My name is Li Ming, and I am 65 years old this year, and I have officially entered the ranks of the elderly. Before I retired, I worked in a state-owned enterprise, and my pension was 3,000 yuan a month, and my life was still passable. I have a son named Xiao Zhao, who is now 35 years old and works as a sales manager in a private company with a monthly salary of more than 10,000 yuan.
I have always had a good relationship with Xiao Zhao, and although he is busy with work, he will also take time to visit me every month, and sometimes bring his wife Xiao Li with him. My wife died early and I have always lived alone, but fortunately, my son will always care about me, so I don't feel lonely.
When I retired, I gave 2,500 yuan of my monthly pension to Xiao Zhao, so that he could use his daily life more abundantly. I can't spend that much money alone, it's enough to keep 500 yuan. Xiao Zhao refused at first, but I insisted on giving it to him, and finally he accepted it.
I called Xiao Zhao ** and asked him in a serious tone, "What's wrong with your mother's body?".Did she ask to come and live with you, and you agreed?”
Xiao Zhao was hesitant at the end of the **: "Dad, my mother is old, and you know her temperament, she feels bored every day." I saw that it was inconvenient for her to be alone, so I thought about taking her over and living with me, just so that we could take care of each other. ”
I said bluntly: "Xiao Zhao, you are also 35 years old, and your life has not yet been established, now take your mother over, how are you going to take care of her?"The pension is given to you, you are good, open a family of three.
Xiao Zhao still looked like he was hesitant, he said: "Dad, I know that you have always been prejudiced against my mother and think she is picky and mean. But this time she really had a physical problem, and I saw that she was very pitiful alone, so I took her over. You can understand it as the son's filial piety to his mother. ”
I sneered: "Filial piety?".What about your filial piety to me?I'll give you 2,500 yuan a month, and you will take your mother over to support the elderly, without considering my feelings. I only have 500 yuan left a month now, how can I have enough?You're good, you want to pick up your mother when you have money, but you forget about my old father!”
When Xiao Zhao heard me say this, his voice immediately became excited: "Dad, I have always been very filial to you, and I have never let you suffer." My mom won't take advantage of you when she comes, I'll take care of her, don't worry about it. ”
Won't take advantage of me?I was so angry that I gasped, "My 2,500 yuan was taken by you to support your mother, can I still not suffer?"From today onwards, I want to take back the 2,500 yuan, you can raise your mother by yourself!”
Dad!Xiao Zhao also raised his voice and said, "I've been holding your money for so many years, and now you suddenly want to take it back, how can I handle it?"Just be considerate of me, it's hard for me to do it. ”
Considerate of you?I'm the one who needs to be considerate!I said angrily, "I have worked hard all my life, and I could have enjoyed my old age after retirement, so it's better for you to take my money to support your mother, and you want me to be considerate of you?"I'm going to take back the 2,500 yuan today, and if you say another word, I won't recognize you as an unfilial son again!”
Xiao Zhao heard me say this, and his voice lowered: "Dad, calm down, let's talk slowly." I'll pay you back, don't be angry. ”
I snorted, "Still sensible?".My money, if you take a penny, I will get it back!From today onwards, I'm going to take it back, and you can do it yourself!”
After saying that, I hung up**. I couldn't calm down for a long time.
After a while, Xiao Zhao's wife, Xiao Li, called** and persuaded me softly: "Uncle, don't be angry with Xiao Zhao."
Xiao Li continued to persuade me in **: "Uncle, don't be like Xiao Zhao." His mother is indeed old and has some physical problems, so Xiao Zhao took her over out of filial piety to his mother. Just be considerate of his kindness, and we will take care of your mother and won't cause you trouble. ”
I sneered, "Good intentions?".He took my money to support his mother, and he wanted me to be grateful to DadeThe pension I worked so hard to accumulate was taken by him to support his wife, how will I live my old age?You young people took my money without any consideration for my feelings, and expected me to be considerate of you?”
Xiao Li couldn't persuade me, and his tone was a little anxious: "Uncle, Xiao Zhao is your son, you shouldn't worry about him like this." He wants his mother to live well, so you can understand him. I'll find a way to discuss this money with Xiao Zhao, but don't turn your face with him like this. ”
I said coldly: "Xiao Li, don't exonerate me from him. It's a fact that my money was taken by him to support his mother. As a son's unfilial old father, what reason do I have to be considerate of him?From today onwards, I'm going to get back the 2,500 yuan, so you can find a way to go by yourself!”
After saying that, I hung up**. My heart is like a knife, and I feel betrayed by my own son.
I was silent, still feeling very uncomfortable. After a while, I said, "Xiao Zhao, I gave birth to you and raised you, just to hope that you will live a good life." But you use my money to support your mother, and you don't consider my feelings at all, which makes it difficult for me to accept. You want me to forgive you, at least give me an explanation. ”
Xiao Zhao whispered, "Dad, you're right. I'm really sorry that I didn't handle this matter well and caused you so much trouble. I assure you that I will take good care of my mother in the future and will continue to be filial to you. I will give you a part of the money every month as before, and I will never leave you alone just because my mother is here.
I was silent for a while, but my heart relented. He's my flesh and blood after all, and I can't take it too seriously.
Well, since you're wrong, I'll give you another chance. As long as you do what you say, take good care of your mother, and don't delay your filial piety to me, I can not pursue this matter. ”
Thank you Dad!Xiao Zhao said excitedly, "I will definitely do it, I will give you living expenses every month in the future, and I will often come back to see you, and I will never forget you because I have a mother." I will prove my filial piety with my actions, you can rest assured. ”
I gave a soft "um" and said, "I'm sure you'll do it." As long as you don't forget my old father, I have nothing to say. You and Xiao Li have to take good care of your mother, she is old after all and needs someone to take care of her. ”
Xiao Zhao agreed repeatedly, saying that he would go all out. I won't say anything more, I just hope that he will do what he says and not let me down this tolerance.
Hung up**, I sat in the chair and was distracted. For a while, all kinds of complicated emotions came to my heart.
But after this incident, I also reflected on whether I had a problem with his education. I've always been prejudiced against his mom, and he will think about her first, maybe just to make it up to her. As a father, shouldn't I care more about what my children think, instead of asking them to do my own thing?
The lesson for me is that parents need to learn to empathize and understand their children's thoughts, rather than forcing them to care only about themselves. I decided to forgive Xiao Zhao this time, I believe that he will learn a lesson and will continue to be filial to me. Blood is thicker than water, and family affection still needs to be cultivated slowly.
After this incident, I will strengthen communication with Xiao Zhao and learn more about him and his fucking thoughts. He also said that he would continue to be filial to me, and I believe that he will not break his word. Family affection is the most precious, and I will continue to be a responsible father and slowly repair the relationship with him.