Editor: Fan Liping.
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Today's children have heavy learning tasks, and they are full of frustration experiences, negative experiences, and problems with self-evaluation.
Miao Miao (pseudonym), female, 17 years old, is currently a sophomore in high school, two sisters and brothers, and a younger brother is 7 years old. Miao Miao has always been among the best in her studies since she was a child, and she is a top student in the eyes of her teachers, and she has always been in the top 3 in her class in elementary school, junior high school, and high school. Miao Miao in elementary school has a cheerful personality, has a lot of friends, and lives in another city with her mother. After the 5th grade, he moved to his father's city with his mother, and soon after the relationship with his father collapsed, and the relationship between father and daughter was very poor.
After junior high school, friends began to decrease, and girls of this age liked to form gangs, Miao Miao was ostracized, no longer liked to talk, and became silent. I have told my mother many times: "When I go to college, you have to follow me, rent a house next to my university, and I won't get married after graduation, and I will live like this for the rest of my life." ”
When I entered high school, the mantra became".I'm a social phobiaI love to complain, complain about being tired of studying, complain about the bad school environment, have no friends, don't go out on weekends, don't have contact with the opposite sex, refuse and reject the opposite sex, and have a poor relationship with my father.
My mother tried to take her out for a walk, and went to Shanghai in the summer of 23, and the family spent more than 20,000 yuan, and there was no change. After coming into contact with the concept of the third generation of children's education, I have participated in the camp 3 times since August 2023.
The first time: in August 2023, Sichuan study tour. From the first day to the third day, I cried for more than 3 hours every day, and told the camp instructor that I wanted to find my mother and never participate in camp activities again. During the study tour, the psychological tutor helped Miao Miao find a sense of existence at the right time and place, released the pressure she was under in school with the animal pleasure in nature, and created opportunities for contact with the opposite sex. After the 6 days and 5 nights of activities, Miao Miao returned home. Miao Miao's mother feedback:The child does not wrap itself around his mother like a vine and begins to deal with and face a lot of life and school chores on his ownIt is not like the rejection of camp activities a few days before the school tour, indicating that there will be camp activities in the future and they are willing to participate;
The second time: September 30-October 2, 2023, Heart Partner Eleventh Youth Power Enhancement Three-day Camp, this time Miao Miao undertook a very important job: Eleventh Camp Uniform Design, in the heavy high school life, Miao Miao gladly accepted this task, drafted drawings and repeatedly revised them after studying, and finally 25 children wore camp uniforms designed by Miao Miao, which greatly enhanced Miao Miao's sense of self-esteem. Although the accommodation conditions in the eleventh camp were very poor, Miao Miao did not complain this time, and her emotions did not get out of control, and she spent it safely in the company of several junior high school sisters. After going back, my mother feedback:In 17 years, the family heard Miao Miao take the initiative to praise the opposite sex for the first time, saying that some boys were not bad, could cook, and had a good personality. For the first time, my mother was very happy to hear Miao Miao's affirmation of the opposite sex, she always said that she was not in love, married and infertility, these words made the family see Miao Miao's change in the opposite sex, and also had a glimmer of hope that Miao Miao would be able to fall in love and enter marriage in the future;
Third time: January 29-February 6, 2024, heart partners. The third generation camp - through the planet Northeast ice and snow winter camp, 10 days and 8 nights, the first and second day, was confiscated mobile phone, unable to contact her mother Miao Miao cried for about 30 minutes, from the third day, Miao Miao no longer asked to call her mother, the camp of 26 teenagers from 8 provinces across the country, different regions, different families, different ages, there are many spiritual collisions, camp activities in accordance with the third generation of children's education in the underlying logic of the orderly arrangement.
On the fifth day, when the camp teacher recruited the relevant staff of the juvenile court, Miao Miao, who had always claimed to be a social phobia, took the initiative to raise her hand, she wanted to be a judge, which is the most important position in the juvenile court. 4 cases within 2 hours, Miao Miao, as a judge, commented and summarized each case, which was reasonable, generous, sonorous and logical. The father and mother in the parent group were very excited when they saw **, Miao Miao at this time was the Miao Miao they hadn't seen for many years, the last time they saw such a confident and eloquent Miao Miao was in elementary school. I didn't expect that in just 6 days, the socially fearful and easily withdrawn student bully became so confident and powerful.
In the next 3 days, Miao Miao took the initiative to chat with the Guangzhou girls in the camp, and her eyes were open, tolerant, and magnanimous.
From social fear to self-confident judge, 3 camps, Miao Miao has completed her transformation, she is no longer just a scholar who can only learn, a true scholar with a sound personality, strong interpersonal skills, dare to show herself, and is willing to enter the society. After the Northeast camp ended, Miao Miao said to her mother: The next camp activity, you must rob me, I want to go.
From "I want to go" to "I want to go", behind it is the whole design concept and system of the third-generation camp of the third-generation camp, which has been explored and accumulated by CCTV expert Zhao Xiaoming for many years, and has been personally passed on to the practical landing technology of adolescent personality correction. Precise control of camp instructors.
From low self-esteem to self-confidence, your child is just one heart buddy left behind in the third-generation camp.
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