"The most likely thing to happen in this world is to keep your distance from others until you lose contact. ”
Indeed, feelings are like a flower that has been baptized by wind and rain, becoming more and more distant and quietly disappearing.
We are often misled into believing that relationship breakdowns are caused by indifference or verbal distancing.
But in reality, a truly deep affection does not end in a moment of relative silence.
In the same way, a truly strong relationship does not break down due to a temporary lack of dialogue.
The most comfortable way to get along with the rest of the world is when we are all used to being silent and able to understand each other implicitly.
Sincere friendship, tacit understanding without words.
There is a fierce debate on the internet platform. "What is a truly comfortable, comfortable friendship? An anonymous netizen's answer received tens of thousands of likes and likes.
Early in her college career, she met her now-best friend, and the two quickly formed a close friendship thanks to their shared love of reading.
They prefer to spend time together in the library rather than active play activities, quietly immersed in the world of books, and in each other's company.
Although they both have a strong interest in foreign classics, they both know how to respect each other's reading experience and never interfere with each other's reading. Share reading insights only at the right time.
Most of the time, they only occasionally raise their heads, give each other a knowing look, and each immerse themselves in their own reading world. The whole process requires little verbal communication, as if I have been quietly cut off from the hustle and bustle of the outside world, leaving only a quiet space to share with my books.
This tacit understanding continued throughout their college careers.
After graduation, the two gave each other their beloved books without discussion and tacit understanding. Although they were indifferent to each other, they silently showed deep gratitude and sympathy.
Later, she worked for a local company, while her best friend chose to go far away for graduate school. The geographical separation did not diminish the deep friendship between them.
Knowing her love for food, her girlfriend always silently gave her a box of local snacks to use her taste buds to get closer to her.
Whenever the holidays come, she doesn't hesitate to travel to the city where her best friend is, just to escape the loneliness and loneliness of her academic life.
This comfortable, unspoken relationship is the bond that maintains and strengthens their friendship from their college days to the present day.
Sanmao once said affectionately: "There are very few bosom friends in life, which is normal. But sometimes, when you talk about them, a warm ripple rises in your heart, and such friends are real friends. ”
As the years went by and the number of people around me gradually decreased, I found that the hardships and sorrows of life weakened the bonds between people.
But there are always friendships that transcend time and space, and there are friendships that can be understood even if they are silent, and there are always friendships that are always closely connected even if they don't talk often.
The key to getting along with friends is the joy of having nothing to talk about, and the trust that has nothing to say. The moments that don't need words are deeply embedded with all sincere emotions and tacit understanding.
Warm affection, silence and love.
When it comes to the Chinese New Year, what young people are most worried about is the continuous doubts and expectations of their parents.
Intensive career exploration, frequent wedding events, and even well-arranged blind dates all seem like inevitable challenges.
After enduring the wind and rain outside, they returned home exhausted. I wanted to rest in a warm port, but I had to face one small stress after another in my life. This situation is already exhausting.
As parents, our love for our children is deep and warm, but sometimes silent understanding and support can be more touching.
You can also try to understand your child's inner world in a more sensitive and thoughtful way, turning this consideration into a spring breeze or rain that gently wets everything.
Due to the epidemic, my friend Linlin has been away from her hometown for two years, and her homesickness is like an arrow from the string. Finally, when the company announced the holiday, she couldn't wait to go home.
When Linlin returned home, she decided to surprise her parents, so she didn't reveal the date of her return in advance. With anticipation and amazement in her heart, she quietly approached her familiar and distant home.
Unexpectedly, when he walked to the door of the house, a sharp-eyed neighbor recognized Linlin at first sight, who he hadn't seen for a long time. He enthusiastically asked a series of trivial but touching questions. "How old are you now? "Do you have a boyfriend?" "What do you do?" "What's your monthly salary?" ”
This series of interrogations was like a rain of bullets, which not only caught Linlin off guard and embarrassed, but also found herself unable to cope.
Fortunately, my mother left home at the right time, rescued Linlin, and skillfully solved the problems that were too direct one by one.
When she got home, she found that Linlin's parents didn't ask her too much. Her parents silently cleaned up her room and prepared a special table full of Linlin's favorite food. Their attention to detail is on full display.
Even during the Lunar New Year, her parents are more concerned about her health than over-exploring her personal privacy.
This makes the spirit more satisfied and happy. Because in this deep and generous love, she felt silent understanding and support. She doesn't have to deal with the pressure of questioning and is able to enjoy the time together in a warm family atmosphere. Times.
The night before she left home, she curiously asked her mother why she didn't ask what she was doing at this time.
Mom listened and sighed silently, full of love. "Like our neighbors, you will feel uncomfortable if we pay too much attention to your details.
Your dad and I only want you to be like this. "Spend this Chinese New Year holiday carefree and enjoy the warmth of home. ”
I have learned that the deepest and warmest family affection in the world cannot be expressed in words, but is contained in the thoughtfulness of parents for their children at all times. And pay silently.
As Mr. Qiu Guoping expressed his profound insights in the book "Man and Eternity":
The emotions that really move people are often simple and unassuming. It's not something to fuss about or overt, it's buried deep in your psyche.
The silence of parents is not indifference, but careful protection and care. Worried that their words would touch the child's emotions, they chose silent care.
True affection is very warm and full of deep love, even if it is silent.
Intimate love is also comfortable without talking.
There's a ingrained saying that goes like this: "When you can share a moment of silence with someone without verbal communication and without feeling a hint of embarrassment, the moment you realize: you've met someone who fits you for life." ”
This is what good love looks like. This includes not only the intimacy and tacit understanding that we can discuss anything, but also the serenity and freedom that we can face each other silently.
Take the relationship between actor Chen Daoming and his wife Du Xian as an example. Their relationship is exemplary. Unlike others in the entertainment industry, Chen Daoming does not smoke or drink, does not like to socialize or socialize, and rarely participates in noisy dinners.
After work, I prefer to go back to my family, soak up the charm of books and words, or enjoy some down-to-earth time with my wife. Sometimes, Chen Daoming and Du Xian sit side by side under the window, each focusing on the things in front of them, although there is no verbal communication, you can feel the quiet harmony and tacit understanding.
Outside the window, the fallen leaves fall quietly, and the house is quiet. She embroidered the flowers and grass carefully, and he concentrated on cutting the leather bag. The painting is full of moving serenity and poetry.
This quiet, laid-back, respectful lifestyle has allowed them to work together discreetly but resolutely for more than forty years. I envy their deep affection and love.
The famous writer Su Sen once affectionately explained:
Truly high-quality love is like running water. You don't have to deliberately respond or work hard to maintain it. There is already a natural sense of comfort and tacit understanding between the two sides. If a relationship or a person asks you to do everything in your power to please you, the destiny that follows you for the rest of your life may not be yours.
Indeed, love that is too contrived will not last, and relationships that are too restrained often do not last long.
These feelings, which can eventually end hand in hand, often do not require complex language to maintain warmth.
There's no need to deliberately joke or find a topic, everything is natural.
When we communicate with words, we gush endlessly, like pure spring water, but when we face it silently, we don't disturb each other and can live in peace.
Even if two people sit quietly in the corner and don't speak, they won't feel stressed and uncomfortable.
Silent companionship is worth a thousand words, enough to give you an incomparable peace and firmness deep inside.
If you are lucky enough to meet someone in your long life who gives you peace of mind without saying anything, please cherish this rare relationship!
Lin Qingxuan once explained profoundly:
The best way to express it is often not words, but silence.
In interpersonal interactions, if we can calmly control moments of silence, we can say that such relationships are truly deep and harmonious.
Sincere friendship doesn't need complicated words to have a tacit understanding.
Warm friendships, even when immersed in silence, can reveal deep love.
And deep love can be silent, even if it is silent. Comfortable and intimate.
There are indeed many difficulties on the road of life. I hope that you and I will establish a comfortable and pleasant friendship and jointly interpret the wonders of life, so that this journey of life is worthwhile.