When people reach middle age, one of the most lethal things for women is nothing more than a change in marriage.
At this time, the woman not only lost her feelings, but also lost her family, and may even be subverted by the three views established in the first half of her life.
Therefore, when a middle-aged woman suffers from a marriage change, she must find a way out as soon as possible, pull herself out of the quagmire of marriage change, and reshape her life.
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Focus on your career and find confidence in your career
In this life, it is impossible to be unlucky all the time, there will always be a time when the rain passes and the sky is clear, and the time comes to operate.
Frustration in love and triumph in my career can be regarded as the summary of my three years of divorce.
Three years after the divorce, Xiao Zeng finally walked out of the shadow of marriage failure, and now she has long been downset about her feelings, and all her time and energy are spent on fighting for her career, fitness, and making herself more beautiful and better.
The betrayal of her ex-husband was an unexpected event that Xiao Zeng had never imagined.
The two have been married for 15 years, have a well-behaved and sensible daughter, and both have good careers.
For 15 years, Xiao Zeng worked and took care of his children at the same time. The ex-husband is in the market, and he is either on a business trip or on the way on a business trip all the year round, and it is difficult to take care of the family, so Xiao Zeng is the person who catches him outside the family.
Once, my ex-husband was also very grateful for Xiao Zeng's dedication, especially the daughters of the two of them had good personalities, good grades, and were loved everywhere, which made my ex-husband feel that Xiao Zeng was a rare treasure.
But when all the dedication habits become natural, gradually, the gratitude is gone, especially after the ex-husband's income has increased significantly, the pride and complacency in the ex-husband's heart are also unabashedly revealed.
In the end, like all bloody dramas, the ex-husband had an extramarital affair, and the other party pressed forward step by step, insisting that the man divorce and marry another.
15 years of marriage is not easy, not to mention that her daughter is in the critical period of the second year of junior high school, and Xiao Zeng also tried to save it, but in the end, this relationship still came to an end.
The home he had worked so hard to build collapsed overnight, and Xiao Zeng's vitality was greatly damaged, and he lost ten pounds in a month.
But life has to go on, life is still so long, and his daughter is still so young, it all needs Xiao Zeng to muster up the courage and play the spirit of 12 points.
So in the past three years, Xiao Zeng has worked hard while ** his own emotional injury, so as to divert his attention.
Life is like this, you will always lose the east corner and harvest the mulberry elm.
Xiao Zeng, who is not in a good relationship, has ushered in a bright period in her career, and now she has become a middle-level manager.
The psychological damage caused by the cheating and betrayal of her ex-husband has slowly been filled in because of the increase in self-confidence.
Making yourself financially independent and strong is a very effective way out of the harm of marriage.
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Put yourself first and put aside your dependence on your children
After suffering from marital changes, some women will unconsciously regard their children as their only spiritual support, and all behaviors in life revolve around their children.
For a mother, there is nothing wrong with loving her child, but the child will eventually grow up and will leave to fly alone, if the mother is overly dependent on the child, too much, it will limit the development of the child, limit the mother's own personality independence, and may even cause another tragedy.
After seeing her best friend's over-reliance on her children and eventually leading to family tragedy, Sister Sun consciously put the focus of her life on herself.
After the middle-aged divorce of the best friend, she has been dependent on her son, and her perennial dependence on her son has caused her best friend to have a strong possessive desire for her son. So after the son got married, he was always in the middle of the conflict between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and in the end, in the choice between his wife and his mother, his son's marriage broke down.
Sister Sun divorced after her son's college entrance examination, after the divorce, although she was in extreme mental pain, Sister Sun consciously faded out of her son's life, she would rather raise flowers and grass, exercise, and would not easily disturb her son. Gradually, the lives of both mother and son returned to normal, and Sister Sun and her son's girlfriend got along very well.
Today's Sister Sun has become a half-marathon enthusiast and has a group of friends who run marathons. And Sister Sun's son works smoothly, has a stable relationship, and has a sunny life.
For a middle-aged divorced woman, spiritual independence is often more important than financial independence. If a woman is unable to be mentally independent, even if she has a lot of property, it is difficult to really get out of the shadow of divorce.
Marriage is just a part of life for both men and women, and changes in marriage are just temporary deviations from life.
The more important thing in life is to make yourself happy and happy.
Stay financially and spiritually independent, and at all times, you will be happy and self-consistent. Betrayal of marriage