Someone, there is a fault; If there is trouble, there will be rivers and lakes. Most people will just curse, curse, or face people they hate. The more abusive, the more angry, the more confrontational with others, the more caught in the whirlpool of conflict. It is not a good habit to insult others and confront them. These are the tools that make you really smart.
If you quarrel with someone you hate, you'll end up wasting your time and energy. The other person may not believe you and think that you are deliberately finding fault. You've offended someone, and you've gotten into a lot of trouble. Why bother? "World New Language" records that Guan Ning and Huaxin sat on the mat reading a book, and when they saw the dignitaries outside the car, Guan Ning read the book with peace of mind, and Huaxin hurriedly ran out to read. Guan Ning saw it and cut it off directly with Huaxin.
There are a lot of important things waiting for us to do in life, and there is no need to delay your rhythm and consume your mind because of a person you hate, trying to educate the other person to be like yourself. You can't, and you don't have to. The best way to deal with it is to see through it, because the other party's problem requires him to eat a few times, sober up from his heart, and then change.
I came across a quote online that I found a little funny: "Smiling at people and things we don't like is a skill we have to learn." "In this life, ordinary and indifferent people and things occupy the most, and there are few people who like it and few people who don't like it. But these people and things we don't like tend to make us feel frustrated, angry, and life can't be tailored to you. When you meet someone you hate, the best thing to do is to calm down first.
I read such a story, a scholar and an old farmer argued, the old farmer thought: "three seven twenty-eight", the scholar said: "obviously three seven twenty-one", the two argued endlessly, almost fighting. So I came to the county ** and asked the county magistrate's uncle to make a decision. The county magistrate heard the story and sent the old peasant home, but he made 20 big boards of repairs. The scholar was angry and confused. The county order said: "You are a scholar, but you fight with Bai, you should fight." It dawned on the scholar.
When we meet low-level people, instead of arguing with them and making ourselves more angry, but we can't tell the difference between black and white, it is better to remain silent, take a step back, and not discuss the strengths and weaknesses of fools, which can reduce many unnecessary troubles in life and is also the highest self-discipline of a person.
In life, you will meet more people that you hate, such as friends of your friends, friends of your parents, they may not like you, and every time they speak aggressively, you can't stand it. At this time, you must learn to be patient and not confront them in public, because you are still among friends or parents, and your behavior will embarrass them and lose face. The other person is aggressive towards you, but you are smiling, and I believe that many people will praise you for your tolerance.
As a mature adult, you should learn to be calm in the face of people you hate, so that you can take care of others and safeguard your own interests. When you step into this society, you will find that your preferences are not so important, the only thing you have to do is to survive better in this society, even a little grievance is not a big deal. A smart person drew a line and asked the people around him how they could make it short without moving the line.
The person next to him couldn't remember it after thinking for a long time, and the wise man smiled and drew a longer line next to that line. In comparison, the first line looks much shorter. This quote is quoted in relationships and gives us a lesson: the best response to someone who looks down on you is not to scold or fight hand-to-hand, but to become stronger than him. The wicked are much stronger than the weak, you are strong, he is weak, he is weak, he is weak, he does not dare to appear before you.
Don't be angry, let yourself go" is a noble expression of emotion. When we meet someone we hate, instead of getting angry or angry, we should let go of ourselves and maintain peace and tranquility in our hearts. We may feel angry or hurt when we meet someone we hate, but we shouldn't let those emotions control us. Anger is to punish oneself for the mistakes of others. Don't let other people's rudeness and stupidity affect your peace of mind. By doing so, you can prevent yourself from being bothered by negative emotions and keep your mind healthy.
If you meet someone in your life that annoys you, the most important thing is to make some space for yourself and others. In other words, we should try to avoid quarrels and avoid excessive antagonism, as this will only make things more complicated and difficult to solve. Instead, we can choose to approach our relationships with each other in a tolerant and inclusive way. Sometimes giving someone space is giving yourself a way out.
The relationship between people is mutual, and we can only get along better if we give each other some tolerance. If you focus your energy on the things you like, spend your time and energy on the people you like, and spend your time and energy on the people you hate, the mood will be different. One brings a good mood, and the other is a pure waste of time and energy. In fact, there is no need to waste time on annoying people, you can shift your attention to the people you like and do what you like, and naturally there will be no extra time and energy to pay attention to those people you hate.
When a field is overgrown with crops, it is difficult for weeds to gain a foothold. It's the same with people's hearts, if you spend your time and energy on the person you like, then your heart will be full of happiness and joy, and there will be free space to think about the person you hate.
A lot of "hate" is actually a person's own opinion, not an attitude accepted by society. No matter how good people are, they will be hated, especially those who have no potential, and narrow-minded and excellent people are mortal enemies. If you think about it seriously, hatred is ignorant in general, and life is not atmospheric. The more people you hate, the more you have no patterns, and over time you will move in an untested direction. Therefore, you have to get along with anyone normally, have a kind heart, and tolerate other people's ugliness, beauty, willfulness, and so on.
If you look at the strengths of others, you will be able to know your own shortcomings. Look left and right, and you will become excellent yourself. Wang Xizhi said: "If you are born to know, you will be angry; Those who have learned will forget to eat. "At the beginning of the book, do not show the situation sufficiently, once enough, twice less to the situation, three times a little like this, four times to moisten the bag, five times to add extraction. If it is raw, it cannot be counted. "Learning can make people self-cultivation and calm, making them as clear, serene and calm as the water of a lake. Because of the flow of wisdom, the deep lake has a soul.
So, if you want to get rid of someone you hate, the most effective way is to keep learning and growing. If the annoying emotions are not caused by the malicious behavior of the other party, but more the result of misunderstandings or miscommunication, then should we face up to the problem and express our feelings and expectations through open communication? Perhaps in the process, we will find that the other party also has their own difficulties and ideas, so as to find an effective way to resolve the conflict.
Faced with this situation, we should first be aware of the importance of communication. It is only through open communication that we can better understand each other's thoughts and feelings, thus eliminating misunderstandings and contradictions. During communication, we should focus on expressing our feelings and expectations instead of blaming or attacking the other person. At the same time, it is also necessary to listen carefully to the opinions and opinions of the other party, and respect the feelings and ideas of the other party.
Out of sight and out of mind about people or things you don't like. So when you hate someone, try to have as little contact with him as possible, and there is no need to fall out. Obviously I already hate it, and I still have frequent contact, which will only exacerbate the disgust in my heart and lead to a complete breakdown of the relationship. Reduce the chance of contact and don't touch unless necessary, each other can be better.
Turning each other's faces against each other will not solve the problem, but will easily exacerbate the conflict. While no contact will not solve the problem, it will slowly fade over time. Less contact is better than confrontation. The older you get, the more you realize that being passive is a good thing. Only by cultivating one's own blunt sensibility can it be possible to live a more relaxed and happy life. Because when you don't care so much about what others say and think, you can walk freely in your own world, and you truly become the master of your own life. The charm of being passive is that you don't need to do anything, you just need to change your mindset a little bit, slow yourself down, get yourself moving, and life will be better.
Of course, a chaotic society is made up of all kinds of people. It doesn't matter if you like these people or hate them, it's a very common operation. Because no one can be liked by everyone. If you are fortunate enough to have a lot of like-minded people around you, then please cherish this hard-earned relationship. If you are surrounded by occasional bored people, calm down and don't rush to show your boredom, let alone your indignation. Shakyamuni once said, "No matter who you meet, he is the person who should appear in your life, not by chance, he will definitely teach you something." "So hating others is actually a way of punishing yourself. The most important thing in life is these six words: "Be yourself and be happy." ”