Introduction: My name is Lin Bing, 76 years old this year, with a pension of 7,000 yuan, and my wife passed away 5 years ago. At present, I am in good health and live in a 90-square-meter building.
From Lin Bing's narration, regret and chill.
I have two sons, the eldest son is called Wang Li, 50 years old this year, a laid-off worker in a machinery factory, and the eldest daughter-in-law is called Li Ni, 48 years old this year, a cotton mill worker, with a monthly salary of 4,000 yuan.
The youngest son's name is Wang Yu, 46 years old this year, is a physical education teacher in a primary school, and the youngest daughter-in-law is called Wu Li, 44 years old this year, is a primary school Chinese teacher, the two teach in the same school, the two have a total monthly income of more than 10,000 yuan, have a daughter, is in high school, and the conditions of the two are much better than the boss.
As a mother, I always feel that my eldest son's family is poor, so I privately help my eldest son's family every month, transfer 4,000 yuan to them every month, and keep 3,000 yuan for myself.
For the youngest son, I always feel that their family has no son, the salary is stable, and the family burden is light, so I haven't given them a penny every month.
In fact, I also have a sense of guilt in my heart, and for my children, I should have a bowl of water, so that it will be easy to solve the problem of providing for the elderly in the future.
But somehow, out of sympathy and love for his eldest son's family, he always favors him in the bottom of his heart.
Although I have never given money to my youngest son's family, my youngest son's family is still very filial to me, often buys me things, calls ** every day to ask about my situation, and cares for me.
However, the eldest son's family ignored me, and only greeted me twice in the days when they were making money, and never bought me anything, all under the pretext of being tight on hand, and I never cared.
In fact, I still longed for my eldest daughter-in-law to buy something in my heart, even if it was a few dollars, it was a little bit of heart and gratitude to me, but not once.
Once I went to my eldest son's house for the Chinese New Year, and when I left, my eldest son wanted me to bring a box of oranges, but my eldest daughter-in-law took it on the spot, saying: Mom bought it herself if she had a pension, and she bought what she didn't need, and she still had to worry about it.
After listening to her words, the eldest son casually put down the orange. I didn't take these little things in life seriously, and I thought that my eldest daughter-in-law was too good at living.
I thought that I was very good to the eldest family, and they would be very grateful in the future, and it would be no problem to serve the elderly, but I didn't know what happened next that caught me off guard and regretted it.
The sixth day of April this year was my birthday, and my youngest son's family paid for a table in the restaurant and bought me a birthday cake to celebrate my birthday.
My daughter-in-law also gave me a big red envelope, I was very happy at the time, I counted it, and there was a whole 5,000 yuan in it.
When the eldest son's family came, they didn't bring anything, but the grandson bought me a small square scarf and said that he wished my grandmother a long life and a happy birthday.
When my eldest daughter-in-law saw my red envelope, her eyes lit up, and her longing eyes made me understand something.
She also said sourly that it is still a good unit to earn a lot of money, and she can give her mother as much as she wants, and it is difficult for us like us to give it if we want to give it, and we can't afford to eat.
The eldest daughter-in-law can really cry poor, just the 4,000 yuan I give her every month, isn't their family hungry? But she has never been grateful for my efforts, and just blindly asks for it, which makes me particularly disgusted.
I only gave her the 4,000 yuan for my eldest son and grandson's love, and if it was the eldest daughter-in-law herself, I didn't want to give it.
Because the eldest son has no status at home because he is laid off, he earns little money, and he has to listen to the eldest daughter-in-law for everything, and he is a wreck at home.
Therefore, I helped the eldest son, thinking that he would not be bullied, and that he would be less angry with his eldest daughter-in-law.
But even so, the eldest son is not less angry at home, he works on the construction site, and now he can earn about 5,000 yuan a month, basically all of them are handed over, and he was scolded by the eldest daughter-in-law, saying that he has no ability and should suffer the life of sin.
After the birthday party, my eldest son came to my house and asked me directly to ask for the red envelope given to me by my younger daughter-in-law.
He said: Mom, now our family is very tight, can you give us the 5,000 yuan red envelope first, this is not your grandson, there is no tuition for school this year, can you lend it to us first, he is also about to graduate, and he will pay you back when he earns money after graduation.
I knew that if I didn't give it to him, I would have to be scolded by my eldest daughter-in-law when I got home, because I didn't need the money, so I gave it to him casually, anyway, for my grandson, and I was willing.
After giving him the red envelope, I felt very guilty in my heart, it was the birthday red envelope that my little daughter-in-law gave me, usually I privately gave the eldest daughter-in-law's family 4,000 yuan per month, and the younger daughter-in-law didn't give a penny, she gave me a red envelope of 5,000 yuan on her birthday, I was already very sorry, and then he gave me the red envelope to the eldest daughter-in-law, my heart is very uncomfortable.
I was in a trance, and I felt a little uncomfortable, I suddenly fainted when I went out to buy something, and was sent to the hospital by a neighbor, and it was a cerebral hemorrhage after an examination, and the doctor said that it was fortunate that it came in time, or I would have died.
On the second day of hospitalization, my condition worsened, and the cerebral hemorrhage caused me severe hemiplegia, and half of my body was unable to move.
After I was discharged from the hospital, because I was old and couldn't take care of myself, the two families took turns to live in the elderly.
I have high hopes for my eldest son's family, and I am sure that if I give so much to them, they will take good care of me.
But I didn't expect it to backfire, when it was my eldest son's turn, my eldest daughter-in-law lost her temper at me, beat me for everything, and scolded me for being useless, saying that if I didn't have a pension, I would just die.
And when it was my daughter-in-law's turn to live, my daughter-in-law was very good to me, helped me wipe my body, and kept comforting me, saying don't worry, it will be better to recover slowly.
My daughter-in-law also cooked me a lot of nutritious meals, saying that it would help my body to recover health, and I felt very guilty.
Conclusion: It was only at this time that I regretted that I should not have privately funded my eldest daughter-in-law, which nurtured her inertia and greed, and did not know how to be grateful, making her unreasonable and impersonal.
Parents should treat their children equally, and don't blindly favor a certain child.
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