From ancient times to the present, people have always thought that conquering others is a very fulfilling thing. It is undeniable that those who can conquer others are usually the strong.
In fact, the biggest enemy in life is yourself. Only those who conquer themselves have the ability to conquer everything.
The greatest bravery of a person is not to defeat others, but to conquer himself.
The greatest misfortune in life is the lack of courage for trial and error.
Sometimes, trial and error is not a whim, but to give yourself a chance to broaden the breadth of your life in the process of trial and error, and find the most suitable path for yourself.
Those who dare to try and make mistakes will not miss more possibilities.
For some people born in the 70s, 80s, and even 90s, they have experienced the baptism of traditional culture. Most people who grow up in such an environment have formed a relatively fixed mindset. Due to the constraints and pressures of all aspects, they are more inclined to follow a mainstream standard lifestyle pattern.
And this generation has become middle-aged in this era. He is not only bound by traditional culture, but also inspired by novel ideas.
The elders around you have told you as people who have come over that getting married and having children is the way you must go in life.
However, there are thousands of different ways to live on the internet, and these interesting ways to live show you that there is not only one way to live life, and that everyone can live the way they want to be if you want to.
Travel bloggers let you know that people can travel while working; Life bloggers let you know that a person's solitary life can also be exciting; Learning bloggers let you know that learning can really change your destiny ......
Probably seeing the wonderful life of others, so, the heart began to struggle, and even ready to move. While being imprisoned by reality and thinking, he yearns for an interesting life.
However, in reality, most people lack the courage to change.
Change means trial and error. It means that your time and energy are occupied, it means that you need to pay the corresponding price, and it means that the final result is no result.
However, the reality is that some people shoulder the responsibilities of their families, some people are burdened with mortgages and car loans, and some people are facing the ...... of survival pressure
Work, family, financial expenses, etc., have overwhelmed people. For change, you can only stay in your own imagination.
Probably, everyone has experienced moments of powerlessness. Either limited by their own abilities, or subject to the obstacles of reality.
Some people choose to be content with the status quo, while others choose to seek a breakthrough.
However, in terms of human weaknesses, everyone is the same. When faced with pressure, you will be extremely anxious; In the event of negation, there will be doubts; In the face of the unknown, there will be fear.
The weakness of human nature is like a shadow, reflecting itself at all times. To be able to overcome these weaknesses is to overcome yourself.
From my own experience, I not only have to struggle with the outside world, such as the urging of my family to marry, doubts and denials, the different voices of the people around me, etc., but also have to fight with myself, such as the anxiety of age, the pressure of survival, and the fear of the unknown.
This is really a war without gunpowder.
In this war, you must be as firm as a warrior in your beliefs, never shaken by the outside world, never crushed by setbacks, and never enslaved by emotions.
These words are easy to say, but only you know the suffering you have suffered.
A person's cognition should not be limited to the good or bad of the present, but also need to predict the fate of the future in advance.
If anyone cannot change with the times, he will become a person who has been eliminated by the times, just like his parents' generation.
For myself, middle age is the true beginning of life.
Ideologically, I am no longer limited by anyone. Traditional ideas, parents' expectations, and outside voices no longer have any influence on me;
Financially, I have the ability to be independent. There is no need to rely on marriage, let alone anyone;
Spiritually, I was free. I learned to take the initiative to accept everything. Allow yourself to be yourself, and allow others to be others.
I know that the chances of trial and error will only become less and less in the future. Therefore, when people reach middle age, while they are not old, give themselves some opportunities for trial and error, and do what they want to do as much as possible.
No matter what the result is, at least it enriches the connotation of life and expands the width of life.
At the very least, you tell yourself: I didn't come in vain on this trip in life!
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I'm Yi Feiyu, a freelance writer who retreats to the countryside. Copywriter who has been drifting north for ten years. Focus on self-growth and accompany you to meet a better self.