For parents, when their children go to school, the most concerned should be whether their children will be bullied.
This is a problem that children often see when they grow up, and it is also a problem that parents are very worried about and headaches. So what should parents do when their own children are bullied by other children?
Today we are going to share how to help children deal with "school bullying". When a child is bullied by other children, parents must do the following three things so that the child will no longer be wronged and will no longer be easily bullied in the future.
1.Stand by the child.
You're good, why are others bullying you? Why do others blame you and not others? You have to reflect on your own reasons! ”
When children tell their parents that they are being bullied, many parents will tell their children like this, because many parents still believe in strict education of their children and look for the reasons for everything from their children. But it actually makes the child more isolated.
In the hearts of children, parents are the most trusted and dependent people for children. When the child feels aggrieved and needs the comfort of the parents, the parents do not agree and criticize the child, the child will feel more aggrieved, and may be aggrieved next time. I will never tell my parents again.
Therefore, when a child is bullied, parents must stand by the child's side and support the child. A colleague was bullied by a young boy as a child. My colleague's mother happened to see it. The coworker's mother criticized the little boy and slapped the boy twice.
A colleague said: This should be the most sassy moment for remembering my mother!
When a child is bullied, parents must comfort the child in time, help the child, love the child, so that the child has self-confidence and a sense of dependence.
2.Tell your child to fight back.
Many people have this question: when a child is bullied, should you tell the child to fight back?
Tell your child to fight back, because you are worried that your child will be too assertive later and that he will fight later. In fact, there is a high probability that the child who is bullied will not develop this kind of character, otherwise he will not be bullied. If this kind of child is not taught to resist, he may be more likely to be bullied later on.
So, it's okay to tell your child to fight back, fight back. If the other person makes the first move, you must let the child learn to fight back.
Of course, the way to fight back is not necessarily to beat the opponent. In the face of very strong forces, if the child is forced to confront others head-on, the child may be hurt even more. Fighting back is an attitude that should be decided on a case-by-case basis.
If the other party is particularly powerful, you can let the child shout for help and attract the attention of classmates on campus. If outside of school, try to avoid taking secluded roads. Don't be scared or panic when someone is bullying you. Afterwards, you must tell your parents, if it is not necessary, if parents are frightened by the other party's momentum, you can pick up and drop off your children during this time, protect your children, and tell those who bully children: My children are not easy to bully.
3.Teach your child to protect themselves.
One of the most important ways to prevent bullying is to learn to protect yourself. Parents must tell their children: I can't cause trouble, but I'm not afraid of others messing with me.
A few years ago, I taught a young boy in the fourth grade. He's chubby and very cute. He laughed with two dimples on his face. He loved to explore mysteries and often read books on geography, science, and the world's unsolved mysteries.
At first impression, I thought he was a very honest little boy and I was worried that he would be bullied. Later I found out that this little boy has a strong sense of self-preservation. He usually doesn't cause trouble, and his grades are very good, but other classmates want to bully him. , he will immediately fight back.
Therefore, parents must do this well and teach their children how to protect themselves, especially girls. In addition to bullying, there is also self-protection against ** criminals.
Cultivate children's privacy awareness from an early age and tell them to protect their privacy.
Mian's mother said:
If you want your children not to be bullied and looked down upon, parents must first start with themselves. Parents must love and value their children enough. When others know that the child has enough love from his parents, others will not bully the child easily.
If the child is bullied outside, parents must do the above three things in time to alleviate the child's inner grievances, and at the same time establish a sense of self-protection in the child.