During the Chinese New Year, I went to the supermarket and met my college classmate Zhou Qin unexpectedly, although I worked in the same city as her, but after I got married and had children, the number of times I met was only a handful, either she was busy or I was not available, and sometimes ** contact was also hung up in a hurry. Although there are class reunions, she rarely shows up, and over time, her classmates have become accustomed to it.
Zhou Qin got married after three years of work, her husband Fang Wei is from the countryside, and there are three brothers in the family, and he is the eldest.
When she got married, her parents were resolutely opposed, on the grounds that Fang Wei's family's economic conditions were too poor and the burden was too heavy!
Zhou Qin's parents work in the county, his father is a middle school teacher, and his mother is a doctor.
Zhou Qin and Fang Wei met at a school party. Zhou Qin's skin was white and beautiful, and he was generous, which left a deep impression on Fang Wei.
Since then, Fang Wei has been seen downstairs in the girls' dormitory every day.
At first, Zhou Qin hesitated, but".A good girl is afraid of being entangledFang Wei delivered food in the morning, picked up in the evening, and took good care of Zhou Qin, and it didn't take long for Zhou Qin to resist his sugar-coated cannonball and threw him into his arms.
At that time, Fang Wei was assigned after graduation, and Fang Wei was admitted to the graduate school of the school, and later stayed in the school to teach. Zhou Qin's parents used their connections to arrange her to work in the agency.
After three years of work, marriage was put on the agenda, and when Zhou Qin's parents learned that she had found a poor boy, they were furious and persuaded Zhou Qin to break up immediately.
Her father said: "Marriage is not only a matter of two people, but also two families. You have different life backgrounds and different values, and it is inevitable that there will be friction in your life in the future. Fang Wei himself is good, but he still has parents to support, and brothers to support, this requires long-term support, can you bear it? Life is not only poetry and distance, but also chicken feathers! ”
But at that time, Zhou Qin had lost his way in Fang Wei's gentle township, and he couldn't listen to his parents' advice at all.
Seeing that his daughter, who had always been well-behaved and obedient, was obsessed and insisted on going his own way, Zhou Qin's father was so angry that he fell ill.
But this is the case, and it can't stop Zhou Qin's determination to marry Fang Wei. Later, Zhou Qin's parents had to compromise, and they had no choice but to say "".The female university is not staying! Reluctantly agreed.
Fang Wei's family couldn't provide financial assistance, and Zhou Qin's parents couldn't bear their daughter's hardship, so they had to pay for a house.
After getting married, the two of them also lived a period of time when they were friends with each other, but the good times did not last long, and the sweet days were slowly broken by Fang Wei's family's continuous door-to-door relatives.
Today, the uncle's son will go to school and settle down in her house, tomorrow the aunt's cousin will come to work, and the day after tomorrow, the aunt's mother-in-law will go to the city to be hospitalized.
At the beginning, Zhou Qin greeted her with a smile, good food and good food, but she couldn't afford to be disturbed for a long time, and her energy was limited, she had to go to work, and when she went home, she had to gather a large family's meals, every day was like a war, her face quickly became haggard, and she couldn't help but feel resentful.
After living at home, Zhou Qin found that Fang Dawei's machismo was very serious, and he would go home from workGe You lay down", or with relatives".Kan DashanNever go into the kitchen.
Zhou Qin resisted and fought for it, but with little success.
She wanted to escape from such a life, but she didn't have the courage, this man was chosen by herself, so she could only endure it in silence.
The delicate flowers quickly withered.
Before getting married, Zhou Qin dressed up like a bright flower all day long, with a suit and skirt today and a professional dress tomorrow, clean and refreshing.
After getting married, he seemed to be a different person, no longer wearing makeup, and even the number of times he wore high heels decreased sharply, basically casual wear and flat shoes.
Because she doesn't have time to pamper herself, she either takes care of her sick mother-in-law in the hospital, accompanies her children to interest classes, or receives her husband's seven aunts and eight aunts at home, and she is as busy as a spinning top all day long.
Another reason is the lack of money.
When he first got married, Fang Wei's salary was handed over to Zhou Qin for safekeeping, and later his parents-in-law asked for money for two days and two days, the house had to be renovated, flowers and fertilizers had to be bought, water bills had to be paid, and money had to be paid ,......and so on, and before the end of each month, Fang Wei's salary bottomed out.
Zhou Qin was so annoyed that he simply returned his salary to Fang Wei and let him deal with his family's affairs by himself.
Zhou Qin only asked Fang Wei not to ask her for money.
Our classmates all know a little about Zhou Qin's life, but they can't help it, so they can only sigh!
When I met Zhou Qin this time, I found that she was very different from previous years this year. Wearing light makeup, ruddy complexion, fashionable hairstyle, and high heels, Zhou Qin, who used to be capable and foreign, is back.
In the teahouse on the street, Zhou Qin talked to me about her recent situation while sipping tea.
I got divorced this year.
I'm finally relaxed.
She smiled at me and said, "I should have divorced sooner, but it's not too late." ”
"If you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer in front of you. ”
She said she regretted not listening to her parents. Regardless of love, the days after marriage are jumping.
The last straw that pressed her through was the room fee.
The child is about to go to school, and in order to get into a good school, you need to buy a school district house. If you sell the house you bought when you got married, you can buy a 70-square-meter school district house with an additional 500,000 yuan.
After getting married, she cut back on food and clothing, saved some money, and after Fang Wei became an associate professor, she did some projects, and some income saved a total of 600,000 yuan.
When paying the money, he found that 600,000 yuan was missing, and under her questioning, Fang Wei said that he gave his brother the money to buy a house and pay a down payment.
After learning the truth, she stared at Fang Wei blankly and didn't say a word. Later, she resolutely divorced Fang Wei, and let Fang Wei keep her in every possible way, but she was unmoved.
She said to me in a categorical mannerIt's okay for me to suffer, but I won't let my child lose at the starting line!
She took the child back to her parents' house, and when she saw them, she cried loudly.
All her parents said was, "This will always be your home."
Later, her parents sold their old house and bought a large school district house in the provincial capital to live with her. She usually helps to pick up and drop off the children, and she feels a lot more relaxed.
Zhou Qin said that marriage must be checked by parents, and it is difficult to be happy in a marriage that parents do not approve, after all, parents have a certain amount of life experience and consider the problem more comprehensively, while young people only see the surface, but they can't see the mudflats ahead.
Ten years in the blink of an eye
How many decades are there in life?
I advise young friends to keep their eyes open when looking for a partner, and find a partner who is the right person and evenly matched, so that the marriage will last for a long time.
Friends, am I right?