Lou Shide, the famous prime minister of the Tang Dynasty, taught his younger brother to be an official The way is to tolerate people.
The younger brother said, "If someone spits in my face, I wipe it off." ”
Lou Shide said: "I think it's better to ignore it and let it dry." ”
In a person's life, everything is satisfactory to one out of a thousand, and it is not as good as expected.
The more you value, the more troubles you have, and the more you look down, the fewer troubles you have.
Ignore the trivialities of the world, pull out the weeds brought by those personnel, and only then can we plant flowers in the blessed field of the soul.
Ignore the villain and save energy
Mo Yan once talked about such a thing about himself in the essay "The Shame of Eating":
Once, he invited a friend to eat roast duck, and after a few people were full of wine and food, there was still a lot left on the table.
Mo Yan, who has always been thrifty, felt that it was a pity to waste it, so he continued to pick up the white cake wrapped in the crispy duck, and ate it with dipping his head in the sauce.
The friend who never wanted to come with him said half-jokingly and half-seriously
Look at Mo Yan, you have to eat his money back. ”
Others then chimed in: "If all the people of the country could eat like him, China would have been eaten by him into an old society in dire straits." ”
Mo Yan's face suddenly burned hotly, feeling aggrieved but embarrassed.
After hearing this, her mother suggested that Mo Yan eat something at home to cushion her stomach before eating.
Mo Yan thought that this method was feasible, and when he went to the banquet next time, he ate slowly, gently, and frugally, and was much more relaxed.
But when the man at the table saw this, he said,
Looking at his fake appearance, it seems that he can eat Jia Baoyu with only his front teeth. ”
Mo Yan was helpless, but he also understood from eating: no matter what he does, others can always find a suitable reason to be sarcastic.
He did not delve into it, but put these things into writing and told them to the world in a humorous and sarcastic tone.
No two leaves are exactly the same, and not all fish are in the same sea.
There is never a shortage of villains in life who slander and hurt others for no reason, and they will always project their misfortunes onto others and vent their anger on others.
The more you prove yourself, the more proud he becomes; The more you entangle, the more complacent he becomes.
In the end, it is your own energy that is wasted, and what you sacrifice is your own beauty.
As the saying goes: "The general has a sword, not a fly." ”
When encountering such a villain, the most competent way to deal with it is to ignore it.
It's not because your reasoning doesn't hold water, it's just that you can't overcome his essential narrow-mindedness.
Life is only 30,000 days, and people who don't matter are not worth wasting our energy.
Only by using the extra time to precipitate, using the excess energy to improve, and focusing on yourself, can you live a good life.
Ignore the bad things and stop the loss in time
Life and Death Fatigue" said:
"The world is like a book, page by page. People should look forward and avoid turning over old accounts of history. ”
It is rare for everything to go well in life, and regret is the norm.
In many cases, we can't control the direction and development of things, and we can only do our best to obey the destiny of God.
In the face of those bad results that cannot be achieved, entanglement is useless, and timely stop loss is the choice.
I once saw such a story:
A schoolboy went out to pick up goods and was accidentally bitten on the leg by a wild dog on the side of the road.
After returning to the store to treat the wound, the elementary school apprentice picked up a long stick and was about to go out to beat the dog in a rage.
The master grabbed him and asked, "Does your wound still hurt?" ”
The apprentice replied, "It doesn't hurt anymore." ”
The master asked again, "Since it doesn't hurt, then why do you want to beat the dog?" ”
The apprentice rolled up his sleeves: "It bit me, of course I want to give it some color and see!" ”
The master shook his head: "What if it bites you again?" ”
The junior apprentice was just about to say something cruel, but was interrupted by the master:
"It's not honorable to beat a dog, but it's bad luck to be bitten by a dog. ”
Poetry: "Life is easy to end in the morning, and the world is impermanent and bad." ”
Everyone will have an unbearable past, maybe some embarrassing and embarrassing experience, or a painful departure.
They will always come to your heart at some point, slowly boiling you and giving you a painful blow as you smack you repeatedly.
Reminiscing about those unworthy bad things is like the primary school apprentice in the story who turns back to beat the dog, and the gains outweigh the losses.
Books must be turned backwards to see new chapters, and people must move forward to have a new life.
All experiences are growth.
But the essence of growth lies in letting go calmly, and in having the courage to love life after going through hardships.
When you find yourself struggling to move forward because you are obsessed with bad things, remember to protect yourself, stop losses in time, and give yourself a chance to start a new life.
Don't care, don't care, enlarge the pattern
The Tao Te Ching says: "When the sergeant hears the Tao, he persuades him to do it; When the sergeant heard this, if he survived, he died; When the corporal heard this, he laughed. ”
The difference in a person's state of mind will lead to a different attitude towards all things.
People with a large pattern can tolerate the sand in their eyes and the scenery on the top of the mountain, and they will not be placed in their own square inches, and they will sink deep in the trivialities of life.
The Chronicles of the Three Kingdoms records that after Cao Cao defeated Yuan Shao in the Battle of Guandu, there were different internal voices and were not united.
While cleaning up the battlefield, Cao Cao found many unexpected letters.
Flipping through it, they are all words that collaborate with the enemy and plot chaos, some scold Cao Cao's method of governing the army, and some praise Yuan Shao's intention to switch camps and take refuge.
The henchmen on the side were out of breath, and suggested that Cao Cao take this opportunity to clean the interior to get rid of future troubles.
Just when everyone was terrified, Cao Cao went against the grain and ignored these letters.
He said: "At the moment, Yuan Shao is the strongest, you and I can't protect ourselves, and it is understandable that they will find another way out for themselves, so there is no need to pursue it." ”
When the person who fornicated with Yuan Shao heard this, he was immediately relieved in his heart, and felt Cao Cao's tolerance and generosity;
When those who had not yet joined heard this, they also tied themselves up, and Cao Junjun's heart was greatly boosted, and he became more united after that.
The ancients said: "If you can tolerate villains, you will become a gentleman." ”
Those who can achieve great things will calmly let go of the prejudices and grievances in their hearts; People who have a big picture will make necessary concessions and compromises.
The more tolerant a person is, the more he does not care about temporary gains and losses, the more he can gather people's hearts and win people's admiration.
People who have a world in their hearts will naturally not care about the troubles in that corner.
A person with a broad mind and a big pattern will not sink in the trivialities of the world, but will make everything available to himself.
If you don't care about it, you leave a way out for others, you are leaving a way out for yourself.
No Door" is written in the poem:
"There are flowers in spring, there are moons in autumn, cool breeze in summer, and snow in winter. If there is nothing to worry about, it is a good time in the world. ”
In life, you always have to experience some ups and downs, ups and downs, and you will always encounter some unsatisfactory people and unsatisfactory things.
If you don't take care of it, it doesn't mean that you can do nothing, or even that you have forgiven those people and things that have hurt you.
But you know that only by letting go of the past displeasure and dislike can you achieve your current good life.
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