"The one who stands cannot stand, and the one who straddles cannot move. The meaning of this proverb is that he who stands on tiptoe cannot hold his foundation, and he who walks fast cannot go far.
Life is like a long river. Don't be in a hurry, don't be too impatient, you need to go down step by step.
With the passage of time, people reach middle age, experience the ups and downs of life, and deeply understand the bitterness brought by hurry. At this time, why not adjust your pace and make your life rhythm easier?
Only when life slows down can we truly appreciate its charm and truly live every ordinary and precious day.
Only by walking down-to-earth and putting the weight and warmth of life in every step can we walk steadily and slowly.
Make friends slowly. Thinking and talking to thoughts.
Friendship is an eternal thread that runs through this magnificent masterpiece of life.
As the saying goes, "Rely on the love of your parents at home, and treat each other with sincerity in front of your friends when you go out".
In the long journey of life, the role of friends is indispensable. This is important.
Making the right pair of friends is like having one more companion on your journey, a spiritual partner with whom you can share your happiness and loss. But once you make the wrong friends, you get into trouble and hurt.
During the reign of Wu Zetian, a ban was issued prohibiting the slaughter of cattle and sheep as a sign of frugality.
Once, Zhang De, who was an official, was overjoyed to have a son in his old age and decided to invite relatives and friends, including the newly acquainted Du Su.
In the midst of the excitement of his friends, he made an exception and ordered his servants to slaughter a lamb to celebrate. However, during the meal, Du Su secretly hid the mutton, and later reported the matter to Wu Zetian.
When Zhang De learned of this, he was frightened, but Wu Zetian did not blame him, and said: "I gave this order to promote the economy. Today, I have one more child in my family and I am very happy. Of course, they are not on the list of culprits. "But in the future, entertainment will be a crime. "You have to see people's hearts. ”
This story reminds us that there are people in life who seem to be friendly and kind, but in fact hide their selfish desires under the guise of friendship. 。You think he's your best friend, but he could push you into the abyss at a critical moment.
Therefore, the way to make friends is to be casual and understand it deeply before expressing sincerity. As the old saying goes: "The depths of the world's oceans can be measured, but the inner world is incomprehensible".
Knowing someone is not the same as really knowing them. Not all living beings in the world are worthy of your honesty and trust.
Later in life, the number of friends doesn't matter. Taking it a step further, having three or two close friends by your side is enough to keep you warm for years.
So, take enough time to get to know each other and don't confide in others easily, so that your friendship will last forever.
Say it slowly: listen first, then speak.
Hu Shi's wife, Jiang Dongxiu, is a tiger with a strong and straightforward temperament. She has a fierce and impulsive personality, like oil on a fire, and never cooks. Her words and deeds have taken a detour. When I lived in the United States, I was very short-tempered and often lost my temper over trivial things.
However, whenever Jiang Dongxiu expressed strong feelings, Hu Shih always listened silently with unparalleled patience and tolerance. As the anger gradually subsided, Hu Shicai slowly began to use kind words, wisdom and understanding to resolve the contradictions and expose the truth.
Hu Shi once humorously revealed his unique views on the relationship between husband and wife to his friends. He advocated that men should have the wisdom of "three from four things" with their wives. That is to say, when you go out, you must follow your wife and be obedient to her. Even though the husband must know how to respond when his wife makes a mistake, the husband needs to make sure that the wife dresses well, remembers the birthday, and sometimes tolerates the occasional criticism without fighting back......These are all things that must be learned. I plan to donate generously to meet my wife's needs.
Although Hu Shi and Jiang Dongxiu have completely different personalities, their marriage is a rare happy story in the old society. There are many different situations in life, and success is often expressed in words, and failure is also expressed in words. As the old saying goes, "Speak slowly and deliberately." "Think before you speak, it's thoughtfulness and kindness.
In real life, words tend to speak faster than ideas. When we speak too quickly without thinking, we often hurt others or inadvertently hurt ourselves.
A person's level of education and level can often be determined by the speed and manner at which he speaks. The ancients have long taught that if you are calm in your words and deeds, and you are steadfast in your work, your virtue will improve day by day.
A truly virtuous person is good at listening before speaking, calmly considering the context. Depending on the situation, you should know how to slow down when speaking to avoid inadvertently hurting others.
In the second half of life, people often whisper harsh words to relatives, friends, and people they care about, and they should speak slowly when they are urgent, not emotional and angry words, and they need to be controlled. As much as possible. Possibly.
Only in this way can our words penetrate into people's hearts like spring breeze and rain, and emotions can naturally flow into life and nourish every warm moment.
Slow down life: Slow down and enjoy life.
Mr. Zhu Guangqian once left some philosophical words, which deeply touched me. "In the great chapter of life, knowledge and business are important, but career is even more important.
The most important thing in life is life.
Life as I understand it is deep enjoyment, delicate appreciation, and nourishment of life.
If we ignore life itself in the process of pursuing knowledge and career, then knowledge and career will lose their essential meaning and value of life. ”
These profound words deserve to be savored and pondered by each of us.
In today's society, people's living standards are improving day by day, but the pace of life is also becoming faster and busier.
Many people work hard to earn a living, but gradually become numb in their busyness and forget the true meaning of life.
They walked briskly with their heads down, and they didn't have time to look up at the vast sky or take care of their loved ones.
Dating back to the era of the Five Dynasties and Ten Kingdoms, the love story between King Wu Yue and Princess Dai is the envy of the world. At that time, King Wu Yue was just an ordinary private salt merchant, and his wife Dai Guifei was just a chaste and chaste peasant girl.
After marriage, she lived a wandering life, following the kings of Wu and Yue to the north and south, and did not settle down until the founding of the People's Republic of China. At this time, Princess Diana missed her mother, whom she had not seen for a long time, and decided to return to China.
Dai Ji did not come back for a long time after returning to China, and King Wu Yue missed her in his heart and wanted to write a pen to pray for her to come back as soon as possible.
However, when I looked up and saw the pink flowers and verdant willows outside the window, I didn't want my wife to miss the beautiful scenery along the way, so I quietly wrote in the letter: The wildflowers have quietly returned. When the flowers are in bloom, you can enjoy them and go home.
The ancients once said, "Life is like a cup of tea, you need to drink it slowly." The years are like a song, which needs to be listened to quietly. ”
People shouldn't live like cogs in a machine that never stops, they need to learn how to live that way. Take the time to feel the pace of life, slow down at the right time, and feel every moment of life.
Sunrise and sunset, spring, summer, autumn and winter, everything is free, and the daily life scattered around the world can only be understood and appreciated by slowing down.
In the second half of your life, as long as you take your time, your life will bloom with colorful colors.
Some of the presidents of Tsinghua University are well versed in the philosophy of life of "slow, steady and strong". This short three-letter motto is full of profound wisdom for life. 。
He advocated that everything should start calmly and not be rushed. Only then will you be able to stand firm at a steady pace and stick to your life beliefs and values.
The long road of life is actually a delicate and persistent practice. In practice, it is important not to be impatient, to let the words flow like whispers, to enjoy reading each word, to complete tasks one by one, and to spend each day at work. Be careful every day.
After all, a truly good and rewarding life is not something that can be achieved overnight. Just like making fine sake, it needs to be fermented slowly and calmed down.