I wonder if you've found out? In today's society, a striking phenomenon is emerging. Those children who excel in their studies often choose to stay in the big city after graduation to work hard, but behind this lies the embarrassment of the family's financial situation. Over the years, for the sake of their children's studies, parents have cut back on food and clothing, and even did everything they could, just so that they could enter the hall of university and obtain a better future. As a result, children often choose to settle down in the city and drift away from their hometown.
In my family, for example, although I didn't dare to call myself a top student, I also tried to enter the threshold of university. Unfortunately, I was young and ignorant at the time, and I didn't think deeply about the choice of major, so it dawned on me after graduation that the job opportunities in my hometown did not favor my major. In desperation, I had no choice but to leave my hometown and go to the bustling big city to find my own piece of the world.
Living in a big city is not easy, with high housing prices, a fast pace of life, and fierce competitive pressure. In order to gain a foothold here, I had to work hard, save money to buy a house, buy a car, and prepare for my wedding. And all this is inseparable from the strong support of parents. They did almost everything for me, pouring their savings and pension money into me.
However, when I finally settled down in the big city, I found that most of the money I earned was used to pay off my mortgage, car loan, and daily expenses, and I had very little left for my parents. What makes me feel even more guilty is that due to my busy work and life, I rarely have time to go back to my hometown to accompany and take care of them. Whenever I think of my parents' lonely figures and expectant eyes, my heart is full of self-blame and helplessness.
On the contrary, those children with average academic performance often enter the society early and start working to earn money. They use their own hands to bring income to the family, so that their parents can save a sum of money for their own money. Since they dropped out of school early, their families have also saved a lot of money on school fees. With their own efforts and frugality, these children gradually accumulated a certain amount of wealth, built a bungalow, bought a car, and married a daughter-in-law. As a result, their parents were relieved of their burdens and the family lived happily together.
More importantly, these children are able to stay with their parents, take care of their food and daily life, and give them spiritual comfort and companionship. In rural areas, the value of this affection and companionship cannot be measured in monetary terms.
Therefore, some people say that those children who seem to have no future are actually here to repay the favor. In my opinion, such words really make sense. Although they did not achieve dazzling results in their studies, they gave back to their families and parents in their own way. Their presence and efforts make the family more harmonious and happy, and also make parents feel a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction in raising their children.
These two contrasting phenomena are not unique, but a microcosm of many rural households. Parents who have devoted all their lives to their children's education face empty nest loneliness and financial difficulties after their children graduate. Although children have better life and development opportunities in big cities, they often neglect to care for and accompany their parents because they are busy with work. This kind of contradiction and struggle in reality makes people feel deeply embarrassed.
I wonder if everyone feels the same way? Feel free to share your thoughts.