneurship" collection.
This book records my thoughts and mistakes to earn 1 million independently, and there are many operational details, I believe it must be very enlightening to you.
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