The Spring Festival Gala is not only a carnival for the whole country to celebrate the New Year, but also a program that will reflect the spiritual outlook and general environment of people in the past year.Among the language programs that attract the most attention, "Can't Open Your Mouth" and "Can That Be the Same" both focus on family education, which shows that everyone attaches great importance to education issues. At the same time, it also shows that the current problems in education are still very serious.
These two programs respectively reflect the common misunderstandings of fathers and mothers in family education, and they are also a common situation in Chinese-style parents. The father does not declare the approval of his children, and even hesitates to praise, and the mother's desire to control the family makes people want to cry without tears.
When the mother played by Jiang Shimeng knew that her daughter was sleeping and shouted **, the college students who were "scolded" at home across the country broke their defenses, as if they saw their parents。Almost every day at home during the holidays is spent like this, and they want to sleep well during the holidays, but parents always deliberately make a lot of noise to disturb their dreams.
If the university student resists,Parents not only do not restrain themselves, but instead reprimand them for not sleeping at night and waking up in the morning, and playing with their mobile phones when they don't do anything all day. You have to know the status of college students at home, which is quite humble, and they may be scolded no matter what they do, and even more scolded if they don't do anything.
Students are also curious about how parents find so many reasons for swearing, and now they find out that it is a double standard. Parents don't eat leftovers to maintain health, and others don't eat it is a waste of food; If you can't sleep at night, you can brush **, and staying up late is harmful to the body; Others are not allowed to snore, but you can't control your own snoring.
Parents require their children's academic performance to be compared with good students, and their living conditions to be compared with those of poor students. Usually go out to play and come home late, and if you don't go out to play, you think the child is lazy. Parents sleep and the whole family sleeps, and parents have to get up when they wake up. Usually if you don't talk at home, you are scolded for being dumb, playing with your mobile phone and playing stupidly, and when you talk at home, you are suspected of being noisy, like a big speaker.
The student wants to refute,List the "double standard" behavior of parents, and parents will say, "Can that be the same?" It is better to admit that they are three highs than to admit their double standards, and students understand why there are only picky eaters and no picky eaters, because parents always only pick what they like to buy food.
Parents are the first teachers of their children, but it is easy to ignore the role of words and deeds in life, but in the face of the same thing, what happens to themselves and others, they will use different standards to examine, and they are not allowed to refute, which makes students very helplessIt's a pity that most parents don't care about it.
The original intention of double-standard parents is inseparable from "I am good for you", and higher requirements are put forward in order to make the next generation better than blueI thought that this would make the next generation better, but I ignored the ideas of the students themselves. Asking others to implement something that parents can't do on their own will only make their children feel that their parents are unreasonable.
Parents do not allow their children to defend themselves, as long as they enforce the parents' rulesIt's not for the good of the child, it's more like exercising your own desire to controlInstead of feeling loved, students feel that everything they do is completing the task. After a long time, students will feel that learning is for their parents, and eating and sleeping are also for their parents, so what is the meaning of their existence?
Most of the truly outstanding talents grew up in loving families, and the encouragement and recognition of their parents is their strong spiritual pillar, which will make them more confident, positive and optimistic, and such students also have high emotional intelligence, excellent work ability and oral communication skills. In contrast, if students subtly become as "discouraged" as their parents, it is difficult to gain a foothold in the current workplace.
Chinese parents are more restrained in expressing their affection, they are afraid that being too tolerant or often praising them will make them complacent, but in fact, appropriate recognition and praise are more effective than stick education. The high standards of parents are far less effective than improving the internal motivation of students, and the unreasonable educational environment can also be seen from the sketches, and the impact on students will be terrible.
Parents are children, and they plan for the long termThe purpose of education is to make children better and better, not just obedient。Obedient and sensible children can indeed make parents worry less, which is beneficial to parents, but it may not be beneficial to children. This kind of students who obey their parents' words and plans have less thinking ability, and even have a pleasing personality, and are easy to suffer in society.
In addition,If parents want to have high standards and strict requirements for their children, they should not have double standards, but first put forward strict requirements for themselves and play an exemplary role for the next generation。In this way, the children will follow the example and implement the standards of the parents. In this way, not only students can become better, but parents can also benefit from it, and teaching and learning are the right way to open family education.
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