With the Chinese New Year approaching, many families are looking forward to the warm moment of reunion. However, not all families can enjoy this warmth. Especially for those families whose children would rather choose to stay away from home than go home during the Chinese New Year, there are often deep-seated reasons behind them.
By delving into the three typical family environments of origin, we hope to reveal the impact of family on children's development, and provide some food for thought and advice for children and parents who are stuck in the family environment.
There are three situations in which the family environment affects the child's development
1.Patriarchy and partiality issues
In some families, parents' preference for their children is significant, especially under the influence of patriarchal attitudes. Children growing up in such environments, especially girls, often feel deeply neglected and treated unfairly. This emotional damage can deepen over time, leading to feelings of alienation and distrust of the child's family, and even affecting their sense of self-worth and self-esteem.
2.Parents are overly demanding and unsatisfied
Another family environment is where parents have high expectations and requirements for their children, but rarely give corresponding support and recognition. In such a family, the child may feel constant pressure and blame, feeling that he or she is struggling to meet the expectations of his parents in whatever he does. This long-term psychological pressure not only affects children's self-confidence and self-identity, but can also lead to their resistance and avoidance of their families.
3.Family internal friction and conflicts
When the family environment is full of quarrels and conflicts, children grow up with a lack of stability and security. This unhealthy home environment can take a serious toll on a child's mental health, affecting their social skills and the way they handle relationships. Children may develop conflict-avoidance behavior patterns and struggle to establish stable and healthy relationships even in adulthood.
Suggestions and reflections
1.Foster a family culture of fairness and equality
Parents should be aware that love and attention to their children requires fairness and equality. Every child should be given equal care and opportunities to avoid psychological harm caused by partiality.
2.Set reasonable expectations and encourage rather than oppress
Parents should set reasonable expectations based on their child's personality and abilities, promoting their child's growth and development through encouragement and support rather than oppression and blame.
3.Create a harmonious family atmosphere
Family members should work together to create a harmonious, supportive, and understanding family environment through effective communication and conflict resolution. Such an environment is conducive to the healthy growth of children and the establishment of a positive outlook on life and values.
Wrapping up
Family is the cradle of children's growth, and a healthy and harmonious family environment is essential for children's growth. We hope that by sharing these tips and suggestions, parents can think deeply and work together to create a healthier and more supportive environment for their children.