Life is like tea, it must be tasted slowly, and the years are like songs to be listened to.
The Tao Te Ching says: "If the enterprise does not stand, the crosser will not work." ”
Those who stand on tiptoe cannot stand, and those who stride cannot go far.
Life is long, you can't be in a hurry, and you can't be fast, and you need to implement it step by step.
When people reach middle age, they have also suffered enough in a hurry.
You might as well try to slow down your pace, and only by slowing down can you live a good life.
Slow half beat on making friends: prophetic heart, and then heart-to-heart
In the book of life, friendship runs throughout.
As the saying goes, "Rely on your parents at home and your friends when you go out." ”
In the long road of life, friends are indispensable and indispensable.
If you make the right friends, you will have one more person to accompany you along the way, and one more person will understand your joy and loss.
On the contrary, if you make the wrong friend, you will be burdened and harmed by them.
During the reign of Wu Zetian, it was forbidden to slaughter cattle and sheep in the world.
One year, when Zhang De came to have a son, he wanted to invite his friends, including Du Su, who had just met him.
When he saw his friends come to cheer, he ordered his servants to slaughter a sheep to celebrate.
Who knew that during the banquet, Du Su secretly hid a piece of mutton and told Wu Zetian afterwards.
When Zhang De found out, he panicked, but Wu Zetian did not blame him, but said: I issued a decree, the original intention was to economize, today you have great joy, you are not guilty, in the future, you must keep your eyes open. ”
In life, there are similar people who get along with each other and are amiable, but they wrap their selfishness under the cloak of friendship.
You may treat him as a close friend, but he may push you into the abyss.
Therefore, to make friends, you must make friends slowly, and you must understand first and then make friends.
As the saying goes: "The sea in the world knows the depth, only the human heart is difficult to measure." ”
Knowing a person is never the same as knowing a person.
There are many people in the world, and not all of them are worthy of your trust.
In the second half of life, you don't necessarily need a lot of friends, the more you go back, three or two confidants, it's enough.
Therefore, leave enough time for each other and have kindness that is not easy to put your heart into your heart, so that you can live up to your friendship and not hurt yourself.
Slow down your words: listen first, then speak
Hu Shi's wife, Jiang Dongxiu, is a tiger, a tough person, an acute person, and always speaks straightforwardly.
Especially when the two were in the United States, Jiang Dongxiu's temper became worse and worse, and she often got angry because of the little things in life.
And Hu Shi always listened silently to her counts on the side.
After Jiang Dongxiu's anger subsided, Hu Shi slowly said kind words and relieved him, and explained the matter clearly.
He even joked with others with a smile that a man should have three things to do with his wife.
That is, the wife should follow when she goes out, the wife must obey the commands, and the wife must blindly obey when she is wrong;
Waiting for his wife to put on makeup, remembering his wife's birthday, enduring his wife's beating and scolding, and willing to spend money on his wife.
Hu Shi never cared about all this, didn't say much, didn't argue, and was willing to make his wife happy.
In this way, although Hu Shi and Jiang Dongxiu have very different personalities, they get along with each other and become a rare example of happiness in an old-style marriage.
In this life, people often have one mouth for success and one mouth for failure.
As the saying goes, "Words should be slow, but hearts should be kind." ”
Before you speak, think about it, it is kindness for the sake of others.
In many relationships and families, it is important to think carefully before you speak.
But in reality, there are many cases where words are faster than brains.
As everyone knows, when you are open-mouthed and quick to speak, you will inadvertently hurt others and yourself.
Whether a person has a level or not is mainly manifested in speech, depending on whether his speech is slow.
The ancients said: "If you are slow in speech and dignified in your demeanor, you will be virtuous." ”
A truly virtuous person knows how to listen to and sort out the situation before he speaks; Before speaking, take it slow to avoid hurting others.
In the second half of life, to those close to you and those you care about, you should say heavy things lightly, slow down when you are urgent, and say less angry words.
In this way, you can speak to your heart and integrate love into your life.
Life is half a beat slow: slow down, there is taste
I like Zhu Guangqian very much, he once said: "Doing knowledge and career can only be regarded as the second thing in life."
The first thing in life is life.
What I call 'life' is 'enjoyment', 'appreciation', and 'nurturing vitality'.
If we forget life for the sake of learning and career, that kind of learning and career will lose its true meaning and value in life. ”
This remark is worth pondering.
Today's people are getting better and better, but they are also getting busier.
Many people become busy for life and then become numb in the busy.
Just keep your head down and hurry, no longer have the mood to look at the sky, no longer have time to spend with your family.
During the Five Dynasties and Ten Kingdoms period, King Wu Yue and Concubine Dai were a very enviable couple.
When he was young, King Wu Yue was just a smuggler of salt, and his wife, Concubine Dai, was just an ordinary and virtuous peasant girl.
Later, after marrying Queen Wu Yue, he has been living a life of fighting in the south and the north, and being displaced.
It wasn't until after the founding of the People's Republic of China that she settled down, and Concubine Dai wanted to go home to visit her mother, who she hadn't seen for a long time.
Later, seeing that his wife had not returned for a long time, King Wu Yue couldn't help but feel a little missing, so he wanted to write a letter urging his wife to return early.
But when I looked up and saw the peach and willow green in front of the window, I didn't want my wife to miss the scenery on the road, so I only wrote: "The flowers bloom on the Mo and return slowly." ”
The flowers in the field are blooming, and you can enjoy the flowers slowly and come back slowly.
The ancients said: "Life is like tea that must be tasted slowly, and years are like songs to be listened to." ”
One should not live oneself as a spinning gear.
Put time back for a while, and slow down the pace a bit.
Sunrise, sunset, spring, summer, autumn and winter are all free, and the daily life scattered in the world can only be experienced and savored by slowing down.
In the second half of life, live slowly, and life will bloom with color.
A president of Tsinghua University has a three-character philosophy: slow, steady, and rigid.
In everything, start from a slow place, in order to stand in a stable place, in order to keep your life in a rigid place.
In this practice of life, you need to be unhurried, say word by word, read book by book, do things one by one, and live day by day.
After all, a really good life is always made slowly.
May the second half of your life, don't be in a hurry, grasp your own rhythm, and the best will always appear inadvertently.