Family Education After the final exam, smart parents talk to their children about grades like this

How do you talk to your child about grades after the final exams? How to conduct a "growth review" with your child?

In fact, after the results came out, the results were a foregone conclusion. Seeing the effort behind the child, it is more important than the score. At this time, what we need to do is to give children effective feedback and positive influence, so that they can continue to develop and grow in their future learning, and meet a better version of themselves.

Grades are not a "barometer" of the familyIt is more important to see the effort behind the child

There will be an assessment of learning knowledge, and there will naturally be a presentation of scores. Many children's emotions often fluctuate with good or bad grades, and the sun is shining when they do well in the exam; I didn't do well in the exam, and it rained continuously. In some families, the sun will shine at home when the child has good grades, and the wind and rain will shine on the contrary. Don't let your child's grades become a barometer for your family.

Before, I saw such a **:

At the dinner table, my mother asked about my brother and brother's test scores. My brother immediately said that he had excellent grades, and said that his classmates worked harder than him but were not as good as him. After listening to this, my mother said lightly: "You should work harder, this time you are excellent does not mean anything." ”

Immediately after that, my mother asked my brother again, and he looked at the report card in his hand and refused to take it out.

My brother snatched it, and after seeing the results, he said: "If you are going to be unlucky, your mother will definitely not let you go." "My brother couldn't wait to find a crack in the ground to get into.

When my mother saw my brother's report card, she was about to explode, but she suddenly remembered the scene of my brother's hard revision in the nights before the exam: even though he was very sleepy, he was still studying hard and did not give up easily.

Then, Mom's expression slowly changed, and she sandwiched a ball into her brother's bowl. Then, he put another one into his brother's bowl. Praise them all for being great and tell them, "As long as you work hard, there is nothing to regret, just keep up the good work." ”

The mother's smile and positive words let the child release the emotions that had been suppressed for a long time in his heart, and showed a bright smile and regained confidence.

There are some differences between people in the world. Some children have strong logical thinking, some children are good at writing, some children are naturally interested in art, some children can speak well, each child has their own unique talents, and of course there will be inevitable shortcomings.

If the child has done his best, it is easy for parents to put too much pressure on them if they are too demanding on their grades.

Under the premise of physical health and mental sunshine, we help children find suitable learning methods and guide them to strive for better results. Compared with growth, growth always comes first.

High scores are not "praised", and low scores are not "scolded".

Parents attach too much importance to their children's test scores, which will only bring huge psychological pressure to their children, and they are often anxious, and anxious parents will have anxious children. Only when parents first have a correct attitude and a correct view of their children's achievements, can the family atmosphere be harmonious and the children can face learning and growth in a peaceful state.

So, in the face of their children's grades, how should parents control their mentality? We must always grasp a principle, that is, do not "praise" high scores, and do not "scold" low scores.

If a child gets a high score, we are indeed overjoyed, but we should not give excessive praise and material rewards, and "praise" the child will only nourish the child's pride. In fact, we can take our children to the bookstore to buy a few books, and we can fulfill a reasonable request of our children, which can be used as a reward. Even if we do well in the exam this time, we need to conduct a "growth review" to help children analyze the gains and losses of the paper, summarize experience, move forward with victory, and lay a solid foundation for "going to the next level".

If the child does not perform well this time and gets a low score in the test, we should not blame them too much. When children do poorly on exams, they will only be more sad and need more comfort and encouragement from their parents.

At this time, we must see the progress of the child, although the results are important, but the child's progress cannot be ignored. For example, the child's total score this time has improved compared to the last time; I made a mistake last time I wrote a question, and I got it right this time, which is also progress; The better handwriting is also an improvement; Children take the initiative to reflect and actively communicate for help, which is a kind of progress. We need to praise our children's progress in a timely manner to help them build self-confidence and motivate them to keep working hard.

Frustration is not terrible, the fear is that children do not know how to deal with it, how to resolve their bad emotions. Parents should be good guides and teach their children how to copeTell your child that the occasional failure doesn't mean anything, don't give up on yourself, don't be self-defeating. Of course, we should not take this mistake lightly, but learn to sum up the lessons learned.

Then, we need to help children find the reason for not doing well in the exam, whether it is because they have not learned the basic knowledge well, the learning method is improper, the basic skills training is not enough, or they have encountered difficulties in life, they are unwell, or they are nervous and stage frightened.

After such communication, the child's attitude towards grades will not only be well adjusted, but also learn to correctly deal with successes and failures. This is a rare and valuable asset for children, and it will also be a good inspiration for their future life, and more importantly, the parent-child relationship will become more harmonious.

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